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Damn That's Hot! - Part C
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Damn That's Hot! - Part C Here's the final installment of the series. 4 – Take an active role – One of the things I pride myself on, is the skill to ensure sex with me is more of an experience than a standalone act. Kind of like Disney World, but with sex toys. Not going to go into details beyond that it’s about setting the right mood for the direction the evening’s play is going to take, usually keying off my partner’s vibes prior to the funky stuff. I’m a Type A and very competitive, so my goal is to make my partner remember me with the right amount of dampness. Physically, I’ll work my ass off to insure she walks away with a bit of stiffness in her thighs. That being said, it’s nice, to occasionally not be the one to take the lead. Even nicer is to ensure I get to cum, from time to time. Yes, a guy just said that and this is not an alternate universe. You see, after 45 minutes of proper thrusting, one’s johnsonrod tends to become desensitized. Plus, by that point, I’m hitting the wall, in terms of general stamina. Throw in more than one partner who could be referred to as ‘gushers’ (where friction becomes almost non-existent), then add certain women’s tendency to buck their hips when they orgasm, and you wind up having a coronary before your own orgasm. Again, I’m all about pleasing my partner but, if we’ve had sex half a dozen times and I haven’t had an orgasm, I’m probably gonna lose some interest. Yeah, it’s nice to hear ‘you’ve screwed me into a catatonic state’ or ‘I think you broke me’ but, for cryin’ out loud, suck it up and finish me off once in a while! 5 – The right amount of submissiveness – Being a Type A personality, both in and out of the bedroom, it follows that I appreciate when my partner is on the submissive side. Surprisingly, this isn’t as important as I’d initially thought. In fact, there is such a thing as a partner being too submissive for me. Exhibit A would be a woman I dated for a year or so. She was incredibly sub in the sack. It seemed that no matter what I envisioned in terms of dominating her, she would get more excited. Tie her to the bed and violate her in nasty ways? She was in. Inflict pain and humiliation? She’d be first in line. You’d think that having what I would consider the ultimate fuck toy would be awesome. And it was, for a while. But I ultimately hit the realization, much like in some of the other examples, that I was doing all the work, all the time. It seemed that there was more ‘doing to her’ than ‘doing things to each other’. Sure, I pride myself on putting in the effort blah, blah, blah. But, if I’m the only one putting in any effort in the bedroom, you’d better start putting effort elsewhere, like cleaning my kitchen. Yes, that was a chauvinistic comment and I’ll own it. 6 – A Connection – Yep, it helps to respect the person you’re about to get naked with. To want to spend time with them beyond the bedroom. It makes you want to put the effort into making the experience as gratifying for both parties as possible. Respect is so key for me, in terms of sleeping with someone. As I told a woman I was dating, I truly can’t treat a woman like a unless I respect her. Respect builds trust and trust is crucial toward trying things that push your partner’s comfort envelope. Without it, how can you ever expect him/her to live out your fantasy of having sex dressed as Rocky and Bullwinkle, while riding a unicycle through an actuarial convention? It just isn’t gonna happen, no matter how you attempt to convince your partner how hot it would be. So, that’s my list. Sure, there are other things that are nice to have, like your partner being vocal (but don’t blow out my eardrums while my head is next to yours!), but those are the attributes that I’ve found rock my world. Which begs the question to my readers – what do you find to be world rocking in a partner? I’d enjoy hearing what others find to be complete turn-ons. |
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Intelligence, honesty, respect, humor, and kindness. Those are all my turn ons. Of course there has to be some physical attraction too. I cannot be submissive in sex. I have to take an active role. I think sex should be a 50/50 arrangement.
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Respect is a must when there is a desire to achieve that perfect balance in "give and take" with your chosen partner. I have searched hi and low to find my perfect partner and lover which finally came about 7 months ago.
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