How We Became Swingers
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Posted:May 10, 2015 4:12 pm
Last Updated:Aug 18, 2015 11:49 am
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The majority of this post was written back in 2010 when we started our external blog. We get asked this question a lot and thought it worthy of its own post.
Swing Town
It all began with a little show that ran on CBS in the summer of 2008 called Swing Town. The show took place in the 70’s and focused on a couple who recently moved to a new part of town and to their shock found out that their very friendly neighbors were swingers. We fell in love with the show and was disappointed to see it cancelled after only one season. The couple that were swingers were in our view presented in a very positive light and this made us very interested in finding out more about the lifestyle.
Research
Our next stop was YouTube. We decided to do a search for swingers and found a handful of documentaries that the major networks have aired over the course of the last decade and while many of them had a bit of a negative slant we found them to be fairly informative. This led us to begin searching the internet for lifestyle resources.
Swing Life Style (SLS)
At this point we came across several lifestyle websites that recommended Swing Life Style (SLS) as an online service to us. We decided to create an account in the beginning of December of 2008. We weren’t planning on actually swinging but created the account out of curiosity. Within moments of creating the account a Single Guy that we knew sent us a message greeting us as new members to SLS. At this point we had no photos up and we weren’t sure what to do, but rather than be ashamed of our curiosity we decided to own it and told the Single Guy that he actually knew us.
Our Neighbor
Our Friendship with this Single Guy actually grew as a result of this exchange. He came to visit us several times to give us a crash course in Swinging 101, explaining to us all the types of activities that go on in the lifestyle, the different online services that exist, and also the different clubs and parties that took place in New York. His enthusiasm for the lifestyle made ours grow and we became even more curious than we were before.
First Swingers Party
About a week before New Year’s Eve we were informed that the vanilla party we were planning on attending was cancelled. This had left us with nothing to do and we did not want to do nothing for New Years. We received a message on SLS from a very nice couple from Staten Island who invited us to a New Year’s Eve Swingers Party. We decided to attend and we haven’t looked back since 
Where We Are Today
Many years later we are still swinging. We are strictly a full swap couple and each have slept with over a hundred members of the opposite sex. Those occurred during one on ones, threesomes (FMF and MFM), foursomes (MFMF), and orgies. We love the lifestyle party scene and try to go to an on-premise party at least once a month, even sometimes as much as three times a month. These parties take place in houses, apartments, hotels, and clubs. We have even dabbled in going to polyamorous play parties. We are likely one of the most active lifestyle couples in New York which can be seen by the amounts of certifications and validations shown on our profiles on the various lifestyle sites. We even have our own blog chronicling our adventures. Rest assured though we are likely one of the most safest couples you will ever come across. We regularly ask peoples STD status and when the last time they were tested before playing and we ourselves get tested every six months and have always received clean results after every test. We look forward to a future of continuing to enjoy the lifestyle and all it has to offer.
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Instructions for Single Men
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Posted:May 13, 2015 3:50 pm
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2020 7:32 pm
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These are instructions on specifically how to go about meeting us. This does not apply to all couples, but reading the below instructions and following them will likely benefit you with interactions with many couples involved in the swinger, hotwife, cuckold, and polyamorous lifestyles.
1 Read Our Profile.
2 Send a message, NOT an instant message.
3 In that first message include g-rated photos that include your face sans glasses or hats.
4 During your first message, DO NOT:
a. Discuss sexual activities.
b. Ask to play.
c. Ask to meet us for drinks.
5 Expect to exchange several messages and then ask for her KIK information and then continue the interaction using KIK.
6 You should be pursing the interactions. We are extremely busy and are easily distracted by attractive couples, single females, and the party scene. Not to mention we receive a significant amount of messages across several different lifestyle sites. It is easy for people to fall through the cracks, so if you don’t wish to fall through the cracks, keep the conversation going with us.
