Is AFF a secret from everyone who knows you?  

DiscreteSlowRide 51M
114 posts
7/19/2021 1:31 pm
Is AFF a secret from everyone who knows you?

Is it common knowledge among your friends and family that you are on Polyamory Date?

OR

Is this your dirty little secret?

Regardless if you have an open marriage, open relationship, if you swing, swamp, cross dress, dress up, dress down, strip, hoo..whatever your purpose here is. Knowing this is the one place that all fetishes, all alt lifestyle pleasures are accepted and welcome. How open are you about your presence here?
Don't Tell Anyone I am on AFF
I am fairly open about it
I attempt to maintain discretion
Why? What have you heard about me???
No one would ever imagine I am on here.
I Don't Care Who Knows


lust4life59 62F  
1984 posts
7/19/2021 1:45 pm

I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.


Brownie202 64F
2374 posts
7/19/2021 2:39 pm

I haven't told anybody.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:11 pm:
The less people know, the less we have to explain.

justskin1 69M
12489 posts
7/19/2021 2:54 pm

Some people know and I am fairly picky who I let know. Then again, if someone finds out I wouldn't get upset. Besides, I have noted in my blog that if you recognize me from on here it is okay to say Hi justskin.

If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin."

I always behave. Preferably not well.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:02 pm:
There you go! You are owning your actions.

flannel_light 58F  
3438 posts
7/19/2021 2:58 pm

It's my little dirty secret.

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:01 pm:
I'm with you! This is my dirty secret for sure!

countryqueen1 71F
69 posts
7/19/2021 3:08 pm

Totally my secret, lol. No one who knows me knows this side of me


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:00 pm:
Same with me. No one would ever imagine I am on a site like this nor would they ever connect me with the experiences I wrote about.

shhhh

SecretAgent_BJ 73T
155 posts
7/19/2021 3:10 pm

Sometimes even Polyamory Date doesn't know I'm here.


BiSussi 60F
938 posts
7/19/2021 4:31 pm

Neither have I, couldn't afford it, office or family
Only by boyfriends and special girl friends know


I love pussies and adore nice dicks


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:10 pm:
I hear you there! Business wise could be a problem for me and family...ugh...don't get me started on family.

L0nelyH3ART 37F  
15 posts
7/19/2021 4:56 pm

I don’t tell people but I also have no problem with face pics in my profile - it just makes me laugh cause most men that want discretion only show their cock where as I noticed women who also seek discretion have no problem with a face pic. With that said I figure if someone recognizes me oh well their obviously on here too… lol


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 5:58 pm:
Very interesting points you make about the differences between men and women who prefer to be discrete. That could be a whole discussion.

nekkedcouple 60M/55F  
82 posts
7/19/2021 5:48 pm

We don't talk about it to our friends and family but we have been approached a few times by people who asked us "Excuse me, Are you nekkedcouple? from Polyamory Date?"


Wat2dowithme 101F
29 posts
7/19/2021 6:13 pm

It absolutely blows my mind how people try to hide. They claim it's due to work or privacy? If you're freaky and you want to get laid own up to it there's no reason for anybody be acting like a little BITCH about it. And seriously if someone you know sees your profile how would they explain that to anybody? Without looking like a dirty pervert themselves. Man up everybody 🤪


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/20/2021 9:39 am:
For better or for worse people will judge one's choices that fall outside of the norm.

Some of the people who have profiles here are some kind of public figure be it in their community such as teachers, in local government or business owners and so on.
As ideal as it is to say to the world... This is what I am into accept it or F off!!... Its simply not realistic.

Discretion is critical for such people. Not everyone is hiding from spouses and sig others.

author51 58F
118050 posts
7/19/2021 10:51 pm

I try to maintain discretion as I live in a small town and own a business. Having said that there are 3 of my closest friends along with a sister who knows I am on here..xoxo

One can never have enough JOY in their life.....xoxo

MAKE ME MOAN DAY THE SIGHS BETWEEN HER THIGHS


Deepnwide76 44M  
47 posts
7/20/2021 12:11 am

I want to tell people but they wouldn't get it maybe I get more dick who knows but it being my secret is such a turn on


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 7:31 am:
Fair point. A lot of people who would never come here would not get it. I hear you. It's best to keep it to yourself.

