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Responses When having a conversation with someone online, I tend to take responses to questions at face value. That is not to say that I have not had conversations about one thing meaning another or peppered with innuendos. That being said, a recent conversation went horrible awry because my responses to his questions were apparently not what he was looking for, for answers. He was asking me questions and I was doing my best to answer them. He then asked me why I was not asking him questions, I stated that I am not good at 20 questions, I prefer to let the conversation flow naturally and I was learning a lot about him from the questions he was asking me. A little later in the conversation, he had asked another question and my reply is that I am interested in meeting people, but am cautiously realistic and do not trust easily. I have to get to know someone before they earn my trust. The following is the conversation that we had at that point: Him: Okay I guess I have no chance then Me: Why would you think that? Him: Well you don't seem to ask me anything and came out and said u don't trust anyone Him: Please don't judge me on your others Me: No I said I do not trust easily, I'm not good at thinking up questions and prefer to just go with the conversation. I'll ask questions along the way, just will not come up with a bunch all at once. Me: I'm not judging you Me: But it seems you are judging me because I'm not reacting how you want me to. Him: Apparently you are a bitch and I am wasting my time. That was the end of that conversation. I do not think that my responses were being bitchy, but they were being me. I do not apologize for who I am. If someone does not like that about me, then that is their problem and not mine. I'm cool with me. I have spoken to quite a few people from this site and my responses have always been in the same fashion as this conversation was. I have not ever had a reaction like that one however. Makes me wonder what is so wrong in his world that he got so upset by this. So this is a first for me, that my responses do not meet someones criteria on questions where I have been labeled a bitch because of it. I have been labeled a bitch for other reasons, (some I happily accept, others I just don't care enough). I do not deny I am woman and yes I can be a bitch. I try to keep that in check however, sometimes it works and sometimes it does not. Who knows maybe I come off as being a bitch and too judgmental. I know don't think so, but I guess that would have to be verified by someone who has met me or gotten to know me. I for one like to think I am pretty easy going and laid back. I like to laugh and have fun. I am educated and reasonably personable. I can hold a conversation with just about anyone on a lot of varied topics. I am cool with me and that is all that really matters to me. So read this as you will and form your own opinions. I would be curious to hear what you think about it. |
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I am surprised you let him get that far with 20 questions. I don't like it any more than you do and I bail out politely but I leave (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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Polite discourse conveying respect is the proper approach...
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I feel the same way. I do not have a standing list of questions ready to ask someone until we have talked a lot more than one conversation. He is just a jerk who was insecure .. always better when they out themselves right away. lol
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3/18/2016 3:23 pm |
I talked to you a few times and your not a bitch and if someone like that takes stuff that personal/serious. Your better off without him!
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