7 Expect that you will be speaking with us for a period of time prior to any possibility of meeting. Why? It is not because we are looking for a new best friend or to form a polyamorous triad/triangle. Rather it is because single men, while they like to think of themselves as part of the lifestyle, typically have no idea what the lifestyle is really about. Understand that single men are a dime a dozen. Not only that, really attractive single men are a dime a dozen. Based upon the laws of supply and demand, we can take our time and choose our sexual partners wisely and not settle for mediocrity. We want to avoid drama, stalkers, creeps, and asshole. We want to make sure that you are a sane, grounded guy that we can have fun with and who will understand the limitations of our interactions. We also want to make sure we are not going to waste a perfectly good Friday or Saturday night on you. There are only so many of them a year and as a group single men have a surprisingly high flake rate, which does not even take into account the possibility of not having chemistry in person. To do that we need to converse for a period of time to make sure that there are no red flags.
8 If you want to raise your chances of meeting us then invite us to a party. This party can be a lifestyle party, a poly play party, or even a vanilla party (we promise we won’t embarrass you). We just love parties. If it is a lifestyle party however, please note that if it is a gangbang party or one that overwhelmingly caters to single men, it is not our scene.
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The Importance of Testimonials/Certifications/Validations
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Posted:May 16, 2015 9:23 am
Last Updated:May 18, 2015 5:49 pm
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On each site they are called something different, but their purpose is the same. It allows one member to give a public review of another member that they have met.
For the remainder of this articles I will just use the term certifications.
We use certifications as a screening tool. We would prefer others to have met you and played with you and then taken the affirmative step to give you a certification telling all of the online service you are using how wonderful you are. The more of these certifications you have, the more at ease we are with meeting you because you have somehow convinced a large group of people that you are not an undesirable.
If someone tells us that they do not give or accept certifications, we look at it as a red flag. It may be a true statement, but we would rather pass on that person or couple. Typically people who say such things are either a fake profile or they want to be discreet. This is not a vanilla social media site we are connecting in. Everyone is on here for same or similar reasons. We don’t use full names and most of the time people block out face photos on the public albums. This isn’t a site where if you post a certification for someone your co-workers or family get a notification on the top of their screen. And certifications can be as simple as, “We met so and so and they were really cool and down to earth.” There is no need to describe every sexual act you may or may not have done.
The lack of certifications can also be an indication of a fake profile (a catfish, a married man, etc.). If the profile is more than a year old and there is no certifications then there is a very high likelihood that the profile is fake. If you are active in the lifestyle for a year, you should have met other couples or singles that could provide you with a certification during that time. This is also true if there is one certification attached and the profile that certified them also only has one certification.
No certifications on a particular site is not necessarily a red flag if the single or couple is on other sites as well. When someone messages us with no certifications, if there is initial attraction from their photos we may ask if they are on other sites. Personally we have the same screen name on several lifestyle sites. For instance, on Polyamory Date we have 1 testimonial, but on SLS we have 76 certifications, SDC we have 9 validations, and on Mofo we have 12.
We are frequently told by couples and singles that they have had a good number of experiences off of the site they are on. If you have no certifications and you tell us that, it is a red flag. If you had a good experience with someone, why did they not certify you? If you had multiple experiences with different couples or singles, how is it possible that not a one gave you a certification?
Certifications are extremely important. If you meet a single or couple you enjoyed spending time with you only befit them by giving them a certification and you only help yourself in asking for one, especially if you have none. Certifications make you stand out from the countless profiles that simply have none.
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Club Manor in Long Island, NY is Closing
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Posted:Sep 7, 2015 7:00 am
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2015 5:54 am
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Club Manor sent out a newsletter that states the following:
Swing Club Manor CLOSING in two weeks
From the desk of Cynthia & Ron,
On behalf of Cynthia and myself, we would like to express our gratitude for giving us the opportunity to have serve the Tri-State lifestyle community over the last 10 years. We have met and bonded with lots of wonderful people throughout the years and we are sad to say that exactly after 10 years from our grand opening, we will be celebrating our grand closing.
We need some time for family, traveling and good night sleeps (LO and operating the club where most of you frequented because Cynthia and I greeted you and treated you as friends prevents us from having that time we desperately need.
Please join us on Friday 11th. and Saturday 12th. of September as we say Bon Voyage to Club Manor.
"Bonjour" to "Club Manor on the Road" will start soon. Sign up on our website for the news letter so you don't miss out on the EVENTS ON THE ROAD. Do not worry our product is not going away, but going on the road.
