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Practicing a Meditation on Loving Kindness
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Practicing a Meditation on Loving Kindness I learned something interesting from research done by psychologist Barbara Fredrickson which she details in her book "Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do and Become." In her book, she demonstrates that there's no such this as everlasting love just "micro-moments of positivity resonance," (moments when you experience warm feelings in the presence of the Beloved), the hormone oxytocin and the function of the vagus nerve. (Those chemical reactions in the body create what we call "love," rather than the romantic notion of love.) The study she did of the vagus nerve, which functions to register love and create focus on the Beloved, was fascinating. Half of her subjects she told to devote one hour a week for several months to to the ancient Buddhist practice of loving-kindness meditation. Those subjects increased their vagal tone in a way that was measurable at the end of the study. And they also reported feeling more instances of love and affection even while not focused on the meditation. Since I've spent quite a lot of mental energy venting my ire as part of letting go, it's time to spend some time in gratitude and appreciation for The Unavailable Guy (TUG): * He spent a weekend building a feed bin for my . * He was (mostly) willing to go with me to a workshop on "Getting the Love You Want" so I could decide if I'd be willing to try it with my dad, the person at the source of my attraction to unavailable men. * The Unavailable Guy was fun company at events like Sin City 5 in Las Vegas. * I appreciated that he had my back in swinger situations so I could flirt and touch without having someone hit on me in a way that made me uncomfortable. * He tried a couple of times to help me work through my jealousy and insecurity about his focus on other women in the group sexual situations. * I credit his relentless search for new pussy on this site and kasidie for adding two couples to my circle of genuine friends (more than just fuck buddies). * Thanks to his arranging those meetings, I now know how to enjoy the geometry of FMF 3somes. * He was willing to try Tantric Sex just once and showed great potential for intimacy and giving me what my body likes. * To my eyes, he was sexy and appealing, especially while high, when he seemed to drop the barriers he used to fence me out. * I adored sexting, which was double entendres, (rather than sexy photos) with him. Yeah, Fredrickson is right. It's a lot more fun and makes me feel better to focus on the positive, rather than the negative. I will meditate on loving kindness this morning as I walk along the beach. I'll set a timer each week to remind me to spend an hour thinking gratitude and appreciation. You'll find a cool summary of Fredrickson's research if you search Barbara Fredrickson, Love 2.0 and The Atlantic, which is the magazine where the article was published. (Can anyone tell me if direct links are permitted in blog sites? Somehow I think they aren't.) {=}{=}{=} BiPolyBabe69 aka Angie |
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Sounds like a thoughtfully introspective path you've chosen...
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Daily meditation is something I need to get back to. Thank you for the reminder... Kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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I do a version of loving kindness meditation every day. I have a dog. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Hello. I would like to thank you for your posts as they are very insightful and well expressed. I have read many of them. My response is most appropriate to this posting, though some might say it can apply to others also. The Stand Up comedian Aziz Ansari has a book out titled Modern Romance (Penguin Press, 2015) in which he looks at expectations and development of relationships today compared to previous generations and also to different cultures. I expect he did this extensive research to include in his monologues. I mention it because I'm sure you would have sharp insights to it. Best of luck!!!
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Links aren't, and in some cases specific mentions of sites aren't either. S**rch engines give this place fits, as do compet1tors. As for Frederickson on the vagus nerve... has anyone done a parallel comparison of her work and Tantric focus on the yoni? Uh, I'm askin' for a friend... Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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