Modern technology ......
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Posted:Oct 24, 2016 6:33 am
Last Updated:Nov 3, 2016 6:15 am
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has come a long way. We can remotely start our cars, monitor and control devices in our home when we are away, pay for things with just a pass of our hand, shop and have it delivered without ever leaving our home, and so much more.
But this hand print identification system has me a little confused
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Misconceptions ......
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Posted:Oct 17, 2016 5:29 pm
Last Updated:May 3, 2018 4:19 pm
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have a way of creeping into our minds from time to time. We don't intend it to happen but we are creatures of our environment and we sometimes form thoughts that might not exactly reflect reality.
A prime example is the coffee meets we have every second weekend here in my hometown for members of this gremlins infested site.
We have had people drive around our meeting spot, a local coffee shop, numerous times ...... and not come in,
[ok, maybe a slight exaggeration here]
or commit to coming and then not showing up. It is perfecting ok to change one's mind but after numerous invites, each time saying yes, the invite stop getting sent out.
Many have the same misgivings, thinking that people are going to coffee to hook up,
swap partners,
talk openly about sex and sex related topics,
to fucking on the tables,
when all it is is adults coming together [not cumming together] to meet, face to face, talk about mundane things [mostly, enjoy each others company with laughs and good conversation.
An opportunity to put faces to names and catch up with friends, and isn't making friends what it is all about? And if some friends become something more than just friends, congrats!
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Sleeping with ......
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Posted:Oct 10, 2016 10:41 am
Last Updated:Oct 19, 2016 6:44 am
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the cam on is one fun way to feed my exhibitionist tendencies, and other people’s voyeuristic ones, a win-win situation ….. for most at least. 
And every so often someone will say hi and a conversation starts. Conversations that start off with a demand tend to be quite short though lol
It’s a fun way to make a connection with someone, whether we are talking while I am on cam, or while they are [when IM works that is]. It comes down to talking as if you were in the same room, sitting across a table from them. That old common sense thing again.
And some things are better said in person after all …..
I have been asked if I am really asleep with my cam on – “when you are on cam when you are sleeping....how the heck do you manage not to show your face or front????? or are you really not sleeping???” – and the answer is I am definitely asleep and the cam is angled in such a way that unless I sit up in bed, my face won’t show. As for not rolling over, I have always been a stay in one spot sleeper. If I do roll over, it is because I am slightly awake and it is a conscious movement.
Now to find a partner in crime that thinks it would be fun to sleep with/beside me with the cam on. Spoon?
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When I ........
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Posted:Oct 7, 2016 9:51 am
Last Updated:Oct 10, 2016 4:07 pm
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first joined this site it was to satisfy the voyeuristic side of me. As many of you know, most men are visual creatures and I am no different. I was content to just view pics and vids and never really gave any thought to meeting people from the site. Then I started going in to the chat rooms, just to see what was being talked about at first [yes, I was a lurker!] and then, eventually, contributing a comment here and there, and being pleasantly surprised by the friendly response I received. As I got more comfortable, and got to know the personalities in the room, I started to contribute more and more, enjoying the give and take, and laughing at the way the women in the room would shoot down any guy that came in and acted like a chest beating Alpha male.
From chatting in our local room [Eastern Canada btw], it took me quite a while before I actually met anyone from the site face to face. I wasn’t nervous about it, more curious than anything, and I met them at our local Farmer’s Market on a Saturday in the Fall. It was someone I had chatted with in the chat room and that first meet led to other meetings with other people, and an invite to one of the local Polyamory Date parties.
I was unable to attend the first one I was invited to as I was out of town, but I did manage to get to the next one a handful of weeks later. I had been lucky enough to have talked to a few people about them so I had a good general idea of what to expect but still a vague idea of what was before me. Each person experiences things differently, as we all see things through our own filter so no two people will experience the exact same thing. I was nervous when I walked through the doors and more than a little overwhelmed when I was taken around and introduced to some of the people I had been chatting with in the chat rooms.
I had been told what to expect, and even though the advice was excellent, I was still taken off guard by all the hands that went right to my ass upon being introduced to the women from the chat. Yes, I know that that particular part of my anatomy is front and centre on my profile, more so now than then as I had only a few pics up then, but even though I was told it would happen, I thought they were kidding …… they weren’t lol.
Now, the hands were not all unwelcome, as I felt I had come to know some of them through chatting, but having 5 or 6 pairs of hands on me at the same time caught me a little off guard. And when one of the hands slid up and around to the front, I had no idea who belonged to it [they had spun me around to see if my ass was real]. I had been camming for a few months prior to the party but had only teased and shown hints of …… things  so they had an idea of my derriere but they wanted to see if it was as advertised, so to speak. I think the experience really woke the other part of me, the exhibitionist.