With hugs & kisses to all of you,
Cynthia and Ron
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Swinger House Party Fail
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Posted:May 31, 2015 8:50 am
Last Updated:Jun 1, 2015 5:53 pm
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On Saturday, May 30, 2015 we went to a house party in Queens. This is the same party we went to for New Years Eve and blogged about under the title "New Years Eve House Party (Bringing in 2015 with a Bang)." We think the hosting couple is wonderful, but we just have to be honest in these blog posts, so sadly, we have to label this party as a fail. There were several reasons it was a fail, but we will just focus on the two most important ones. One is that there was a major hotel takeover party being thrown in New Jersey by Share Nation on the same night. Second, the hosts failed over invite. ALWAYS over invite for a lifestyle party. You get 20 couples confirmed? You will be lucky if 10 show up. It is extremely unlikely that every couple will show up, and if you do, you just have a larger party. For this party the hosts confirmed 11 couples.
Ultimately there were four of us that showed up and one bailed very early, probably because they felt insulted. The female was a vegan and to get an idea of the conversation that occurred:
Vegan: A vegan is someone who doesn't consume animal based products.
Non-Vegan: So if you swallow cum does that mean you really aren't a vegan?
Vegan: (Silence)
So you see, she probably wasn't a happy camper that her dietary habits were being questioned. So they left and that led to the dreaded three couple party. Another couple was supposed to arrive, but never did so at some point we went to go play. So it was the hosts, Brenda and John (of course not their real names), us, and another couple who we will call Stacey and Kevin. Kevin was better looking than Stacey, which is not typical of couples in the lifestyle. Normally it is the woman who is better looking than the man. She was a brunette, not thin, but not really overweight, attractive, but nothing to rave about. Reading that back sounds harsh, but that is what it was. So we all start getting undressed, Stacey and John head to a futon bed in the play area and Brenda and Kevin head over to an air mattress. Stacey started going down on John and I was finger her from behind when the futon tipped over and the metal frame landed right on the top of my foot. That hurt bad, lol. My girlfriend and I then went on another bed and was making out. Kevin left Brenda and asked if we could change things up. We thought that was odd, I mean, your wife is having sex with Brenda's husband, that means you go play with Brenda...that is what a full swap is lmao. I think it was a bit insulting to Brenda. From my perspective it was as if he was saying, I don't want to play with you, but instead I want to go play with her. If he wanted to swap with us he should have planned it out better with his wife before the playing started. That is what we do. So we declined his very nice offer and played with ourselves. I went down on my girlfriend until she came and then she went down on me. At some point both Stacey and John and Brenda and Kevin finished and then they were all hovering around our bed. That was slightly awkward. Stacey went to the bathroom and came back and my girlfriend and her began making out.
Stacey then laid my girlfriend onto the bed and went down on her. I began finger Stacey from behind. Her husband Kevin told me he wanted to see me fucker her while she ate at my girlfriend, which was really code for, I really want to fuck your girlfriend, please fuck my wife. So I obliged. I began fucking her doggy style and she did continue to eat out my girlfriend for a little while but then Kevin finally got to play with her as he clearly wanted to do from the beginning. As I'm fucking Stacey she is just really wet and I have this thought...is she on her period? Now you may think this as an odd thought, but there has been a few times in the past where I've played with girls that I thought were super wet and well...it was their period. It was dark in the room so I couldn't tell. I then move her into missionary and fuck her in that position until I come, which surprisingly is almost at the exact same time Kevin cums. I then excused myself to toss the condom into the garbage which was in a more well lit area and sure enough, blood all over me. Terrible. I cleaned myself up and when I come out my girlfriend tells me that Stacey wants her to go down on her. I told her absolutely not, she has her period. Meanwhile, how can she not know she has her period? There were bloody paper towels in the garbage when I went to toss my condom, so John definitely knew, because he had to clean himself off as well. Then Stacey went to the bathroom, so shouldn't she have realized it then before coming out to play with us? Playing with someone on their period raises the risk of potentially contracting something and just because someone was tested recently doesn't mean they haven't gotten something since. Very frustrating when things like that happen.
