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To Fuck or Not to Fuck....  

CL_Love 51M/50F
192 posts
9/17/2017 3:01 pm
To Fuck or Not to Fuck....
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DoctorBooty 43M
6426 posts
9/17/2017 4:41 pm

 I understand the conflict, I had it bigtime when I first got into this stuff. At one time I would absolutely not mess with anyone married, only singles. I found the whole cuckold thing terribly unnerving because I could not find myself involved with someone married because of my religious beliefs.


CL_Love replies on 9/17/2017 6:22 pm:
For me it has come down to the openness and honesty...I still consider myself an overall moral person and as long as everyone is in the know and generally supportive of what is happening with all consenting...then I can deal with the moral ambiguity that it requires. We have had some bumps in the road where I wasn't as open and forthcoming as I should have been and it was a bitter lesson learned. You are smart to tread lightly where married women are concerned.

But I'm curious if you missed the point of this post...not so much the moral question of playing with others, but rather do you draw a distinction between comparatively platonic interactions like friendship vs. very soft play like kissing and groping vs. semi-soft play like trading oral sex vs. the full swap full intercourse sex?

jc_powerman 63M  
254 posts
9/17/2017 5:49 pm

 So true in everything she says


DoctorBooty 43M
6426 posts
9/18/2017 5:21 am

 I didn't miss it, I have drawn the distinction in the past for some friendships I've had from this lifestyle. But, I'm a guy, so if it gets to a lot of kissing its going to go to sex. I've never stopped at just oral.

There was one back in the beginning, it started out as very sexual talk, but I decided not to fuck her for various reasons, and we remain friends.

There have been several other situations over the years, they all wanted to fuck me, I just refused some of their advances because I did not feel right about them, mostly because of their own behavior. They screwed it up just like so many men did with you.


Synmyster 47M  
44 posts
9/19/2017 11:19 am

 Very well thought out and well written! I'd love to meet you.
Synmyster


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