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Sexless Marriage Good Evening my fellow playmates, I always wonder how many people on here are in a sexless marriage. Perhaps you are happily married otherwise but you just don't have sex with your partner for whatever reason. Sickness, age, lack of libido, incompatible, loss of desire for the other person... I too was once in a sexless marriage it was so lonely and frustrating. I eventually left but it was hard. Have you ever been in a sexless relationship?? If so how did you cope? Ella |
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I was in a sexless marriage and I left it only to find out she was having sex with her boss the last two years we were married. If you going to have your fun at least let me have mine.
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been in a sexless marriage for years now. I master bate a lot. i've met a few ladies from this sight I have a friend I met in a gentlemen bar we have hooked up she wonder to me and I to her. I still love her if she ever want it im here but she dont want to.
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I wasn't in a sexless marriage but was in a relationship with out sex and after awhile, I left. For me it's more of the touching, kissing and so forth that went with the sex that was missing. The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness. 
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I have not been in a sexless marriage. However, I was in a relationship where we got along so very well. We could talk for hours, we enjoyed being in each others company. The thing that was missing was a lack of physical attraction on my part for her. No matter how much I enjoyed being with her I knew we would only be friends. One of the hardest things I've done was when I ended things. What made it hard is know how much I hurt her but it was for the best. We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious
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6/14/2021 8:13 pm |
My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. Beat the cancer but she never wanted sex again. I still loved her as much as when I married her. 10 years later she died of cancer. Now I'm 71 and most women don't want an older man or those that do are gold diggers usually.
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6/14/2021 8:41 pm |
It is rough when your partner does initiate or try anything new.
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I have been in a sexless marriage for over 20 yrs. I have had a few affairs and been in a relationship with a much younger woman for 20 yrs. At my age sex is not like it once was, but what I can give she loves and keeps it only for me.
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You don't have to be alone to be lonely. It was like that with my wife. the last 5 yrs we were together, mostly health, but the distance started before that. She passed away 4yrs ago. The week before she died, she asked why I didn't touch her anymore, sadly I had to remind her she told me she didn't want me to. I've been in a relationship with me myself and I for quit sometime now.
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Sexless due to health reasons. So won’t leave as it’s not by choice. So dove into gym. Met a few here in similar straits and we help each other. MDonson Kiik Myonguy
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6/15/2021 12:59 am |
I am in one right now and on the verge of leaving. Tired of not being noticed. yes is hard but no more I want someone that desires me!!!!
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Fortunately I've never been in a sexless relationship; it's not a place I want to go! 
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6/15/2021 5:05 am |
This happens to nearly all of us on here. Usually why we come here. My wife and i wirk opposite shifts so any sex is few and far. I need more as i get older...maybe this site makes me want more.
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I was in what became a sexless, or nearly sexless ltr. We broke up a few years ago. If and when we had sex it was usually really good, but months on end with none. But when we did there was a hint of kink to it sometimes. So that was fun. My current relationship we have sex fairly regularly, but it is sorta boring and predictable. So I still feel as is I'm missing something. My ex would weaponize our past sex acts, If she was in a bitter mood she'd say remember when I did this to you and where..... My response would be I remember when WE DID THAT and it was your idea, yes. Not that she was ever ordered to do anything. So I'm gun shy now to ask to much for kink (which is very mild) in fear of having our fun together weaponized against me down the road.
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actualy i am in
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In one right now that just got worse! Sex with my wifey has been mostly off again for several years! Just because she doesnt care for it...much. ANd always the same ol boring thing when we did it Suffer from Chronic Kidney Disease (did not know what that was until Jan of this year). CKD has led to ED. Started with Viagra but found it caused blinding headaches. Tried Cialis then Levitra only to find out I am sensitive to it and causes sever joint pain! So no ED help for me! Night before last she told me she was happy we no longer had to worry about sex and she was relieved I would not go off and find someone else to have sex with because I cant get an erection! Seriously who would have any interest in an ol broken down man sigh life is just awful right now!
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After 2 children, My first wife was a "nun".....Nun in the morning and nun at night. When it got to about once every six weeks, I had had enough. We had become roommates instead of lovers. I did not want to live like that. Fairly amicable divorce followed. Second wife screwed my brains out until 4 months after we got married. She then turned it COMPLETELY OFF for a year. I left. 3rd wife was pretty sexual and playful.......she died of lung cancer. Current wife is a once every 3 days type and pretty vanilla but it is OK.