So that was pretty much it. My girlfriend and I cleaned ourselves up and we called our Uber to wisk us back to Long Island. Oh and one last note, they had absolutely no food, not even chips, pretzels, or anything. Parties do need some sort of finger foods...goes under party planning 101. Any party advise or printed book on the topic covers that. Alcohol + no food = bad combination and any party where you are going to be present for several hours, in this case five, you will get hungry and need something, especially vigorous sexual activity. So if I were to give advise to the hosts, it would be (1) Significantly over invite, and (2) Put out a bowl out of party mix please.
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The Mayor's Dix Hills Party - 2015 Review
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Posted:May 24, 2015 10:22 am
Last Updated:Sep 2, 2015 12:01 pm
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Every year I say we are done with the Mayor's parties, but a weekend always comes a long where there is nothing else going on, so we go. This party took place on May 23, 2015. This is a house party which also allows pre-screened single men to attend. We've decided that since we were now re-exploring that aspect of the lifestyle that even if we didn't meet an attractive couple there, we should be able to meet a quality single guy at the party. We took an Uber there as we won't drink and drive. Admission for couples is $50.00 and single men $70.00. As described in previous reviews, the Mayor has a nice size home with four bedrooms to play in on the main level and additional play space in the basement. There is a beautiful back yard with a large heated in ground pool and a hot tub. There is a spread of hot and cold food and it is bring your own booze. The party begins at 10 p.m. and concludes at approximately 3 a.m.
The couple that hosts the parties does not like their information being shared. The easiest way to find them is to simply go on Swing Lifestyle (SLS) and you will see their events listed in the hot date/events section when they have them. I am not aware if they are on any of the other sites, but I haven't seen their events listed anywhere else.
We arrived at 10 p.m. and there were several couples already there. I saw an attractive brunette in the living room when we first walked in. She was thin, tall, nice sized breasts, mid-forties. For the remainder of this post we will call her Alison. We began speaking with Alison and the group she was socializing with. Her husband, who we will call John, was a very nice guy, but my girlfriend was not attracted to him in any way. I figured that we would just continue speaking with them until an attractive couple walked in the door where there was attraction to both the male and female and we would eject from Alison and John. Then John said something that was music to my ears, that at parties, they don't feel the need to play in the same room, that they go and do their own thing. We chatted with them and others for maybe about an hour and a half. A single male, mid thirties, Hispanic, well dressed, approached my girlfriend and began flirting with her during this time, so she paired off with him and began dancing with him on the dance floor. I went into the kitchen with Alison and did a few shots and then she asked me to take her to one of the bedrooms. We played just the two of us for about thirty or so minutes. The usual routine, she went down on me, I went down on her, then we had sex, missionary, to girl on top, to missionary again and then I came. I really enjoyed playing with her. Aside from my girlfriend, she was the most attractive woman at the party and she was really sweet and fun.
We then headed back out to the living room for drinks to rehydrate. My girlfriend was really into the single guy she paired off with, who we will call David. She wanted to play with him while I watched, so we took him to one of the bedrooms. It was really a great experience watching them play. He was very well endowed and must have been equipped with a supersized energizer battery, because the stamina on this guy was insane. He fucked my girlfriend every which way and she was simply on cloud nine. At some point they needed a little break so we went back out to the living room and had drinks and some sandwiches and talked. Then we headed back to one of the bedrooms and had a threesome, both alternating between receiving oral and fucking my girlfriend. I have to say that this was probably the best experience we've had with a single guy. He was respectful, charming, understood what we were looking for, and really made the night for us. He even asked me permission if he could play with her before we even went to the bedroom. Which of course is in stark contrast to another guy who was waiting outside the bedroom door and asked me when I stepped out to use the bathroom if he could get a turn next. I'm sorry, but she isn't a ride at an amusement park where you get a turn.
While overall we had a great time, I must admit that no other attractive couples came into the party aside from one, which for some reason the male half just doesn't like us. Never understood why. But, they are a young and very attractive couple. Aside from that, the crowd was generally much older, forty to sixty, as opposed to our usual parties which cater to the twenty to forty crowd. There was also a disproportionate amount of larger women (BBW) that were in attendance. We have always found his parties hit or miss if you fall into the younger attractive couple category, but we have had success in the past at the parties so I suppose we will keep attending.