That party consisted of me trying my best to remember the names of those I had met …. And failing miserably. I really do suck at names, so now I try to remember a couple each time and grow the name base that way. On a side note, I went out with friends, and friends of theirs, last weekend and I managed to remember 6 names!!!! A new record!! Of course it helped that one of them shares a name with a family member and another shares a name with me, but still 6!!!!!
At each subsequent party, my name list slowly grew, and I got more and more comfortable mingling and meeting people. Still occasionally get taken around by a woman so other women can grab my ass, but the novelty is over [for them] for the most part. I still think some don’t know quite how to take me as I keep my hands to myself, unless I know I have permission to be otherwise, and appear to be quiet, until you get to know me. I have been called a gentleman, and I take it as a compliment, but I also know when it’s ok to be …….
The exhibitionist side of me is still going strong, either on my own cam …. and yes, sorry for being such a quiet, non-restless sleeper lol, or on cam with friends through their profile, where I can indulge myself more than my usually teasing self, where only a select few actually know it is me on cam. It’s nice to wake up and roll over to see a comment from a friend on IM, or from a new acquaintance, even if they were just checking to see if I was still breathing lol.
It has been a fun journey of exploration, and I am looking forward to continuing the journey, seeing where it takes me, as I have met a lot of great people so far and can only hope that continues.
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The challenges ........
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Posted:Sep 29, 2016 5:36 pm
Last Updated:May 3, 2018 4:15 pm
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of meeting a m/f couple when you are a single male are many. Now I’m not saying I am any kind of expert on the subject ….. far from it actually, but I have been prompted by a friend to share what I have experienced, so here goes.
First of all, I witness a lot of aggressive behavior by men in chat rooms, and in IMs, trying to Alpha Male their way to the front of the proverbial line, or attempting to give directions to a woman or couple on cam [like they are going to stop what they are doing to read chat lol]. In general, I don’t think the male of the couple appreciates being ignored, or basically shouted at since he knows what he is doing with his partner a whole lot better than anyone watching. While it does provide some comic relief, it doesn’t present them [the directors] in the best light, or as the male half of one couple who were on cam said, “what do you expect from someone who has lived in their mum’s basement for the last 10 years lol”.
I have been fortunate enough to have had a few couples invite me to join them [not giving out specific numbers as contrary to some opinions, you can be a gentlemen in this lifestyle, as least when it is appropriate to be one ], and in each case, they approached me, not me them. Now, have I missed opportunities for not being more forward? Entirely possible, but in the lifestyle, I think that the women have the determining vote, so if they don’t like you, it doesn’t matter how cool the guy thinks you are. I am always conscious of the male half of a couple when greeting the female half, and no matter how much I may be attracted to her, I respect him and her. Keep in mind that you cannot appear to be seen as a threat to the male half of the couple. Respect the couple, their relationship, and their rules, and be yourself. No use putting on an act as the woman will see right through it, and the man will resent you for trying to finagle your way into their bedroom.
Being approached by a couple is flattering, when done respectfully. Not the “want to meet us in our hotel room tonight” from total strangers, but a friendly message from people you have chatted with a bit, or a lot, asking if you would like to have supper/lunch with them to see if there is mutual attraction. It’s like a job interview, just with a much better benefit package lol. [A sense of humour helps btw ] Setting out some ground rules for the first meeting is important for all involved. For me, it’s ensuring that it will be a meet only, to see how things go, with no play occurring. Gives all involved a chance to digest the meet and go from there. Giving the couple time and space to discuss things is important, after all, they are the ones that are inviting you to join them. Saying this, if the couple you have talked with for a while is coming to town with the express purpose of meeting you and they state they would like to continue after supper if things go well, that is your decision. [duh!]
Whenever you meet the couple, engage both members in conversation, don’t just focus on one and exclude the other. This seems like common sense but as a lot of you know, common sense is quite uncommon these days. If you can’t carry on a conversation, odds are you won’t be what they are looking for. As I mentioned before, be yourself and relax, either they will like you or they won’t, that part is out of your control. Enjoy your time with them [unless you aren’t enjoying it that is], and at the end of meet, thank them and be honest when you say you would like to meet them again. Don’t say you would like to and then avoid them. Suck it up and say that you didn’t feel a connection and thank them for asking you. Saves a lot of effort down the road on their part if you are honest up front. I have met people that have said they look forward to seeing me again and then I never heard from them. Did it hurt my feelings, not too much, as that is out of my control, but did make me wonder why they said what they said. Maybe they had a bad experience with another single male and were making assumptions, or just didn’t find me a good fit, and either way, I don’t blame them for being who they are and for what they did.