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I was in a sexless marriage. He was fine with it being a companionate deal; I wasn't. So I got a divorce. I don't intend to ever get married again. It's not my thing at all. But I would like to have a significant other again, just as long as we live separately.
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I was in a sexless marriage and I left it only to find out she was having sex with her boss the last two years we were married. If you going to have your fun at least let me have mine.
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Yes, it takes time and patience. You will know when the time is right. Sad that people have to waste precious time waiting on an oppurtunity. It is not fair.
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been in a sexless marriage for years now. I master bate a lot. i've met a few ladies from this sight I have a friend I met in a gentlemen bar we have hooked up she wonder to me and I to her. I still love her if she ever want it im here but she dont want to.
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I wasn't in a sexless marriage but was in a relationship with out sex and after awhile, I left. For me it's more of the touching, kissing and so forth that went with the sex that was missing.
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I have not been in a sexless marriage. However, I was in a relationship where we got along so very well. We could talk for hours, we enjoyed being in each others company. The thing that was missing was a lack of physical attraction on my part for her. No matter how much I enjoyed being with her I knew we would only be friends. One of the hardest things I've done was when I ended things. What made it hard is know how much I hurt her but it was for the best.
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My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. Beat the cancer but she never wanted sex again. I still loved her as much as when I married her. 10 years later she died of cancer. Now I'm 71 and most women don't want an older man or those that do are gold diggers usually.
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Sorry to hear that but glad you escaped.
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It is rough when your partner does initiate or try anything new.
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I have been in a sexless marriage for over 20 yrs. I have had a few affairs and been in a relationship with a much younger woman for 20 yrs. At my age sex is not like it once was, but what I can give she loves and keeps it only for me.
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You don't have to be alone to be lonely. It was like that with my wife. the last 5 yrs we were together, mostly health, but the distance started before that. She passed away 4yrs ago. The week before she died, she asked why I didn't touch her anymore, sadly I had to remind her she told me she didn't want me to. I've been in a relationship with me myself and I for quit sometime now.
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Sexless due to health reasons. So won’t leave as it’s not by choice. So dove into gym. Met a few here in similar straits and we help each other.
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I am in one right now and on the verge of leaving. Tired of not being noticed. yes is hard but no more I want someone that desires me!!!!
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I am in one right now and on the verge of leaving. Tired of not being noticed. yes is hard but no more I want someone that desires me!!!!
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Fortunately I've never been in a sexless relationship; it's not a place I want to go!
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You read my profile!!Fun TShirts Sometimes a Bad Thing Can be Good Friday Final Jeopardy Volume 2 [post 3312759] My Private Post - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets – Anything you write here is just between us 
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LOL Understood. Fantasy is great!!!!
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This happens to nearly all of us on here. Usually why we come here. My wife and i wirk opposite shifts so any sex is few and far. I need more as i get older...maybe this site makes me want more.
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I was in what became a sexless, or nearly sexless ltr. We broke up a few years ago. If and when we had sex it was usually really good, but months on end with none. But when we did there was a hint of kink to it sometimes. So that was fun. My current relationship we have sex fairly regularly, but it is sorta boring and predictable. So I still feel as is I'm missing something. My ex would weaponize our past sex acts, If she was in a bitter mood she'd say remember when I did this to you and where..... My response would be I remember when WE DID THAT and it was your idea, yes. Not that she was ever ordered to do anything. So I'm gun shy now to ask to much for kink (which is very mild) in fear of having our fun together weaponized against me down the road.
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Agreed people deserve better.
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actualy i am in
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In one right now that just got worse! Sex with my wifey has been mostly off again for several years! Just because she doesnt care for it...much. ANd always the same ol boring thing when we did it Suffer from Chronic Kidney Disease (did not know what that was until Jan of this year). CKD has led to ED. Started with Viagra but found it caused blinding headaches. Tried Cialis then Levitra only to find out I am sensitive to it and causes sever joint pain! So no ED help for me! Night before last she told me she was happy we no longer had to worry about sex and she was relieved I would not go off and find someone else to have sex with because I cant get an erection! Seriously who would have any interest in an ol broken down man sigh life is just awful right now! 
