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The Sexual Hunt... Nurture or nature?
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The Sexual Hunt... Nurture or nature? With this age of instant connection online dating, one must wonder, have our younger men lost the edge with female hunting skills? The part of the brain that regulates the "sexual pursuit," is called the hypothalamus. The size in men is twice as large, as that in women. I wonder if the internet and “tinderish” styled dating has shrunken that part of the brain in our younger males? With the sexual revolution of the 60’s and 70’s many (traditional) men were caught off guard when women became more sexually active and sometimes aggressive with what they wanted. Sex became more socially acceptable outside the strict boundaries of heterosexual marriage. Between 1965 and 1974, the number of women who admitted that they had sexual intercourse prior to marriage showed a marked increase. Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping became part of the societal conversation. Some older men seemingly had trouble with that fact and ended up getting lost in the shuffle. Of course the divorce rate jumped. From 1960 to 1980, the divorce rate more than doubled — from 9.2 divorces per 1,000 married women to 22.6 divorces per 1,000 married women. This meant that while less than 20% of couples who married in 1950 ended up divorced, about 50% of couples who married in 1970 did. The pill, the IUD and other forms of contraception being (relatively) easily available opened the door to many more acceptable options for a woman and their sex drive. For me, in my early teens and through my late twenties life here in Los Angeles was a really a candy store filled with many different women! All ethnicities, religions, race, social status, geographic places of birth and body types were usually readily available with only a little conversation and focus. It seemed natural to make the attempt to close the deal with those who may have fit your taste. Of course, no one ever hits 100% when you go to the plate to swing so many times and having such a diverse and large populous of beautiful and sexy women, you swung a lot. Over the later years, starting in my thirties and through my young fifties, it seemed less difficult to find a partner to have sex. To counter balance this effect, in my mid fifties, my sexual filtering system became more discrete and that once considered inane ability to say “No Thank You” increased. Several of my former sexual female partner(s) seemed to drift off toward younger men, “usually less discrete” by mostly using online sites such as this, craigslist (later) and other web sites. One such partner “Debbie” who at the time was a 52 year old special education teacher admitted to me while hiking in Griffith Park, that she had slept with a younger guy. Imagine a younger man than her younger who was 24 at the time. It seems she needed the sex and pursued him. Quite an amazing turn of fair play for the female, who have always controlled. Watching my younger brethren get worked over by quite attractive young women, leaving them tongue tied and without many viable options for sex. This has created quite a dilemma for the evolution of the sexes. Maybe the woman has always been in charge of the sexual pairings and maybe, just maybe as a younger and middle aged man my myopic vision missed it…..  "Only good girls keep diaries. Bad girls don’t have time.” |
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