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If you really want to meet please read this!
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If you really want to meet please read this! I’ve been trying lately to figure how to let everyone know what it is I’m looking for, after all I’ve updated my profile 3 times trying to get my point across and it still just isn’t working. I’m not saying that I haven’t received any good contacts, I have, and those of you that were thoughtful enough to send them, know who you are. I’m going to try here to explain a little better what I’m looking for in the (slim hope) that some of you will read this and increase the chances that we will meet and become good friends. I’m going to start with some pointers for those interested and then I’ll finish with some examples of actual messages both good and bad. Please don’t message me with “let’s meet for some cocktails and see if we click”. I want to get to know you and that is going to take at least several hours and probably a couple of different settings. I’m not a , I’ve never been a . I’m a successful business woman and I don’t need your money and it won’t impress me. That said, I do want to be treated like a woman whom you’d like to know and want to impress. I like nice restaurants as much as the next person and enjoy good entertainment more than most. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on me to impress me. One guy I know once picked me up in his pickup truck and the only things he told me to bring was “a good attitude and a sense of adventure”. We went out in the desert and watched a meteor shower while drinking wine and eating cheese and crackers on lawn chairs in the middle of the desert. Honestly one of the most memorable and romantic times I’ve ever spent. I enjoy many types of activities and particularly like physical ones. I have both a mountain bike and a road bike; I own my own bowling ball and shoes (I’m new at it but getting better ). I like hiking and have peaked more than three dozen peaks over 11,000 ft. I’ve done a rim-to-rim-to-rim at the Grand Canyon and hiked rim to bottom and up again on a dozen trails. Last week I went dancing and listening to the<b> blues </font></b>at a place down town and had my most fun night of the year. While I appreciate the offers to travel, I really, really need to get to know you before I will even consider it. I’m looking of longtime FWB, people who can call each other up any day and say “Hey you want to go…….?”. If you’re married this might or might not be a problem, it’s up to you, but you should think about it. I am absolutely NOT looking for a “relationship”, to get married or find a “lover”. This is no strings attached, FWB and I’ll be your friend but not your “girlfriend”. Be specific, tell me what you’d like to do, where you’d like to do it (if you think I’m talking about how I’d like you to fuck me then go back to the top and start over, you haven’t figured it out). Look at your own profile. If you don’t have a picture, if you couldn’t complete at least 75% of questions, if you couldn’t articulate what exactly you’re looking for, then I’m wondering what you’re trying to hide and how dangerous are you? If you contact me with no picture on your profile then your contact better include some or it is immediately and, without reading, deleted. Send the picture with the contact or don’t waste your time because I won’t waste mine. Okay here are 7 examples of the things that don’t work, and by that I mean if you want to get my attention, you won’t try one of these. The other day I re-wrote my profile to say “Don’t send me a one-line contact” if you do I’ll think you just don’t get it and put your contact immediately into a file that is labeled “One liner - just doesn’t get it”. You won’t believe it but here are the actual first contacts I received after I made that update: 1. "Hi, how are you? How are you spending this rainy Sunday? Doing anything fun?" 2. "I read your profile and I think we have a lot in common." Ok, how so? 3. "So sexy" Thank you, thank you very much. I love the compliments, but really, does that really work? 4. "Hello" Duh 5. "Hey"…. I'm not 12. 6. "Can we be friend" (You would really help your chances if you proof read your 4 word sort of sentence) 7. "Hey you make this hard" (a picture of a cock with no face pic). I like a nice cock, love them in fact, but if you can’t think past your own dick, even to attach a body to it, then I’m probably not your girl. The truth is that I don’t really have the time for mindless texting back and forth so attempting to do so will only get you put into the “Definitely No” file. If I like what you wrote and what you suggested doing then I will get back to you. Here are a couple of examples of first messages that caught my attention (slightly edited to protect personal information): 1. Hi Anthemgal! I read your profile and I like what you have to say. I’m in town Jan. 20 to 24. I have tickets to see Absinthe, would you join me for dinner and the show on Friday the 22? I’d like to meet you and hear more about your experiences. I’m a fit….. 2. Hi! Please see my profile and see if I am your style. I read you profile and think we are a fit, I too am looking for more than just sex (well that too), a good friend and someone to hang out with. I don’t know what the weather will be like on Feb. 3 but would you like to ride the River Mountain trail with me (if it’s a nice day)? Afterwards we can go to the brewery in Boulder City for a beer and a burger. 3. Hi. I read your profile and am intrigued. Not many women on the site are well educated as you. I think we are a match in many ways. I like to play golf, ballroom dance, watch first run movies, and love to dine out. I really like weekend travels.. My favorite pastime is to see a first run movie or a show, then have dinner. I really like Penn and Teller. And to top it off to have great sex at the end of the evening. I really do want to meet you. I have made reservations for Brunch at the Eiffel Tower Restaurant this Saturday at 1130. If I don’t hear from you I will take that as you are not interested. Cheers! In closing all I’m looking for is friendly, intelligent men who are looking for a friend to do things with. I want men who are bold enough to think in advance of “a date” and plan something. Pretend you are asking out a woman whom you hope to go to bed with. How would you woo her? How would you impress her? I so, so look forward to interesting and well thought out responses. Thank you for reading. |
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Wish you luck! Have a great one and be safe.
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Excellent post! As someone who has struggled to find quality men on this site, I can relate to a lot of the things you've said here. After being on this site for several months, I grew tired of the lackluster (and downright horrifying) first meetings and the boring/rude/disgusting/creepy/copypasta messages from men that did not have the qualities that I was seeking. Eventually, I figured out that I needed to be more assertive and take the intative by browsing profiles and making first contact with the men that captured my interest, as opposed to just waiting for men to read my profile and hoping that the right ones will contact me. In doing this, I finally landed myself an amazing fwb. You seem like an incredible woman. I'm certain that you will be able to find someone amazing here, and when you do, I hope they realize how lucky they are. Best of luck in your search!!! 
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Good blog write, enjoyed reading and took some pointers.
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