New subject...old fashioned courting...an antiquated gesture?
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Posted:Dec 2, 2019 7:10 pm
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2019 12:22 pm
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. I was raised in sort of an old fashioned way(get the car door, pick someone up for a date, bring flowers, hold the door, pull the seat). I hear people say all the time they are old fashioned and they expect certain things.... Why do people equate talking on the phone with the old fashioned way of courting? I mean if it was taught to you or you grew up with it...how was it looked upon when a man picked up the phone and called a woman(an when he didn't) when there was nothing else available to do?...i.e. , email, ...
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Timely Response
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Posted:Nov 30, 2019 9:14 am
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2019 12:35 pm
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I know I'm just young and dumb... and I hope this generates some debate....I feel as though this whole ghosting thing has become a stigma where undue character judgements are doled out indiscriminately all men. I don't think women realize the issue of inequity this way of doing things has created for good men out there who really are trying do the right thing. Men have jobs and (even though I know someone is going criticize for using this one....here we go) , just like the single mothers out there do. Wouldn't the fact that someone isn't able talk all the time mean that they are handling their business? Isn't that an attribute many women are actually looking for in a partner?
I hope I am not too bold in saying, that OUR time here on earth is precious also. We don't have time for women we are pursuing to disappear for days on end either and we especially don't have 24hrs of free time to socialize whenever someone else deems they are now available. Before I go on notice I did say pursue, as in, acting in the traditional idea of what a man is supposed to do in regards to a relationship and continuously and consistently exerting extra effort and sacrificing time to show a woman he is the best candidate to form a relationship with.
Now don't get me wrong. If a man has no job to speak of and isn't taking care of someone, no matter the age, I would be the first to tell you to COMMUNICATE that he isn't meeting the minimal expectations you ladies have set forth for him. Call him out on that shit! If he is a good man and truly wants to please you, he's going to make concessions!
So, my final question, how do we, both men and ladies, figure out what a timely response is?
That's the rough and dirty version...maybe I'll post more on this in the future.
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