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After 2 children, My first wife was a "nun".....Nun in the morning and nun at night. When it got to about once every six weeks, I had had enough. We had become roommates instead of lovers. I did not want to live like that. Fairly amicable divorce followed. Second wife screwed my brains out until 4 months after we got married. She then turned it COMPLETELY OFF for a year. I left. 3rd wife was pretty sexual and playful.......she died of lung cancer. Current wife is a once every 3 days type and pretty vanilla but it is OK.
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I was in a sexless marriage. He was fine with it being a companionate deal; I wasn't. So I got a divorce. I don't intend to ever get married again. It's not my thing at all. But I would like to have a significant other again, just as long as we live separately.
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Masturbation and Porn were about the only things that kept me going.
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Well that is a bum thing to say. I wouldn't give up on the old mister yet. You need to do more research on ED there may be help out there. OR maybe you just need someone to help him along.
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I was in a sexless marriage. He was fine with it being a companionate deal; I wasn't. So I got a divorce. I don't intend to ever get married again. It's not my thing at all. But I would like to have a significant other again, just as long as we live separately. 
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6/16/2021 2:34 pm |
good question...i enjoyed reading all the comments/replies
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6/19/2021 2:34 am |
I agree being in a relationship with out affection is horrible. I currently am in a DB situation. And even when there was no effort on their part. After 4 years of getting annoyed I decided to come here. We shall see if it works
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Everyone's got their stories. All sad, but I won't boar you with my sad story. But yes, I was in a sexless marriage. After 6 years of no sex...I left. We were married for 9 years and I was so bitter. Worst 6 years of my life...Truly.
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in a sexless marriage for some time now. she has no libido or sex drive and doesn't enjoy sex. hope it will change soon.
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I was in a sexless marriage and I left it only to find out she was having sex with her boss the last two years we were married. If you going to have your fun at least let me have mine.
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6/27/2021 12:44 pm |
Benn that way for a long time!
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6/28/2021 6:59 am |
In one now. Not sure what to do but it's getting to me. Don't know how it got here but I'm in it and it sucks. Masturbating us good and all but I need some physical skin to skin touching and the warmth of another body. It is what it is
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I'm not in a completely sexless marriage, but it is certainly few and far between. Maybe it's busy schedules and long work days, then having to make dinner every night, that make us too tired for a romp at night during the week. But then something gets in the way of sex on the weekends as well and then another week has passed since we've had sex...and then another, and so on. But then when we eventually do have sex, it's great! It's just not often enough. Sigh.
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"Have you ever been in a sexless relationship?? If so how did you cope?" Yes I have been in a sexless marriage and it is truly frustrating. When the sex started slowing down I accepted it due to the fact that we had new born twins. But the time became longer and longer until it was only 4 times a year, and heaven help me if I was deployed on one of the chosen days. That day was lost, no make-up days. Having been deployed at times from 2 weeks to 9 months those stretches were bad enough, but I remained faithful. The sex stopped altogether after a few years of that. I guess after a while I just got use to no sex, that just pushed me to work longer hours. I would work till I was just too tired to care any longer. Too bad I was the only one being deprived. It wasn't till after I left that I found out the real reason the sex stopped.
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7/4/2021 6:47 am |
Yup, after my hand just got tired, I searched out for a FWB in the same position...took awhile but we clicked and live super similar home lives, best thing I ever did and we became great friends in general. Everyday was exciting again. Things have simmered down over the past year. Hard to find someone you click with but regret I didn't do it sooner!
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7/6/2021 5:39 am |
I lasted 10 years and finally had enough and the crap she did behind my back was amazing but sometimes you got to pull the trigger and get on with life
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Hi, I am in a sexless marriage and it sucks. I am staying for the children and that's it. I am hoping to have some fun now being on Polyamory Date, but it's hard...
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Sounds like a bad time
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I was in a sexless marriage and I left it only to find out she was having sex with her boss the last two years we were married. If you going to have your fun at least let me have mine.  Thank God you left, it would have been a waste of time to stay  What was it you could not provide at home, so she ended up with her boss??? Hope all is working just perfectly for you know I love pussies and adore nice dicks
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40+ years, more than half of which I have slept on the front porch couch. Now you couldn't get me back into her bedroom. Yes, it SUX! Communication/intimacy isn't there any more. I once cared by now I do not. Plus she has now retired and lays in bed watching movies and eating till she gets up to fix supper after which she sits in the chair and watches more stuff on her computer. I LOVE my kids and grandchildren. That is why I came back after a brief separation. They all more or less sided with her. So damned if I do, damned if I don't. Not everyone who is looking outside of their marriage is an asshole. Some of us just want someone to be with who wants to be with us.
