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I dont know how to approach this situation!!!
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I dont know how to approach this situation!!! I have a code. Always mind your own business.Do not get involved in others dramatic situation unless you really have to. This time I really have to..I think.. Now Im am questioning myself. As we know we might see someone we know on here and I always give that person respect and privacy but this time I noticed my co workers . Which would be fine if she was not 15 years old. Im disgusted. So I know I should go to her mother but how do I do this knowing that this women is always in denial and think her is perfect.???I dont know what to do but its really bothering me... |
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Can you send her an anonymous message somehow?
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I would contact her directly through the site. Explain to her why she needs to delete her profile. I would also tell her that you wouldn't mention anything about it to her mom if she does leave the site. But make it absolutely clear that you WILL have a chat with her mom if she doesn't leave the site. Also make it clear you will contact the site if she stays. I believe that giving her the chance to leave without getting in trouble with her mom or with the site would probably convince her to leave on her own. Good luck. I hope it works out for both your sake and hers.
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I have to believe that you already know this is a bigger problem than just an underage individual on an adult site.What we do as adults can and does greatly influence children and what they think is appropriate. With the biggest divorce rate this world has ever seen and some of the animosities that are created in some cases.I think this is just the tip of the iceberg sadly.It brings to light that it really isn't about the jobs people have is their reason for not wanting to show their faces.Where they ever got the idea that a generation that is more tech savvy than some of the developers of this technology would never find out is telling in itself. It would seem that there is going to be a lot of explaining in the very near future why people were brought to believe and follow certain values only to find out those who instilled these beliefs and values treat them with little or no regard. I think it's a very commendable gesture but how in the world do tell someone that what they're doing is wrong when we ourselves are doing it! We were all teenagers at one time.Draw on your own experience and try and answer this same question. You have a big heart and I think it is in the right place! Using more than all the road!
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I want to make it clear that I am concerned with MY own privacy or discretion. That has never been a issue for me. I am not worried how people would react. I am very comfortable with who I am. My issue is she is underage and could be taking advantage of on this site. It can be quite shady and deceitful.Im more concerned with her safety versus people finding out my secret..
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If she is under age, contact the site managers and let them know. They will remove her profile. Save a horse, ride a cowboy!!
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contact the site and tell her that you know
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only approach the situation if you are 100 percent positive. Contact the site and here mother
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Do what you think is best
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Reporting the profile is the most obvious way to go. Although it's unclear how the site will respond, if at all. Teens are tech savvy but also not ready to be told what to do. The probability is that she'll just create another one out of spite, and will be better at dissembling. At the same time, being tech savvy doesn't imply maturity. The girl obviously isn't aware of the risks of being here. Maybe some guidance is in order. You can create a dummy profile here just for the purpose of contacting the girl anonymously. No need to tell her who you are or how you know her. You have the experience [of being on this site] and can explain to her what's what. I think maybe a voice "from the inside" is more likely to be taken into consideration than the authority of the parent who is on the outside. No need for a long conversation with the girl either; you don't want to put her on the defensive or make it an issue that she has to stand her ground. Create an anonymous profile, send one message, let her figure it out on her own. Then wait for the site to shut down the girl's profile.
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As everyone says, this is a terribly difficult situation, and I totally understand your "mind my own business" philosophy. I often find the way to answer this sort of dilemma is to imagine how the conversation might go if at some point the mother found out, and then discovered that you had known, but not said anything. Would she understand if you said "but it was none of my business, so I didn't say anything?" I think the answer is probably not, no, she would say "You knew, and you didn't tell me???" I know a lot of parents actually do think their children are perfect, but sometimes, this façade covers a deeper worry about their kids. I think you have already decided that you have to say something, the question is what, and how? A lot of this depends on the daughter's real motivation for being on the site, (she could be being abused, or just rebelling, or simply curious, very sexually mature, a danger-seeker, or looking for some kind of attention, or all kinds of other motivations. ) You also probably need to consider her relationship with her mother. You can try to think ahead to how they both may react to you intervening, because if either of them reacts badly the situation could get worse. Could you seek advice from a child protection professional before you decide what to do next? I don't know if any of that helps. I haven't been in your situation, but I have dealt with a fifteen year old boy in danger of making a mess of his life partly because of his relationship with his well-meaning but misguided ( in my opinion, lol ) father, and it is a very hard tightrope to tread.
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i would not deal with the mother. you have your face pic, and if she tell her, she will definitely know you are the member on this site...and that might not jive at your workplace...in worst case scenario, she might start to spread some rumor about you, keeping what happened to her daughter secret... the best option is that, tell that site, you know this individual is underage. let them deal with it. good luck.
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Really depends on how well you know your coworker. This kind of stuff can be pretty touchy and can easily backfire. If you know her well, approach her. If you do not, just keep it quiet. In the end the daughter is going to behave as she pleases. The mother is as likely to blame you as be grateful. Tread lightly. Chuck
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What a pickle, perhaps her photo was "stolen"? yes 15 way too young, I am sure you will come up with a good solution.
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Hi, I don't know what to do with something like this. You said you are disgusted, but is it for how she acts, or you fear for how people treat her and what could happen to her? I guess that maybe you could talk to her if you see something dangerous... Then there must be law in the middle because of her age... My opinion is that if there's nothing dangerous you could let her decide what to do (well you know if she is smart or or not) hoping she knows what she is doing. The fact is that some people at 15 are very conscious of their surrounding and things, and other are totally dumb...
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your beautiful and sexy
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Difficult. If she is on here because she is a horny teen wanting sexual release, BUT NOT meeting people, then thats fine. Teens like porn and sites like this. However if people on here are meeting her and taking advantage of her age then you must tell her mother to protect her. Check out my blog and profile!
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Better report the site she is underage. Kisses
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GOOD
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