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When "no" means just that  

JB061973 50F
93 posts
2/4/2019 7:26 am
When "no" means just that

I have in my profile stated an age-range (35-55) that shows the range I'm interested in/comfortable with. I think I say so quite clearly. But I still have (mainly) younger gentlemen, who try their luck, which is fair enough. And I politely, but firmly, decline their advances.
Yesterday a young man wouldn't accept the first, second, or fifth time I said "no", and I ended up blocking him. I very rarely block people, simply because I believe firmly in the priciples of courteous discorse, so it annoys me when I have to do so (as a final resort).

Afterwards I started thinking about the way this young man kept pushing the issue. I started thinking about the way young people interact, both online and in real life. And I actually became worried about this young man. I became worried that he at some point will get into trouble, because of his inability to take no for an answer. I became worried that he could force himself upon a 'weaker' person than I, and perhaps commit a crime (or push her boundaries too far, too quickly).

Am I seeing ghosts, or could there be something to this?

In any case: please, take no for an answer - even if we word it politely.

The12er 51M
295 posts
2/5/2019 7:41 am

 Just be a gentleman ; how hard can it be??

As you know I live by that device and i seems to get by pretty Ok.....


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
2/6/2019 10:20 am

 It's as simple as focussing his efforts on those who don't want to NO him
and avoiding those who do want to NO him.
He's certainly on the right track.He didn't
judge you by your age!
Using more than all the road!


JB061973 replies on 2/7/2019 12:05 pm:
You may say, that I judge people by their age, and you would be right. I do have an age-bracket, that I'm interested in, mainly because I want connections, not just sex. And in my view some connections are formed by common ground. Some people very much younger or very much older will not have the same frame of reference that I do, and that can hinder a connection. It's a personal preference of mine, which I stand by.

He quite clearly DIDN'T avoid someone who wanted to NO him - pressing his case after I told him NO several times.

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