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The AFF Curse...Distance
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The AFF Curse...Distance Distance is the amount of space, miles, kilometers, between two people. Here on Polyamory Date distance is a curse. You find another like-minded individual that you would<b> love </font></b>to hang out with but the distance is too much. To some people, 100 miles is too much. To others it’s 300 or 500 miles, then there are other people that don’t even care about distance. They realize that meeting the other person is more important than the distance involved. Sometimes there is even a passport and travel to another country involved. To me, if the distance is a factor, then you really don’t want to meet the other person. So, if you do meet this special person, how do you continue a long distance friendship? Of course there is calling, texting, and chatting online. How many times will you travel the distance to visit in person? What kind of arrangements can be made to spend more time together? Does one of you move closer? Do you give up on the friendship over time due to geography? What do you think about the Polyamory Date curse? How do you deal with this situation? |
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I lived in VA, and was interested in a gentleman from FL working in my area. I figured, what the heck, few dinners, hang out, adult conversation, and he was off back to FL. We met....he left. we missed each other terribly. He came back to area to finish work project and we fell in love. I took a year, making sure we were real. He then went to NYC to work, driving every weekend for 9 months back to VA to see me. I left VA, my family, friends and we now live in FL. Just last week celebrated our 5 year anniversary, and have never been happier. Ya just have to take a chance sometimes.
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It is a real dilemma obviously and up to the individuals involved I think to try and resolve it. Staying friends is probably the best way to go, unless truly madly deeply feelings are there.
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All depends on what you are looking for  If one is just looking for friends then distance isnt as big as a factor then if its more than just friends (even if "just" a FWB situation) then there are some ways to keep the proverbial home fires burning (sex nerd sandra has a good podcast on the subject) one clever idea was reading the same book and discussing it (they also mentioned reading erotic stories to each other as a naughty fun ie) Ultimately if its going to be physical one has to be able to be in the same location so arrangements need to be made. key thing to remember is everyone is different what works (or doesnt) for one may not be the same for else. Have fun with it as best one can  Now about those teleporters...lol
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I forgot to mention yet another great post thank you excellent discussions
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You do the best you can, especially when it seems the people I really get interested aren't only 500 miles (which is not that bad) but when it starts being the East Coast and over 1500 miles, it gets pretty unnerving. you try to stay in contact, but we all live in the real world, and things just don't happen the way we want them to. So in a way, yes it is kind of a curse.
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