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Navigating Rough Waters
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Navigating Rough Waters While overall I do try to maintain positive attitude, I also try and balance that with a sense of realism and so now feels like a good time to write a post with less of an idealistic flavor and more of a everyday kind of feel. In lamenting with my male friends and chat<b> buddies </font></b>who are also attempting this thing called online dating, it is becoming very apparent that there are many myths in the male community about how women have it so much easier because of the great difference in numbers of men vs. women on these and other dating sites. While the numbers don't lie, more needs to be considered before claiming women have it easier. Being tremendously outnumbered makes it different but certainly doesn't give us much of an edge, it just gives us more work. Hold on there, hear me out. I've had men with little impulse control send me a series of nasty messages because I didn't respond to the first within 10 minutes, not to mention all the other nasty messages that end up in my mailbox from trolls and the like. Then there are the men who don't even live in the same state or others who don't or can't read your profile so you're starting from scratch. And then the levels of deception on dating sites surprised even me and I am no dummy. I'm not talking about multiple profiles here....I'm talking about multiple personal profiles (names, professions etc). I could go on and on but I won't bore you. I have particularly good man friend that I met online who I enjoy lively banter with discussing the perils of online dating. We share many common interests but when we met we discovered that there wasn't any chemistry so we decided to keep it platonic and uncomplicated. He is my sarcastic sexist match and we discuss everything from religion to politics. He uses a different site for dating but we compare notes and offer support regularly...even if it's to remind each other that we're still sexy after being ghosted or dumped. We should all have that friend  So yes, women probably receive many more actual messages than men but at the end of the day it equates to the same number of leads so the playing field is more level than you might think.  Lady J  |
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Nice post, thanks for sharing
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1/4/2018 3:13 pm |
Like it! thx for sharing
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You don't mention utilizing the tools this site has to filter some of the men who don't suit your needs. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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men are ignorant immature pigs . simple as that and 1/2 of them are in the bottom half to begin with .... and those guys are just the ladies the" type" so she ignores all the great guys who are not her fantasy sterotype "type " lol
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Thank you. That is a well considered perspective. Quantity does not always ensure an increase is quality. Prof10001 Swing by my blog!
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Jem, I really appreciate your honesty and sharing how it is for dating after 30, that made me laugh. I would like to give you a counterpoint to your post, some of it sassy, but some of it real. I have been on this site for many years, and I paid for a gold membership for a while, and dropped to a silver for a while, then after seeing the multiple profiles, trolls, bots, and actually meeting a few rude people, I am now a standard member. This is why when chatting with someone on the messenger I ask about them and what they are looking for, but I do speak/chat with them like I was standing in front of them saying the actual words. I believe the women are outnumbered about 100 to 1 on this site. As you stated you get nasty emails, you are trolled, and called names--the flipside is how does someone who knows how to talk to someone get past this stigma? The people that do know how to chat and be respectful have to hope and pray their instant message or email will be replied to. The endless attempts at trying to find a real person, or someone to actually talk to on here is why I use this site for entertainment only. I can count on one hand the amount of real people that I would meet face to face. I have enjoyed your post, and again, just some input from the other side. Before I go I hear that women get free gold for just being on here, is that true?
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