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40+ years, more than half of which I have slept on the front porch couch. Now you couldn't get me back into her bedroom. Yes, it SUX! Communication/intimacy isn't there any more. I once cared by now I do not. Plus she has now retired and lays in bed watching movies and eating till she gets up to fix supper after which she sits in the chair and watches more stuff on her computer. I LOVE my kids and grandchildren. That is why I came back after a brief separation. They all more or less sided with her. So damned if I do, damned if I don't. Not everyone who is looking outside of their marriage is an asshole. Some of us just want someone to be with who wants to be with us. My dad was a skirt chaser from earliest childhood memories. My mother was both a social and physical reclusive. I don't ever remember hugs and kisses, not even when I got sick. Sex was initiated by my wife before the wedding but afterwards it was like pulling teeth. And then came all the health issues, learning she was on meds since 14 for manic depression. Then operation to remove things at 38. That was the beginning of a very quick end. I only remember one time in over 40 yrs of marriage actually having fun sex. Usually she just laid there or only wanted to be finger f*cked. I remember my dad crying on his death bed that all he wanted was to lay with a woman one more time. Little did I know that would be my cry as well.
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40+ years, more than half of which I have slept on the front porch couch. Now you couldn't get me back into her bedroom. Yes, it SUX! Communication/intimacy isn't there any more. I once cared by now I do not. Plus she has now retired and lays in bed watching movies and eating till she gets up to fix supper after which she sits in the chair and watches more stuff on her computer. I LOVE my kids and grandchildren. That is why I came back after a brief separation. They all more or less sided with her. So damned if I do, damned if I don't. Not everyone who is looking outside of their marriage is an asshole. Some of us just want someone to be with who wants to be with us. My dad was a skirt chaser from earliest childhood memories. My mother was both a social and physical reclusive. I don't ever remember hugs and kisses, not even when I got sick. Sex was initiated by my wife before the wedding but afterwards it was like pulling teeth. And then came all the health issues, learning she was on meds since 14 for manic depression. Then operation to remove things at 38. That was the beginning of a very quick end. I only remember one time in over 40 yrs of marriage actually having fun sex. Usually she just laid there or only wanted to be finger f*cked. I remember my dad crying on his death bed that all he wanted was to lay with a woman one more time. Little did I know that would be my cry as well. How can you only go on day for day without love? I love pussies and adore nice dicks
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Hi, I am still happily single. So far always nice friendships or affairs. No lies, no cheating, no injuries, and I can have fun with whoever I want and when I want. If sex wasn't fun anymore: goodbye, and have a good life! And no legacy sneaks with whom I have to live suspiciously. Feels good to me. Nachrichten an mich>> Privater Briefkasten Mailbox
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Masturbation and Porn were about the only things that kept me going.
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I agree being in a relationship with out affection is horrible. I currently am in a DB situation. And even when there was no effort on their part. After 4 years of getting annoyed I decided to come here. We shall see if it works
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Everyone's got their stories. All sad, but I won't boar you with my sad story. But yes, I was in a sexless marriage. After 6 years of no sex...I left. We were married for 9 years and I was so bitter. Worst 6 years of my life...Truly.
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in a sexless marriage for some time now. she has no libido or sex drive and doesn't enjoy sex. hope it will change soon.
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Oh yes so true,while married had to end up pleasuring myself as he said he was too tired,only after he retired early i found out why,could not compete with his many young PA's over the years but by time i found out i felt nothing for him by then
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Good for you. I hope you find happiness.
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Benn that way for a long time!
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In one now. Not sure what to do but it's getting to me. Don't know how it got here but I'm in it and it sucks. Masturbating us good and all but I need some physical skin to skin touching and the warmth of another body. It is what it is
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I'm not in a completely sexless marriage, but it is certainly few and far between. Maybe it's busy schedules and long work days, then having to make dinner every night, that make us too tired for a romp at night during the week. But then something gets in the way of sex on the weekends as well and then another week has passed since we've had sex...and then another, and so on. But then when we eventually do have sex, it's great! It's just not often enough. Sigh.