I met another couple and had a great time with them. It even inspired a blog story. That was my one and only contact with them. Was I disappointed, a little, as they were very engaging and fun to be with, but I respect their decision. I still think they are a great couple. Sometimes couples drop off of the map, and you have to respect their decision as you don’t know what is going on in their lives. They don’t owe you an explanation [but it would be nice lol].
The best compliment I was paid was by the female half of a couple when she told me that she picked me because she knew that if anything went wrong I would remain calm and handle it properly. Turns out she was clairvoyant. And in case you were wondering, she told me that after things went wrong and we had smoothed things out, and I thanked her for it as telling when she did as being told that in advance would have put me a bit on edge, waiting for things to go wrong, which probably would have helped them go wrong. Smart woman! Now it did make sleeping in the same hotel room with them [separate beds] a wee bit uncomfortable that night, as we didn’t smooth things out until the next morning [timing of the issue called for a cooling off period], but I made two good friends out of it and I like to think that they feel the same about me, and when it comes down to it, making friends is what it should be about.
Now you might be wondering why I haven’t mentioned anything about sex yet. Well, sex is a big part of the equation, but that won’t happen if the preliminaries are not successful. Getting past them should include what the couple are looking for, and, more important, not looking for. Respecting [there’s that word again!] their wishes is a must, and thinking you can change their mind will get you out the door and on your way home in a flash. Remember that they are adding you to their equation, and that the woman should be the focus at all times, while respecting the man and his position in the mix.
If you are fortunate enough to be invited to play, let the male half of the couple take the lead with his partner, and then join in, focusing on a part of her that is not being played with by her partner [unless they ask otherwise]. Frequent check-ins with him, which can be as simple as looking up to see if he looks upset or annoyed with what you are doing, to asking if everything is ok work. If she doesn’t like what you are doing, you’ll find out fast! Remember, it’s not about you, it’s about her, them, and their experience. This might seem obvious, but it should be stated, let her know you are enjoying yourself, through words and actions, and remind him what a lucky guy he is. If you are doubly lucky enough to be invited to play again, hooray for you! I know I seem to be beating a dead with it, but respect them and don’t maul her, even if you want to. That’s his job lol. Let them/her make the first move when it comes time to play, remember what she likes, and enjoy learning what she likes. You never know, you may come across something he hasn’t found out about her and he’ll thank you for it, maybe not in words, but he will. Now by all means enjoy yourself, but never forget you are #3 on the depth chart in the threesome, and they chose you because they saw something in you that they wanted to add to what they have. And it should go without saying, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. If you are stupid enough to betray their trust, know that they will let people know and you can kiss any reputation you may have had goodbye. Don’t be one of the things they are adding to their sex life.
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Partners .....
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Posted:Sep 22, 2016 1:09 pm
Last Updated:Oct 3, 2016 11:40 am
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in crime can be a lot of fun don't you think?  Finding them is the challenge
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Where ......
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Posted:Sep 11, 2016 11:15 am
Last Updated:Aug 4, 2019 3:44 pm
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were you when the world stopped turning?
I was sleeping on my couch after working overnight and woke up to what I thought was a movie trailer. It didn't take long for me to realize it was real and I don't think I moved from that spot all day.
When I heard this song, it summed up all the emotions I felt that day.
Where were you when the world stopped turnin'
That September day?
Out in the yard with your wife and
Or workin' on some stage in L.A.?
Did you stand there in shock at the sight of that black smoke
Risin' against that blue sky?
Did you shout out in anger, in fear for your neighbor,
Or did you just sit down and cry?
Did you weep for the , they lost their dear loved ones,
Pray for the ones who don't know?
Did you rejoice for the people who walked from the rubble
And sob for the ones left below?
Did you burst out in pride for the red, white, and blue
And heroes who died just doin' what they do?
Did you look up to heaven for some kind of answer
And look at yourself and what really matters?
I'm just a singer of simple songs.
I'm not a real political man.
I watch CNN, but I'm not sure I can tell you
The diff'rence in Iraq and Iran.
But I know Jesus and I talk to God,
And I remember this from when I was young:
Faith, hope, and love are some good things He gave us
And the greatest is love.
Where were you when the world stopped turnin'
That September day?
Teachin' a class full of innocent
Or drivin' on some cold interstate?
Did you feel guilty 'cause you're a survivor?
In a crowded room did you feel alone?
Did you call up your mother and tell her you love her?
Did you dust off that Bible at home?
Did you open your eyes and hope it never happened,
Close your eyes and not go to sleep?
Did you notice the sunset for the first time in ages
And speak to some stranger on the street?
Did you lay down at night and think of tomorrow,
Go out and buy you a gun?
Did you turn off that violent old movie you're watchin'
And turn on ""I Love Lucy"" reruns?
