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A weird quick impromptu date
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A weird quick impromptu date The self deprecation of women is absolutely ridiculous! I heard it all hundreds of times before, and I am sure everyone else has, but I am witnessing new levels of absurdity never thought imaginable here in Poland. It appears that self<b> obsession </font></b>with image is so prevalent, it escapes no community of people, irrespective of what the waistline might be! Let me tell you, in general, women in Poland are beautiful! Vast majority of them are slender, with beautiful figures, very attractive looking, sharply dressed, just a treat to walk around different cities here. For whatever the reason, the vast majority of women just stay in great shape, and there is a very strict social pressure to fit that mold. That in itself might not be a good thing already (pressure wise), but my point is that women look beautiful. And yet, I keep hearing the same complains that I would hear in Canada, most often, that I'm too fat, that my figure doesn't look good. And when I hear it from a source of what looks like a drop dead gorgeous woman to me, I wonder what is seriously wrong with our society (and hey, I know that is subjective, but being slender build, I naturally gravitate to slender build women, I know when I hear a brutal exaggeration!) Is this actually encoded in us? Or are women in such lamentable position that they are constantly victimized by the pressure of society (and if you dig deep enough as to why women keep saying these things, men often are the instigators, at least here in Poland. Seriously spoiled brats). So I went back to Cracow this weekend (seriously pretty city to visit) to do some climbing, and on my way back we picked up another passenger. Usually it is me, 3 other girls (my niece, her new GF and another of their constant sidekicks). And on top of that, we always only pick up women for a ride. The standard joke is that if the girl who is hitching a ride is pretty, she will sit in the middle in the back so I can chat with her. If she's not, I am to have a bout of coughing fit so that one of the girls will sit in the middle. It is our joke, but no coughing fit is ever needed  The girls like it because I am very talkative, I can be straight to the point, and I love to get into deep discussions, so the whole car is entertained when a new passenger arrives because opinions fly about and the ride comes to a seemingly quick end. Well, this weekend we got an attractive girl, so I started joking around and chatting with her, as usual, emboldened by presence of so many young women. I found out what she was doing which peaked my interest because she works in the marketing company, and I am in the process of building my own web-based business. She was into dancing too, and I love to dance so I was more and more intrigued. Her style is "dance hall" (if you are not familiar with it, check it out, it's pretty sexy). But it didn't take long to figure out that she is very timid, and has a self poor image of herself. Yep, I heard another, ahm, I am struggling with my waistline comments. And seriously, if you looked at this girl, you would salivate over her figure. Great proportions, not skinny, but not even close to chubby, just naturally beautiful full figure. I can guarantee you she would look hot in bed. But this girl was even worse, she really had self esteem issues, and so insecure that this pretty girl was single because she simply thinks men would not find her attractive. Ugh!  As it happens, we got out at the same place and both her and I had to wait for 30 mins, me for my bus to another town, her to meet some dude that was arriving from Warsaw to hang out with her. So we went for quick coffee together. By now we almost had couple hrs together, and we felt pretty comfortable with each other. So I ask about this guy she's gonna see, and what they plan to do that night. Blah blah blah, I ask her, hey are you gonna go for him? You gonna fool around with him tonight? No, she's too shy, she doesn't know how to go about it anyway. I asked what do you mean you don't know how to go about it? you are the woman, which means you are always the one in control, the one who determines if it is a green light for make out time or not. Blush. Oh, I am not sure about this, about that, some more blah blah blah before I get out of her that yes, she would hope for some kissing, but she is not sure if he is into her, and more blah blah. So I tell her, hey, obviously this guy is coming all the way from Warsaw for you, I can guarantee you he wants and fantasizes about some action, no matter what he says. No no no, she would never want to show him her body. I was like WHAT??? So I flipped, and flat out asked her, hey, listen, if I told you I would desire to kiss every piece of your body, because I think you are so pretty, would you let me? NO WAY! I asked why, and let's cut the societal bullshit for a moment that it is not appropriate. If you deep down want to make out with a guy you like, then why not? I would not want you to see how fat I am. I just told her after, girl, you are so dumb if you think like that! And if you can't appreciate your own beauty, and you can't accept it, then at least see your own beauty in his appreciation and happiness when he kisses your body! Go for this guy tonight, go as far as your comfort will allow you, and look deep into his joy, and remember what I said. If you look into him, you will know from his body language how much he enjoys your beauty. She said she never thought of that before (all the while she is putting make up on, just looking more and more fancy by a minute). I had to run, but my last advice was, hey, make sure you give him a signal that it is ok for him to go for you! But I don't know what to do? Just touch him gently, flirt, break the ice for him in case he is too shy because he thinks you get too many guys anyway, and he might! One last glance at her, I kiss her, tell her, you look beautiful, it was a pleasure to meet you, have fun, and I dart off to catch my only bus of the day! On the way I catch a final glimpse of her through the window (which I knew it was coming so I thought maybe I should blow her a kiss). She beat me to it, she was on a phone already, but she send this beautiful kiss my way, very sensual, very daring and provocative, with her head slightly arching backwards, as if to bring her lips even just that little closer towards me. Completely not like the girl I was just talking to a moment ago! Of course prior to all of that I gave her my business card because of my interest in her job. So the question now remains, will I ever hear from her again? I think not, she probably will be too shy, especially after everything I said! Too bad, I would have loved to go dancing with her!
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wow, so many don't see their beauty, because society has taught them that skinny is the way a women should be, most starve themselves to get that look, I have always been curvy all my life, always had a big butt, and I was always teased about it, now that I am older, the big butt thing is in, lolol but still in some places being thin is in, I believe no one can love you unless you love yourself, no matter how you look , someone will always find a flaw, the ones that are judging aren't so hot looking themselves
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quot;no one can love you unless you love yourself". I agree with you, we are sooooooo lacking in teaching our kids the importance of self appreciation associated with positive emotions. I actually think it is done on purpose, as people with broken will are easier to control and manipulate, but I think it is stupid approach, even if for such nefarious reasons as manipulation of people. And speaking of curvy, I love the profile curves! 
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