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"Have you ever been in a sexless relationship?? If so how did you cope?" Yes I have been in a sexless marriage and it is truly frustrating. When the sex started slowing down I accepted it due to the fact that we had new born twins. But the time became longer and longer until it was only 4 times a year, and heaven help me if I was deployed on one of the chosen days. That day was lost, no make-up days. Having been deployed at times from 2 weeks to 9 months those stretches were bad enough, but I remained faithful. The sex stopped altogether after a few years of that. I guess after a while I just got use to no sex, that just pushed me to work longer hours. I would work till I was just too tired to care any longer. Too bad I was the only one being deprived. It wasn't till after I left that I found out the real reason the sex stopped.
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Yup, after my hand just got tired, I searched out for a FWB in the same position...took awhile but we clicked and live super similar home lives, best thing I ever did and we became great friends in general. Everyday was exciting again. Things have simmered down over the past year. Hard to find someone you click with but regret I didn't do it sooner!
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I lasted 10 years and finally had enough and the crap she did behind my back was amazing but sometimes you got to pull the trigger and get on with life
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Hi, I am in a sexless marriage and it sucks. I am staying for the children and that's it. I am hoping to have some fun now being on Polyamory Date, but it's hard...
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Sounds like a bad time
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40+ years, more than half of which I have slept on the front porch couch. Now you couldn't get me back into her bedroom. Yes, it SUX! Communication/intimacy isn't there any more. I once cared by now I do not. Plus she has now retired and lays in bed watching movies and eating till she gets up to fix supper after which she sits in the chair and watches more stuff on her computer. I LOVE my kids and grandchildren. That is why I came back after a brief separation. They all more or less sided with her. So damned if I do, damned if I don't. Not everyone who is looking outside of their marriage is an asshole. Some of us just want someone to be with who wants to be with us. My dad was a skirt chaser from earliest childhood memories. My mother was both a social and physical reclusive. I don't ever remember hugs and kisses, not even when I got sick. Sex was initiated by my wife before the wedding but afterwards it was like pulling teeth. And then came all the health issues, learning she was on meds since 14 for manic depression. Then operation to remove things at 38. That was the beginning of a very quick end. I only remember one time in over 40 yrs of marriage actually having fun sex. Usually she just laid there or only wanted to be finger f*cked. I remember my dad crying on his death bed that all he wanted was to lay with a woman one more time. Little did I know that would be my cry as well.
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Hi, I am still happily single. So far always nice friendships or affairs. No lies, no cheating, no injuries, and I can have fun with whoever I want and when I want. If sex wasn't fun anymore: goodbye, and have a good life! And no legacy sneaks with whom I have to live suspiciously. Feels good to me.
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Agreed you need some p****!!! Hope you find it soon.
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Yes…..I’m kinda in a sexless marriage…..Our sex drives are just opposite…..We maybe have sex once a month, if that much. It is satisfying, but not enough for me. She says she likes the sex and I can make her cum often, but then….she never initiates it. Idk…..not enough for me. I currently have a sexmate. We meet once a week….sometimes more. It’s very convenient for me. She is single has her own place and is fine with our physical relationship. I feel bad deceiving my spouse, but I need the sex….I know sorry excuse. My sex buddy and I have a roleplay scenario and it works out great…She is my babygirl and I am her daddy. She will do anything for me….to make daddy happy. We never kiss…..I know weird….we just fuck and suck….it’s just damn good hot sex….and I feel lucky I have this special friend.
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Sometimes it is not even about being in a totally sex marriage but a one position only if ever marriage. I would also classify that as a sexless marriage if the other is not open to doing anything other than that. Masturbation would give you more enjoyment.
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7/13/2021 4:51 pm |
is beautiful your profile here i want u much baby
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9/1/2021 7:27 pm |
Hi ella, im new to all this But yes i have been and currently still in a sexless marriage now . And as some of the people commented it is just so frustrating and depressing being attached but still feeling so alone all the time . Unfortunately still enjoy sex and the kissing and physical contact of intimacy. Trying to cope by looking here although not sure should be, guess guilt and doubt setting in. Just hard to come to terms with how we can go from the person who should be the most important thing in thier spouses eyes to someone who now doesnt seem to even warrant a passing thought. Sorry for rambling everyone just so tired of no intimacy w=and just being alone.
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I would like to meet you for NSA sexual fun I am married with no sex I will be in Charleton tomorrow night
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