Way2sassy412 49F
1 post
7/20/2021 12:49 am

Only one friend knows and he’s on here also. Most would claim I’m too sweet. My sexuality has floored more than one person. I hide it well I guess


jajo696 66F
3663 posts
7/20/2021 1:35 am

    Quoting SecretAgent_BJ:
    Sometimes even Polyamory Date doesn't know I'm here.
lol....so true....the way they treat us ~


jajo696 66F
3663 posts
7/20/2021 1:40 am

I have strict boundaries between personal and professional....very strict. Once i retire, i may consider being more open here. Then i think about anything we post here is property of the site to do as they may and considering they have been hacked more times than once. Its still a slippery slope....and makes no sense in having pics out there randomly. We shall see ~~

I voted...." no one would ever imagine "


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 7:33 am:
I'm with you. It is best to keep boundaries between personal and business.

basehorbicpl4fun 50M/40F
12 posts
7/20/2021 6:19 am

i dont hide it at all. I love the fact that it is out there and everyone around me knows about it. It usually leads to a really good time with many more friends i find. Of course there are always exceptions but i say have fun while you can.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 11:48 am:
That has to be such a free feeling when being as open as you are opens the doors to broaden your reach in the swing community or within the groups who enjoy playing together.

rdy2try4 56F  
3281 posts
7/20/2021 7:21 am

I have been here for many years. I have always had a face photo. I do not hide that I am here at all! Why should I? I am not ashamed of myself nor what I am doing. I have said repeatedly I wish people did not have such a vision or view of this site that they need to hide they are here. I have seen men mostly say they would never marry anyone from here. WHY?? They are here too! Why is it that if you are on here you somehow are not worthy of being married? Why would you be ashamed of wanting to find someone that you can connect with enough to have sex with them? I wish with all my heart that people did not see this as a place that is dirty or you think the people on it are dirty and have a lack of respect for them be they male or female. It is an adult social network. Stop viewing it as an online whorehouse. I don't know anyone that truly wants to marry someone that won't have sex so why view looking for a partner, boy/girl friend, husband/wife, or just an encounter with someone you sexually are compatible with. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

I agree wholeheartedly to the ones that have posted that if someone sees you here THEY are here! You can't throw stones at someone that is doing what you yourself are doing. If you think someone will look down on you then maybe not have a dick pic or a vagina pic as your main pic??? Just a suggestion, but there is no reason to be ashamed to be on here. Wanting a healthy sex life with another person is good. If you put the view of this is an online whorehouse then that is on you, but you will find quickly that it is not.


luvstockings61 60M  
18 posts
7/20/2021 8:13 am

A couple of (non-Polyamory Date) friends know I am on here.


Atxfemchub 35M
8 posts
7/20/2021 9:30 am

My love of bwc's is a secret to everyone in the real world lol


LacieLu 37F
35 posts
7/20/2021 9:45 am

    Quoting lust4life59:
    I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

    But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.
Oh, please spill. What juicy site am i missing out on?


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/20/2021 9:56 am:
hahaha... That was my question as well

VinDude135 35M  
1 post
7/20/2021 8:56 pm

    Quoting lust4life59:
    I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

    But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.
What site is much much more sexually explicit than this one?


bfc696969 34M
26 posts
7/21/2021 12:26 am

i like to keep my sexlife private if youre in it youre in it, if not the fuck you until you fuck me


HoneyNutt69 52M  
34 posts
7/21/2021 3:00 am

absolutely, only my business to those I know.


1just4fun61 60M
339 posts
7/21/2021 6:55 am

What other site are you on?


fflkn4hotbabe 71M  
11 posts
7/21/2021 8:12 am

This site let's you be someone who can speak without someone judging me.


nwga1958 63M
13 posts
7/21/2021 12:30 pm

I have confided with several of my friends that I am on this site. I am very discrete about it but not ashamed of being here.


Strongandvirile4 56M
23 posts
7/21/2021 6:43 pm

Well people who I know on here know I am on it but for work purposes I try to maintain some discretion


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 6:57 pm:
Smart. More people seem more concerned about their jobs than friends knowing.

