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How to meet women on AFF
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How to meet women on AFF I've been on Polyamory Date off and on since about 2004. When I'm bored I'll hop into a chat room or browse blogs to kill some time. The one thing I often notice are the "newbies" (Guys) crying about how there aren't any real women on here, or how they never can meet anyone. I've been successful on Polyamory Date and I can't say at some point I wasn't one of those very same individuals. So I thought I would try to help you guys out. The women I've met on here and hung out with helped add some perspective on this very topic over the years. So here we go! So before we start, I can tell you now YOU WILL NOT GET LAID THE FIRST DAY ON THE SITE! I was on here 2 months before I even met someone in person. 1 ) Be real! I'm not saying be a real person, I'm saying be yourself. Since the day she came back from summer vacation with boobs way back in 8th grade guys with raging hormones have been chasing her down trying to separate her from her clothes. By the time she was 23 and out of college shes heard it all, had just about every trick, tale, and act of coercion tried. By the time she got to Polyamory Date she has a PhD in spotting bullshit from a blimp through London fog. You will be red flagged and shot down before you ever get off the ground. ALWAYS BE YOURSELF! Besides everyone else is already taken. 2 ) If her profile says "Women Only" she actually means WOMEN ONLY! Don't bug her don't message her, shes already spelled it out. 3 ) On your first message, don't spell out a detailed checklist of what you want to do to her body. She knows what kind of site this is and besides you haven't even had a conversation yet and don't even know the rules of the course. You damn sure aren't going to play the course before she outlines what she's looking for. 4 ) This site does not mean you will get laid any easier than if you were at a bar or out and about. Same rules apply here as they would in the real world. The major difference is if you are looking for a particular experience you have an avenue here to find like minded women that are comfortable enough to possibly make that happen for you. 5 ) Stop sending pictures of your dick! If you have a picture of your dick as your main photo change it immediately! She absolutely knows what one looks like and is probably going to be more turned on by your body, charm, and wit. Those three things will get you laid much quicker than a picture of your dick. Not saying somewhere down the road she may not ask to see it, but she is most certainly more interested in the person attached to the dick than the dick itself. 6 ) Don't be a stalker! Stop sending 10 messages a day. If she hasn't replied back to you within 5 days move on. Disclaimer: There is a chance that she gets "several" message a day and yours might have gotten over looked. After 5 days you can chance sending another one but after that, if no reply she isn't interested. 7 ) If you agree to a meet, make sure it's in a public place. For your safety and hers. DO NOT STAND HER UP! You do this, and it's over! You will not get a second chance, I can assure you SHE has plenty of options where you may only have a few. 8 ) Be a gentleman, stop acting like a hormone raging neanderthal. Good manners, being respectful, and paying attention will get you everything you are searching for. Just because you have a dick doesn't mean you should be one. 9 ) Be honest and upfront about what you are looking for out of this site. Chances are there are more than a few looking for the same thing. 10 ) Be her friend first, chat and exchange messages. Pay attention to what she is saying ask for clarification if you need it. Make it about her, she will take care of you. The plus to this is you will probably get invited back. 11 ) Last but not least, don't be pushy. She maybe shy, she may not know exactly what she is seeking. Give her time, and let it be on her terms. And most importantly...don't forget to be a gentleman!!! Ladies, if you have anything to add, please let the guys know with you comments! 
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so long whose gone go through it
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