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I Accidentaly Asked Her Out
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I Accidentaly Asked Her Out  I showed up early for school on Wednesday. This allows me some time to get into the<b> library </font></b>to use the computers and basically gather myself up before I hit the campus running. You see, this term the classes I wanted to take all seemed to converge on the same days. This also means I'm in class without just enough time to get from to the other without any kind of break from 830 in the morning until well after lunch. In each case my last class of the day is my human sexuality course. So I am usually rushed getting to it and absolutely starving to death during it, shaking with hunger and my mind is only on "where's the food" by the time it ends. Knowing that its a little difficult for me to think during that class, I do a little class prep in the librabry early in the morning for it. This past Wednesday I had to come prepared with some topics of interest for a presentation that we have to give in that class with our classmates. I had to take said topics and find like minded individuals to form a group with. I found my group and most of what had on my list under "Online Dating". There were other topics like attraction and female hysteria... But I'm over the investigation into attraction, and I'm not into the history of hysteria. I learned moat of what I know about online dating through here actually.... When I wasn't looking.  I came here in '06 or '07. I can't remember exactly, but it was about the same time as when Furbal who's Blog is Journal of a Taxi Driver started here. Maybe I should go head over there and see when his first blogs appeared? I think I wanted to quickly visit the past just to say that I wasn't here to perv profiles for dates. I was married back then and was recommended to come here to blog. Let me explain... I had a problem surrounding sex. Rather I had a problem talking about sex. Time and money for a therapist was out of the question at the time and I had no social circle who would've supported sex talk. Nor would they have supported my marital problem. I mentioned this to someone and they said something to the effect of maybe writing about sex on this site as a way to get more comfortable discussing it out in the real world. It made sense to me at the time, not sure if it makes sense to you, but that's what I did. And it worked.  Turns out I got rrrrrrreeeeaaaaaaaallll comfortable talking about sex! Got so comfortable....ummm.... My then wife got uncomfortable! lol! That's not my point.... My point is that I still had to fill out a profile, still had to listen to the ladies rant about the emails they got and had to sort out those who were trying to email me. Just by being here and blogging I learned much about online dating just by default. Which came in handy when I became single again. lol!  Back to the present.... I ended up choosing to go with the group that had Online Dating as the topic for the presentation. Most of what I had my list were in line with what the group had in mind. Attraction, how its changed us socially, how its changed the romantic landscape, etc. I'm even considering a "how to" for guys!  At the end of the class a guy in the group through out an overused and unfounded statistic. He blurted out that the odds online are worse than in person. Being a veteran, I couldn't let this slide by..... I said it depends on the message. I said if your online tactic message is just "hi, I think you're hot...wanna go out on a date?". I said that the odds for that kind of interaction would be the same in real life if you walked up to women and said the same thing. And I was proven wrong on the first try! I turned to the girl next to me. She wasn't in on the convo happening between me and the guy. She also happened to be on my team in my psych class last term. She's cute and she's young....they are all cute and young! But I turned to her looked her right in the eyes, and said "you're hot, wanna go on a date?" Expecting to get a grisly face and a no due to the abruptness and callous nature of the question. She said yes....proving me wrong right of the bat! Seems it is easier to get dates in real life. What do you think? |
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Quote: PUHLEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASE!!! Not ANOTHER 'how-to' for guys, by another guy!!! There's hundreds of them out, dispensing all sorts of bullshit information - especially when they get to the part about knowing more about a woman's body than she does. UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! . . . I actually wrote one when I first came here on how to set up their emails that they were sending out. It said alot about reading the profile and referring to it, how to set up the subject line so it gets noticed above the rabble emails (and offensive) the women on here have to endure to be a part of this site. It kinda revived good reviews at the time. Also helped me get up on the most read guys list. What I learned doing that at the time was guys weren't listening to the women's blogs. But they were reading a guys advice about it. . As to sex related talk..... A guy might listen to what his woman wants to say. By all rights he should. When that fails he goes to his peers. If his peers are saying the same thing...then the message has a better chance to get out. Doesn't it? I could be wrong..... Then there are those that will do whatever they want no matter what. I, nor you, can do anything about that. But doing what we can, where we can to make the most impact is probably the best we can do.
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i like confidence in a man, and the one man that has the balls to email me will get a response.. i sent out a few emails to men on other sites, and got no response. I think men use the online sites as a place to hide behind and not get out into the real world... many are players as well. and forged, do you not believe in packing a lunch and takings protein snacks with you like nuts or an apple or something like that to eat throughout your day? shees my goldball expires soon, so i will be deleting my profile again. not much going on with this site, and it's beginning to bore me, even reading blogs.. (not ours of course) will digit you when i am heading out west, have a super date! jules xo Come leave me some thoughts forujules I'd love to read them~xo~
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2010 really? I thought.... Well doesn't matter right now what I thought! lol! I guess I laid low for a long time.... But I agree that some history or some background is what wins the "YES's" from the ladies. I have found that you have a Berger chance if you refer to somethinng in their profile and maybe about three to five more messages before it turns into an actual in person meet. (not meeting elsewhere or reading blogs not included) I have been told by women I meet in person that I have been the first guy who wrote a decent email. "hey you're hot" being the most prevalent! lol!
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 I think that telling someone that you think they're hot in person is probably quite a bit different and doing so online.  There just needs to be more to separate yourself from the masses in an online format.  Wow. These must have really been some long years for you.  I didn't join this site until 2010 and I started my blog in March of that year. 
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