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Staying True To Who You Are  

LaffLuvLilyslive 57F
2336 posts
12/11/2014 7:27 am
Staying True To Who You Are


Staying true to who you are..
That is easier said than done some of the time.
Not letting others actions dictate yours.. that's not so easy either..

I am not preaching nor judging anyone here, just myself.. and I ask that no one does the same in return to my views. beliefs..
I'm just using my blog as a sounding board, my journal today.

I sit here so tempted to ruin this day for him.
Why would I do such a thing ??

In my mind I keep hearing turn about is fair play.
Has he never went out of his way to do anything for you on Mothers day.. your bday.. anniversaries, much less after your surgeries.. well the first couple of days maybe..
it's ok go ahead and make him feel like you do for once..
.
but my heart says stay true to who you are..
yes, you do the things you do to give him joy, but you do it for yourself too, it's your love walk that matters the most.. what goes around comes around ya know..
besides what example will you be setting, you know you don't want them boys to be like that they need to see love in action.. forgiveness in action............................................

ok happy middle ground.
have boys do yard work for him, have them cook dinner hot dogs on grill.. say happy birth day to him myself.
but none of the usual special things I do. No poems, nasty pics, naughty story last year I wrote "my Gift To You' for him..
no special birthday sex, and oh boy was it ever special gotta admit I'll miss that myself

there now I will be able to sleep tonight with a clear conscious.

I know alot may not understand me, but thats ok..
I just gotta stay true to who I am...what I believe even when to everyone it makes no sense..
I get took advantage of alot but thats ok too, I gotta follow my heart anyways.

LL



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if love isn't the answer, than I misunderstood the question


RazzleDazzle138 56M/55F

12/11/2014 7:37 am

I could have written this myself just two days ago. I understand it all too well.


LaffLuvLilyslive replies on 12/12/2014 5:55 am:
I feel for anyone who can relate.

Hunter4Head 61M
6253 posts
12/11/2014 7:41 am

You're a VERY special woman/person to be able to conduct yourself in that manner. I agree with you 120% in what you're doing/writing. You're doing what's right, nothing special or overboard, just what's right, and in doing that, you're still setting a good example. Yes it sounds like you've been taken advantage of, and I'm sorry, that's not right. You're sticking to your guns without "compromising" your values, good for you, you've come to a "mid-point" that you can live/deal with....... .


LaffLuvLilyslive replies on 12/12/2014 5:56 am:
HH

MovingOn001 68M
929 posts
12/11/2014 8:29 am

I suspect that you could not in good conscience not be true to who you really are. You are a good person. You try as hard as you can to be a good wife, even if your efforts don't seem to be reciprocated or appreciated by your husband. You also try your hardest to be a good mother and to set the type of example for your children they should have to grow to be fine adults. As long as you stick to your principles, you'll be able to live with yourself and have a clear conscience.


LaffLuvLilyslive replies on 12/12/2014 5:57 am:
that's what I strive for a clear conscience

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