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Club Review: Colette in New Orleans, LA
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Posted:May 8, 2015 4:45 pm
Last Updated:May 26, 2015 4:28 am
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My girlfriend and I visited New Orleans in April 2015 for the French Quarter Festival which ran from April 7th to the 10th. During the visit we decided to look up couples on the various lifestyle sites as well as the clubs in the area. The club we settled on was Colette. We found this to be a wonderful club. We went on both Friday and Saturday night. Unlike many clubs they put the pricing right on their website. Both nights for couples are $60 plus a one night membership fee per visit of $20 for a total of $80. They have longer membership fees, but for our purposes just visiting we did the nightly memberships. Friday nights allow single men at $100 plus the $20 membership fee. Saturday nights are couples only. The club is open from 9 p.m. to 4 a.m. at 822 Gravier Street, New Orleans, LA 70112. This is very conveniently located blocks from the French Quarter. This is a byob (bring your own booze) venue, so you bring a bottle of liquor in, the bartender writes your name on it, and then will make whatever drink you like with it as the mixers are on them.
Club Setup
There is a door man outside the door on Gravier Street. Upon walking in there is a check in table to the right. You have to show a drivers license for each person attending the club and sign a membership form. They take payment using credit cards as well as cash. You then walk into a very large open room that consists of seating areas, a large oval bar, a dance floor, and a stage with a stripper pole. Upstairs there are private rooms with doors, there is a large open library room, a theater room playing porn, semi-private rooms where there are curtains, a voyeur room with a large round bed that people can see in and watch the action but the people engaging in the action cannot see out of and an "orgy" room where many different people can play on a very large mattress. There are men and women rooms on both floors. There is also an elevator, however it was not in service when we visited.
Quality of Attendees
With both nights there were a good number of those in attendance with the age range from the early twenties to over fifty. We more or less ignore the older couples and focus on those most visually appealing to us. Friday night was not nearly as crowded as Saturday night. The single men on Friday night were very respectful unlike the crowds typically found at the New York venues. We had messaged with several couples on Swing Life Style (SLS), Swingers Date Club (SDC), Kasidie, and Love Voodoo during the week to try to arrange plans to meet up. For Friday night we met at couple from SLS. He was in his late thirties and she was twenty four. She is an attractive brunette who runs a dance studio for a living and is in excellent shape. We hit it off right away with them and after about an hour of great conversation we took it to one of the semi-private rooms and had a wonderful full swap experience. We didn't leave the club until a little before 4 a.m. On Saturday night we met up with several different couples from SLS and Kasidie. The funny part was they all knew each other. They were all there to celebrate the birthday of someone. We chatted with all of them a bit and were definitely interested in one of the couples but in our periphery we kept seeing this really young attractive couple and decided to cold approach them. Both of them are twenty four and she was just gorgeous. Tall, thin, dirty blonde hair, and an adorable southern accent. They had never done a full swap before and it took them awhile and asking them several times if they wanted to go upstairs to play before they did. Once upstairs we switched off almost immediately. I went down on her until she came and then had sex with her until I came. My girlfriend came from the guy giving her oral. After I came I asked blondie if she could come again from oral and when she said yes I went back down on her. However, her boyfriend was having performance issues of some sort and started asking the her if she was okay. She kept saying she was, but he started to look really uncomfortable. I asked them if he would like us to stop playing and leave the room and he said yes. So we headed back downstairs. While downstairs he came over, apologized for ending play early, even though he was the only one that didn't cum, and blamed the stoppage on his girlfriend having too much to drink. It is always hard playing with newbie couples. You never know what kind of issues or challenges may come up. While they were really a wonderful couple and fun to be with, I feel that maybe they went into full swap a little too soon.
So overall, quality was very good. I did after all sleep with two beautiful twenty four year olds 
Overall Impression
Colette was one of the best lifestyle clubs we've been to. Every time we leave New York and visit a new club we are amazed at how the clubs in New York just don't compare. We definitely recommend checking it out if you visit New Orleans/the French Quarter.
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