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one night stand twist
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one night stand twist night stands have a pretty terrible reputation. You imagine the stumbling awkwardness of strangers coming together after a long night of appletini’s and shared misery. The sex is “meh” at best and leaves both parties feeling disappointed at best, and downright shitty at worst. But I don’t think it has to be this way. I have over the past few months started to open myself up to the possibility that good sex, or a good connection can happen between people who don’t necessarily intend on spending the rest of their lives together. As we get older, we tend to reserve our best moves and most intimate feelings exclusively for people who we are in a relationship with. This sounds great in theory, but in practice it means we can go for months without connecting sexually to some. That sucks! It also makes finding a partner more and more of a lifelong mission and we slip into the “destiny mentality” that there is our love out there, our Soulmate… which as you know, is bullshit. Instead of rushing from relationship to mediocre relationship in order to connect sexually and intimately with some, it feels absolutely mindblowing to create that connection with some who you have no intentions of moving in with or having babies with. A person who treats you with respect and love and kindness can do so for the rest of your life, or for the rest of the afternoon. Either way, it’s important to invite these people into your life and make the most of the time you have together. Sounds idyllic, right? But how exactly do you connect with some and also let them go at the end of the day? That feels counterintuitive (but it really isn’t). The practice of inviting love, intimacy and a super-hot lover into your life, and then loving that person completely as you let them go on their way. This creates a constant flow of love in your life. And it feels freaking amazing. You breathe love, you move in love, and people can feel that shit! This means when you meet some who you DO want to spend the rest of your week, year, or life with, you are already in a place where it is easy for you to love. You don’t have to remember how it feels, or get out of your selfish lifestyle in order to<b> drag </font></b>yourself back to a place where you can show love. Instead, you’re living in the love already! It’s so easy to invite some into that amazing space. But intimacy isn’t something you think about or talk about – it’s something you do. And instead of spending a year going through a self-inflicted dry spell, consider practicing intimacy, Night Stand at a time. Ok, now for the logistics: Because this all sounds pretty fluffy and amazing, but reality is a little harder to wrap your brain around. Here are a few of the things I do to make sure the intimate Night Stand works for me, my partner and my life. Your thoughts |
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