For_Real2170 55F  
1 post
7/21/2021 7:03 pm

It’s funny to me that some view being as “pushing the envelope” or taking a risk in some way. There’s an immaturity to so many of the users here and their way of presenting themselves and communicating.

I don’t think it was intended to be a place for men to post their dick pics and feel as though that’s their dirty little secret.

If used correctly, mature adults should be able to see each other’s faces, read thoughtful profiles, and connect accordingly.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/22/2021 6:41 am:
It's interesting point you make about immaturity one finds on here because as many good people I have found on here, there are so many who are very small minded. Hence they way men greet women in a first email to them. Such as ... wanna f#ck? I wrote a whole point about this a few days ago about how social rules fly out the window on here. 50 year old adults are reduced to teenagers, which I guess is typical for a social site.

Can you imagine if people knew how to act their age here??

dwz5234 68M  
1172 posts
7/22/2021 5:56 am

I really don't care who knows


tastemeY 55M  
102 posts
7/22/2021 7:43 am

A lot of friends know and a lot don't know. I've even had a co worker come up to me and tell me he and his girlfriend came across my profile. I beleive it's all about good clean, safe, sexual fun.


globugg48 60F
4 posts
7/22/2021 11:37 am

My friends would never understand so why share my little secret. I think its more fun like this.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/22/2021 7:43 pm:
I can completely relate to the friends scenario!

Wifepleaser994 26M
13 posts
7/22/2021 2:49 pm

The only reason I don’t show my face. I can send it privately but not out to everyone.


minnyguy218 41M
6 posts
7/23/2021 4:49 am

My job is fairly public, so discretion is a must for me.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/23/2021 6:20 am:
Understood! This is exactly the point I have made earlier in this post. There is often more at stake than just a marriage or taking a chance and showing ones face.

ShaKeaRxoox 21M
3 posts
7/23/2021 2:38 pm

    Quoting lust4life59:
    I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

    But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.
which site ?


ShaKeaRxoox 21M
3 posts
7/23/2021 2:41 pm

Of course, my family does not know, but there is no one in my friend group who does not know. 😅


landedinSC 53M
2 posts
7/23/2021 4:56 pm

Nobody I know would have a clue I am here or enjoy bisex every once in a while


Oh_Daddy_Yes 57M  
15 posts
7/23/2021 6:59 pm

While the community within the site is knowing and accepting, the community outside the site can be judgmental and detrimental with such knowledge. We live in the day and age of #MeToo which can end someone's career within a day. The threat from 'cancellation' can be misguided and unjustified, all based on misperception and judgement.

Is there one seeking the arms and comfort of an older man?


DiscreteSlowRide 51M
230 posts
7/23/2021 7:36 pm

    Quoting Oh_Daddy_Yes:
    While the community within the site is knowing and accepting, the community outside the site can be judgmental and detrimental with such knowledge. We live in the day and age of #MeToo which can end someone's career within a day. The threat from 'cancellation' can be misguided and unjustified, all based on misperception and judgement.
Agreed!


HornyBoy6969767 45M
69 posts
7/23/2021 9:41 pm

I am on here because I like fine lookin women. Everybody knows that anyways.


yesthefunofit 46F

7/24/2021 7:59 pm

Why such an angry, judgemental post? And coming from someone who can't post their real age? 101? Right. Everyone has their own reasons of why they do what they do. Don't judge.


DiscreteSlowRide 51M
230 posts
7/24/2021 8:07 pm

    Quoting yesthefunofit:
    Why such an angry, judgemental post? And coming from someone who can't post their real age? 101? Right. Everyone has their own reasons of why they do what they do. Don't judge.
Some people post comments to stir the pot a bit. Or her tone could have been heavy sarcasm.
Almost everyone else gets it.


APTman 44M
25 posts
7/24/2021 8:18 pm

looking for a more sexually explicit site...


Mainer04401388 41M
10 posts
7/25/2021 4:22 am

Secret.....shhhh be berry berry quiet.......hahaha hunting beaver


LoneRider440 50M
8 posts
7/25/2021 7:08 am

It's not something that comes up in everyday conversation, so it's nothing to just talk about in a vanilla setting. If and when I find people that are truly interested in the lifestyle and all it has to offer, I let them know.


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