Did you go to a church and hold hands with some stranger,
Stand in line to give your own blood?
Did you just stay home and cling tight to your fam'ly,
Thank God you had somebody to love?
I'm just a singer of simple songs.
I'm not a real political man.
I watch CNN, but I'm not sure I can tell you
The diff'rence in Iraq and Iran.
But I know Jesus and I talk to God,
And I remember this from when I was young:
Faith, hope, and love are some good things He gave us
And the greatest is love.
I'm just a singer of simple songs.
I'm not a real political man.
I watch CNN, but I'm not sure I can tell you
The diff'rence in Iraq and Iran.
But I know Jesus and I talk to God,
And I remember this from when I was young:
Faith, hope, and love are some good things He gave us
And the greatest is love.
And the greatest is love,
And the greatest is love.
Where were you when the world stopped turnin'
That September day?
Songwriters: Alan Jackson
He is right, that the greatest is love.
In memory of all those that lost their lives that day, and to all the first responders and rescue workers that have suffered and died trying to save lives and find bodies to provide some measure of comfort to families.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=fvj6zdWLUuk
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Restoring ......
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Posted:Sep 8, 2016 4:39 pm
Last Updated:Sep 12, 2016 7:49 am
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a little hope in the world. It warms the heart and makes my day to read a story like this. With all the negativity we constantly hear about the sad state of today's generation, someone did it right when it came to raising this young man. I hope this short article and vid moves you as much as it did me.
www.msn.com/en-us/sports/more-sports/a-cheerleader-gets-surprised/vi-AAiFwal
That he thought to do this for this young woman, and convince his whole team to support the gesture, is what true leaders are made of. Someone who does something to make a positive difference in someone else's life. Truly outstanding!
Thank you Polyamory Date for changing the shortcut to your website ........ one that we are already on FFS! 
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Posted:Aug 31, 2016 7:17 am
Last Updated:Sep 2, 2016 12:04 pm
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an article comes along that just makes you shake your head at the world. This morning was one of those days. If you have read my blog for a while, you'll know that I hold to old school manners in many ways, including holding the door for someone behind me. It's just good manners after all. Then I read this -
A 31-year-old man was shot and killed outside of a North Las Vegas McDonald’s, reportedly after getting into an argument with a woman for not holding open the door for her, KSNV reports.
According to the report, Mohammad Robinson got into an argument with a woman who was upset that the door to the McDonald’s was not being held open for her. The woman reportedly went and notified a man she was with about the incident, and that man pulled out a firearm and fatally wounded the 31-year-old father.
“It was a stupid reason honestly, irrelevant. It doesn’t make any sense why would you actually take someone’s life over not opening a door,” Robinson’s 14-year-old Miniya Sampson told the news station. “It’s horrible. I want my dad back and you took him away from me!”
Robinson’s best friend reportedly witnessed the shooting, Sampson said.
Police are looking for the suspect, the station notes, and are hoping that surveillance footage from the McDonald’s will give some leads.
She had no idea what he was thinking, or why he chose to not hold the door for her. Maybe he had held it for the last 4 people and he needed to go, or she was still a ways away from the door, or numerous other possibilities. Obviously she expected him to hold it for her, but to react the way she did, and obviously not stopping the man she was with, or staying to help, boggles the imagination. Condolences to his family and I hope they find the 2 suspects quickly.
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Bias .......
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Posted:Aug 29, 2016 8:43 am
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2016 4:39 pm
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is an inclination or outlook to present or hold a partial perspective, often accompanied by a refusal to consider the possible merits of alternative points of view., and to it, I would add, frequently false or patently untrue which can lead to conflict and abuse. As a sapiophile, I am attracted to smart women and sadly they are often put down for their smarts and opinions, by men and women.
Many men see a strong, intelligent, confident woman as a threat to them ...... what a bunch of morons!
I wished they realized that their comments reflect their character, or lack of.
You can learn a lot if you take the time to get to know her,
as she sees things from a different perspective, one removed from your own point of view [like unplugging that damn phone you don't use lol]
It's not weakness to acknowledge and appreciate traits that you admire, no matter who exhibits them.
So guys, if a woman says this to you,
instead of flying off the handle and calling her something rude.
But if you can't handle it
My semi-rant for the day
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Posted:Aug 27, 2016 6:00 am
Last Updated:Aug 29, 2016 6:56 am
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kilometers of driving yesterday, or approx. 580 miles for our southern neighbours. My annual trip up to where I was born. Funny how you don't appreciate the beauty of a place until you leave it and then return.
and no, that is not the object appears closer than it is mirror lol
Stopped at one of the many road work spots 
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and to Pepperstar for contributing a pic to this week's topic 
