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Time to Meet
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Time to Meet The online dating requires a cutoff point where the rubber must meet the road. There is only so much chatting and texting that a man can handle. It is also often used as a tactic to avoid the inevitable. I am just looking to meet someone, in person, to try and date and establish a relationship. The only way I know how to do that is based on my past successes. History as my teacher. I know it works, I've done it. The key is finding the balance to go from Online to face to face. Online dating is more like an introduction or like filling out a job application but with photos added. It's just a means to an end because you cannot technically "Date" anyone on the other side of a computer or through your phone application. It is a way to introduce yourself. To interview for a chance to date someone and where your online resume is in a stack of a lot of other online resumes. Online dating is more about figuring out how to get your resume to the top of the stack and the hiring manager is the woman you want date but in the real world not the virtual one. It's about standing out from the other candidates and even then you have to prove your the best candidate and why she should date/hire you over everyone else. That's where the profile comes in and the dialog that happens afterward but that is the extent of it. At some point, the woman needs to decide yes or no and then it moves to the next phase which perhaps is a phone interview. If that goes well, the in-person interview. This is where the magic happens and the key piece of the puzzle that is missing from the equation. Very few people get hired over the phone. The phone interview is simply a prerequisite to the in-person interview which is the real official first date. The goal is that first date which can only happen in person. You can have the perfect resume (maybe you wrote it or paid someone to write it for you), you can ace the phone interview but it is the crucial face to face interview where the final decision is made. Even then, I use the term dating or first date loosely. Technically, your still in the interview phase because each party is still undecided. The interview can go either way. The point here, is this has to happen regardless. It might be uncomfortable or for some stressful but it's the only way to know if you get the job or you might decide you don't want the job. You will never know either way unless you show up. Committing to a date and time and simply showing up is half the battle. If you are jobless, interviewing for a job is a numbers game because stats have shown that most jobs you interview for the answer will be no. The way I look at this is for every no your one less no away from yes. The more interviews you go on and the more no's you get the closer you are to getting hired. The more first date interviews you go on the closer you are to a yes. The difference with this interview is most women seem less concerned with your qualifications. They are not looking at your resume they are looking at you and they are either attracted to you sexually) or not. According to all the<b> books </font></b>I've read, a women knows in the first 10 seconds whether or not she will sleep with you and if the answer is no you might as well just get that out of the way quickly as possible and keep interviewing knowing that every no is one more closer to yes. If not, you could be the most qualified candidate on the planet and it won't change the outcome. Men are no different. Attraction is an important factor initially. Attraction and chemistry tend to go hand in hand where both people are attracted to one another the greater the chance of an actual first date. Even then, we can still screw it up but the point is these things need to happen and there is no way to simulate this on the computer or your phone. Dating, for me, is dinner, a movie, a walk in the park, meeting for coffee or perhaps lunch. I had thought that the Online dating site might be a good way to make that initial introduction to find someone you might not have otherwise met. Particularly when you have a busy schedule such as myself. If you truly like what the person has to say, impressed with their profile, attracted in some way to the photos posted on their profile it would then seem that the next logical step is to meet in person. Otherwise, it just seems to become a never ending exchange of text messages or excuses. Anything to delay that inevitable real world scenario that requires two people meet and either lightning strikes or you simply part as friends. The point is to try because the only other option is a relationship with your computer or phone - whichever you use to communicate. Have you ever stopped to noticed, taken your eyes off your phone, that everyone is looking at their phone not each other? People sitting at the same table are disengaged completely as if they are under some type of spell binding them to stare at their phone to infinity. How is this any different than Online dating? Staring at the phone or computer, swiping left or right, unaware of anything happening around you and all for the chance that someone might respond to that virtual representation of you we call a profile. We are disengaged to our surroundings and my point is that needs to change or you will never move beyond a cyber conversation to having a real date. I'm actively reviewing opportunities so if your seeking a relationship and looking for someone to take you off the market for good feel free to send me your requirements and if it aligns with what I'm looking for I'll be submitting my resume and proposed solution and I'm not here to play games. I'm actively looking for a place I can hang my hat and call home and hopefully retire one day. If this sounds good to you and you feel that I have what it takes after reviewing my profile don't hesitate to let me know I'm the man for the job. All I ask is that you understand that I'm committed to finding you and changing both of our lives forever but for that to happen we have to meet and if that's not an option it simply doesn't make sense to me and please pass me by. If your your profile and pictures are real and you have an open position that needs to be filled I might be interested but we have to meet. There are a lot of things that must first align before I can commit. But once I commit, I'm all in and can assure you I'm the best man for the job. |
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