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Advice for All (Addendum to Ladies)
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Advice for All (Addendum to Ladies) I feel the need to reach o*t [WTF? Why is O-U-T not allowed?] to everyone on this site as well, but although it pretty much applies to all, I especially would like to advise ladies in order to avoid or least minimise unwanted contacts -- since they get the most. Given [EYE-EM] and communication on this site is [hopefully I will save Polyamory Date deleting my comment], users should: 1) FILL IN YOUR PROFILES - Be as specific as you can; although 'attraction' is relative -- one person's 'lightly salted' is another's brine -- rule O-U-T/in whatever you can, including sexual preferences, body hair, age range, proportions... whatever. Personally, I hesitate to dismiss (almost) anything, since I AM [WTF, Polyamory Date? I AM not referring to EYE-EM here!] trying to be open-minded and broaden my interests. Plus, putting down a cut-off age, for example, of a certain A-G-E is, well, just a N-U-M-B-E-R; you may miss someone very compatible even one Y-E-A-R outside your 'preference'. And lots of people L-O-O-K/act Y-O-U-N-G-E-R/older than their chronological age. Similarly, body hair is transient... But to each their own.  2) BE CONSISTENT - I don't know how many profiles I've seen T-H-A-T say different or confusing things between "Interested in", "Status", and "Profile". For Example "Men, Women...", and elsewhere they rule O-U-T men, or say something like, "Seeking compatible couples", or Gender et al. are Xed -- or not -- on the Compatibility Chart. 3) ANSWER MESSAGES -- One more time, unless a clear violation of your conditions -- but see above -- since contact is spotty even among friends, not answering may very well signal only T-H-A-T you may not have received it; so can you blame someone for trying again and again? A polite "not interested" goes a long way, instead of nothing... nothing... nothing... and then suddenly "stop messaging me". 4) EXPECT A MESSAGE IF YOU REPEATEDLY CHECK ME AND DON'T MSG - What am I supposed to think? SOAPBOX: I think it's unreasonable to be annoyed at 'unwanted' contact if one has failed to do these simple things. Thanx for reading!  J I'm not sure that you understand what you thought I said, but I think you'll agree that what I understood you to say is not what I think. |
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I can't get that damn IM to work …
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I can't get that damn IM to work … Thanx for reading & commenting! J I'm not sure that you understand what you thought I said, but I think you'll agree that what I understood you to say is not what I think.
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Hi, 2saltie2! As I mentioned previously, the obtuse/rude/ignorant deserve to be blocked and ignored. As for 'no answer' being an answer, well, that's kinda my point: Even if you specify that, how is one to know if it's a glitch or 'Go away!'? I'm just trying to help you all sort us honest horny bastards from the idjits. (See, the way I figure it, us honest horny bastards will have a better chance.) Thanx for the return visit & comment! J I'm not sure that you understand what you thought I said, but I think you'll agree that what I understood you to say is not what I think.
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My profile is filled out, complete and is rather specific about a number of things. Can you help those that read it to comprehend it? I would really appreciate it! My point being "I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you". Even though someone fills out a profile, it doesn't guarantee that someone will read it...or understand it. Even if they do both of those, they may assume it doesn't pertain to THEM! People are going to do what they want to do, regardless of the information they are given. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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My profile is filled out, complete and is rather specific about a number of things. Can you help those that read it to comprehend it? I would really appreciate it! My point being "I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you". Even though someone fills out a profile, it doesn't guarantee that someone will read it...or understand it. Even if they do both of those, they may assume it doesn't pertain to THEM! People are going to do what they want to do, regardless of the information they are given. Sorry... can't help you with the myriad a$$holes, idjits, miscreants, illiterates, and scammers, who will be deliberately ignorant regardless. Unfortunately, in order to make things interesting for the rest of us, the world must be populated with a certain number of the aforementioned. It would be so dull without them, no? I mean, what would we write about? I suppose there's always Trum---naww... never mind (see above). My post(s) is intended for others, very much UNLIKE yourself, who leave too much too guesswork, IMO. I think doing so opens one up to a lot of unwanted attention that they might otherwise avoid from respectful people on here. Furthermore, I don't care for 'misunderstandings' being taken out on me, when I'm trying my best to be respectful. Thanx for reading & commenting! J P.S. I wish I were closer to OK, or it/you were a little closer to me! I'm not sure that you understand what you thought I said, but I think you'll agree that what I understood you to say is not what I think.
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This is the second blog I've read where someone has forgotten the fundamental operating principle exclusive only to women. "We can have sex anytime we want .As much as we want and in most cases with anyone we want!" A lot of people may call this a hookup site or sex site.Which is a bit of a stretch. Perhaps a sex oriented forums page with imaginative fantasies,romantic notions,suggestive pornagraphic images and even stick diagrams indicating motion.Fueled by profiles that run the gamut of unrealistic expectations to highly creative ostentatious ego driven personal boasts! Given women advice and pointers is kind of like a convicted embezzler asking a homeless person why they don't steal! Using more than all the road!
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It's not true that women can have sex any time they want. I wish men would stop claiming that. It seems they think women should have no standards, but if a woman applies her reasonable standards*, then no, she cannot have sex any time she wants. * Not gonna get into the specifics; this comment is long enough. A woman having a couple of dealbreakers and a couple of preferences is *not* a "laundry list."
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