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The hotwife life
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The hotwife life I get a lot of questions about being a "hotwife", so let me explain some things... I'm not a hotwife the way most hotwives are. I feel like most either have their husband participate, watch, or tell them about it after. My husband isn't involved in my activities at all. I'll tell him things on occasion, but he doesn't get any sexual gratification from it. He does get personal gratification from it since I tell him the fun things I get to do. So when I'm happy, he is. So we just celebrated our 4 year wedding anniversary recently, and we've been living together for 7 years. We would give each other hall passes before. If we were in separate areas for the night or a weekend, feel free to have someone warm your bed. We just don't tell each other about it. I never had the opportunity to take advantage of my passes, but I appreciated that he never tried to<b> cage </font></b>this free bird. Then, we hit an intense rough patch about 2 years ago. Not to bore you with the details, but it culminated in me contacting a divorce lawyer. I never thought that would happen, I am so crazy about him that divorce was never a thought in my mind. That was how bad things got though. I never went further than one email exchange with a lawyer before I realized that was stupid. Of course I will never leave him, he's my boo, we're in this thing, ride or die. But we never really repaired the rough patch. Our relationship was not the same. So a year later, we were still together and happy, but it was kind of forced if we're being honest. Then around this time, I had an ex come back into my life. And he said all the things my husband hadn't been saying for a while... so we started to date again, discreetly. But, he was an ex for a reason. We broke up for the same reasons we broke up the first go around. I couldn't get out of my head the feeling of fulfillment I got when I was with him and my husband though. My husband is as close to perfect for me as you can get, but there are some areas he definitely lacks in. My ex made up for those areas, and then some. Giving me things I didn't even know I needed. And I was putting a lot of pressure on my husband to do the things for me he just can't do because I missed it. It stressed him out, which was not fair at all. So, I continued dating outside of my marriage with other men. Online men. Then one day I realized, I married this man because he would do anything for me. I knew he would actually be okay with me being with other men, but never okay with me lying to him. And I was doing a lot of lying while I played without his knowledge. So about 4 months after I started cheating, I told him what was happening. It was extremely hard for him to accept at first. But, just as I thought, his biggest want in the world is for me to be happy, so he accepted it. He was always allowed to play. I let him know that early on, if there's a girl he's curious about, he should go for it. And maybe he finds a girl he wants to bring home so we can all have fun... And yes, we've had a threesome before so it wasn't outside of the realm of possibility. So, when he knew I was playing, he thought about doing it too. He talked to some women, exchanged some pics... But he realized, for right now, he doesn't want or need anything extra. So, he doesn't play. Which could change and I'll be more than supportive, but the point is we don't try to change each other. And now our relationship is the best it's ever been. We are so secure that my relationship is a source of comfort to me. When things get shitty out in the world, I know I've got this constant I can count on. Not being with each other isn't even an option at this point, we're good for life. 
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This is exactly where I am with my wife but I can't bring myself to talk to her about it. We have been through a very rough patch and I have always needed (wanted) more sex than she wants so sex has always been a contention in our marriage. I love her deeply and it kills me that I am keeping secrets from her but I cannot lose her. I know that secrets are the fastest way to lose her and that kills me. I need to talk to her and soon before she finds out some other way that I am looking for women online. I know she will understand because we have talked about my need for sex that she does not meet. There are things in her life that I don't meet as well so I am working on those first. Your blog post is perfectly timed for me. Thank you.
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I was married to a woman who was as beautiful, good, and caring a person as anyone could ever hope to meet. On top of that, we had a daughter together. With the exception of the last couple years, since it has finally slowed down. My libido was always out of control. I used to masturbate once, twice, sometimes three times a day, and that was in between whoever I was having regular sex with. Anyway, back to my wife . . . I cheated on her to be with someone who I thought was the answer to all my incessant sexual cravings and needs. If it's not already, this will become too lengthy if I try to fully explain. Suffices to say, I lost my beautiful wife and daughter, and not long after, I lost my sex goddess too. I have singlehandedly destroyed several lives, not including my own, which I also destroyed. All because I put sex, sexual satisfaction, sexual kinks and perceived needs, above all others and all else. Sounds like you have a good head, and a good heart too. If it is at all possible, I earnestly encourage you to harness your sexual needs as much as possible, to the best of your ability. It would be a shame if one day your boo met someone and found a lot more than just a good time. Best Wishes to you. PS. I don’t usually share this kind of stuff, but for whatever reason, felt that I should here. Anything done half-heartedly will net you an equivalent result. ~CH
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Glad you are happy and enjoying your life.   
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