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Say it isn't so!  

secret_lade 49F
14389 posts
10/6/2016 5:14 pm
Say it isn't so!


Does the site contact random people at will on my behalf stating I'm interested in meeting them?

I've never set up an icebreaker simply for the fact that if any type of contact is made by me, I want it to be ME doing the contacting. I don't really need the aid of a website laden with glitches to be reaching out for me.

This is a perfect example why....

A guy from a neighboring town emailed me today telling me he received a message that I was interested in meeting him. I feel kind of bad, I never sent any such message and, truth be told, I'm not interested in meeting him. I courteously replied back and explained there must have been a mix up, he didn't match the criteria in my profile, and I wished him well on his search.

How many of you have found yourself in this particular situation?

cheezie212 53M
98 posts
10/12/2016 5:48 am

I get people saying they checked out my profile...when they really didn't. I guess its some sort of marketing scheme by Polyamory Date to increase paid members.


Yours_4A_knight 59M

10/7/2016 6:21 am

I have run into this, either as getting the message that someone is interested, or getting a message from another member saying that I had messaged them.

The part of this that puzzles me, is that it seems like a strictly hetro, female to male event. That the site only feels the need to encourage women to have more contact with men, but never that they need to encourage more homosexual interelations, or couple to couple, or couple to singlet for that matter.

I am simply observing the rumors that I have heard? Not trying make any sweeping observation

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


secret_lade replies on 10/9/2016 5:30 pm:
This is the first time I've noticed this happening... But I've only been blogging again for a brief period of time. You would think the site would want to capitalize on the different relationship types and not just single out the male/female thing. Then again, this could possibly be a trial run to see what kind of result it brings about.

porterpiper1 57F
3755 posts
10/7/2016 12:25 am

I do get a lot of views but very few messages because I am not a paying member, but I guess they have to do something to keep people paying to be on this site


Nola7011 67M
1021 posts
10/6/2016 10:18 pm

Then I should just ignore the Chelsea Clinton "flirt."

People are strange when you're a stranger."


secret_lade replies on 10/7/2016 12:23 am:
No, you probably shouldnt. I think thar one is real.

rachel0718 58F
20470 posts
10/6/2016 9:35 pm

I have had a few people say "thanks for viewing my profile and stopping by" and I have no idea who they are. Hmmmmmm...


Rachel Mae


secret_lade replies on 10/7/2016 12:22 am:
Me too, actually.

docdangerous4 59M
45 posts
10/6/2016 7:52 pm

yep the algorithm generates fake views and such to make men think women are actually interested and try to force things to get moving , like a clueless matchmaker doing it blindfolded and drunk . lol


secret_lade replies on 10/7/2016 12:21 am:
That's too bad... it just makes for an awkward situation all the way around.

FarmGirl6969 61F  
286 posts
10/6/2016 7:34 pm

I have received messages from people who say they are responding to one which I did not generate. Can be frustrating for all.


secret_lade replies on 10/7/2016 12:20 am:
Frustrating is correct.

positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
10/6/2016 6:24 pm

A man thanked me for hotlisting him. I didn't. He wants to meet, I don't. It's awkward.


secret_lade replies on 10/6/2016 6:38 pm:
Believe me, I feel your pain!

howlindog50 73M
509 posts
10/6/2016 5:41 pm

I've gotten a lot of fake views & "I want to meet you" messages . . . they ARE generated by the site . . . the big flag (for me, anyway) is when either the views or messages come from women either half way around the world or only old enough to be one of my granddaughters [laughing] . . . an age range I'm absolutely NOT interested in!!!


secret_lade replies on 10/6/2016 5:45 pm:
This is kind of disheartening. The site would have a lot more credibility if they would stop this practice, it only makes things more difficult in the search.

40Deuce 46M
5725 posts
10/6/2016 5:35 pm

It happens - this place does all kinds of things to make people think there's a good reason to stay around . I've gotten messages from people that never messaged me , I'm pretty sure a ton of the people who allegedly viewed my profile never really did and if you weren't around for the Fuck-A-Slut fiasco a few years back you don't even know the half of what goes on here .

Putting clients first by putting employees first, immediately after prioritizing fiscal responsibilities and leveraging profitability towards exceeding by empowering our employees to put clients (and themselves) first, in a diverse and respectful environment of only those that come first, first.


secret_lade replies on 10/6/2016 5:39 pm:
Really.... I missed that! It's been about 4 years since I blogged last, I've missed out on a bunch. What was the fiasco?

benard69 66M/66F  

10/6/2016 5:33 pm

Of course he might have been pulling your leg....To get between you legs....


secret_lade replies on 10/6/2016 5:37 pm:
This is very true. I'm hoping that is all it is.

mc_justmc 63M

10/6/2016 5:26 pm

is this your way of saying that you DON'T want to meet me, cause I've got plane reservations, non-refundable plane reservations.


secret_lade replies on 10/6/2016 5:36 pm:
LOL Well, since you put it that way.....

scott6250 61M

10/6/2016 5:16 pm

So far I've not run into this.

"Sweet, steamy, sensuous kisses light the bright fires of passionate lust within us." scott6250


secret_lade replies on 10/6/2016 5:23 pm:
It kind of creeped me out a hair. I'm hoping that maybe it was just a technique he used to break the ice and initiate conversation.

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