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Age: Is it just a number, or something more?
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Age: Is it just a number, or something more? (DISCLAIMER: I shouldn't have to say this, but just so it doesn't go unsaid, let me say for the record that when I'm talking about the notion of sex with somebody significantly younger, I'm OBVIOUSLY talking about somebody who is already ABOVE THE AGE OF CONSENT!! So get yer minds outta the gutter, ya pervs! lol) I've been on this site for quite some time now, and if there's one thing I've noticed, it's that the age(s) of a potential partner seems to be becoming a bigger and bigger deal to more and more people (or at least women-can't say I exactly check out other guys profiles, so I don't know if the same holds true for us males). It didn't always used to be, though. When I was first on here, I rarely saw people put down "Ages __ to ___ ONLY!" or "Nobody over (under) __ years of age need write". Now I not only see it all the time, but it seems like as time goes on, the "leeway" a lot of people are willing to give when it comes to a potential partner's age is getting slimmer and slimmer. Far be it from me to critise anyone's personal tastes/preferences, but I guess my innate sense of curiosity makes me wonder "why this is"? Maybe I'm in the minority, but I have to honestly say, age-either when it comes to having people as friends and/or as sex partners has never been a big issue for me. A cool person is a cool person, regardless of age. And an attractive woman is an attractive woman, regardless of age (have any of y'all seen Raquel Welch in those Foster Grant commercials she's doing these days? She's close to 70 now, and can you say "HOTTIE"? I thought you could! lol). All my life, even as a , I've always had friends who were older than me, and also younger than me. Part of that may be that I've always had a very strong innate curiosity about people (my dad was a Sociology prof., so I guess the acorn don't fall too far from the tree....), and have always enjoyed getting to know very diverse kinds of people, of very different races, religions, ethnicities, interests, hobbies, politics, and yes....ages. And usually, even if the age difference is quite marked, I still manage to find some sort of "common ground" (and yes, other than sexual desire! lol) with most people. Plus, the differences that are there often make for some very stimulating conversations-conversations that I usually find myself growing as person because of. And of course, as I've alluded to, this has also reached over into my love/sex lives. The first girl I was ever "with", when I was a sophomore in H.S., was a year and a half younger. My first serious relationship was with a woman who was 30 when we first started going together. And me? At the time, I had just had my 19th birthday. We were together for 6 1/2 years. Then there's my spouse, who's a month and a half shy of 15 years my senior (and no, I don't have a thing for "older women"-just worked out that way! lol). And in the last 10 years, I've had a LTR with a woman almost 14 years older, and FWB situations with women as much as 10 years older, and 13 1/2 years younger. All of them were attractive, mature, fun individuals. (Can you guess that I've never much cared for the term "cradle robber"? I've always considered it asinine, narrow-minded, and stupid.) However, I don't want to discount "age" entirely! There are some people who don't "age well". There are some people who get the dumb impression that being a certain age (esp. among those younger than me) means acting a certain (usually rather stupid) way. There are people older than me who seem to think that age is a barrier to learning new things (sexually or otherwise). But really, even then only the first one has anything to do with chronological age. The others are more about attitude than anything else. I guess the way I see it, while I obviously can't critisise someone for their standards or taste when it comes to what people they want to associate/have sex with, I also can't help but think if maybe sometimes people on here (I haven't noticed age being as much of a "big deal" on other adult sex sites, but that's just my observation) don't get a little too picky about the age thing. I know that each of my friendships I've had with someone significantly younger or older than me have enriched me, not just sexually, but as a total person as well. I wouldn't trade any of them for anything. (And yes, I've had-and of course played with-people my own age too, and they have been great too! But I am trying largely to focus on the notion of divergent ages on this occasion....) I guess the only thing that I'd like to do different in the future is have some more friends/partners that are significantly younger than me. I suppose the reason for that is that the vast majority of partners I've had in the past have either been about my own age, or seriously older (10-15 years). Obviously, I've had a few majorly younger partners, but not nearly as many as same age or older. It'd actually be kind of nice to have some younger ones for a change; the younger ones I've had in the past I've found have brought a freshness and vigor to both the sex and the overall friendship that was unlike anything else I'd ever experienced. It'd be great to have some more of that. How much younger would I be open to "getting together" with? Well, all other things being equal with the things I've mentioned above, I'd have no problem with 15-20 years difference....or even 25. Why the hell not? If we're both adults, both attracted to each other personally and sexually.... More than 25? Welllll....as I mentioned above, if the person is "of age", and we're both attracted to each other, and feel a desiring for each other sexually (and yeah, I know the chances of that are slim to more likely none, though stranger things have happened....), I wouldn't automatically put it beyond the realm of possibility! So anyway, though you probably can guess what it'll be, my answer to my own question is....Sometimes yes, it is more than just a number. But most of the time, for me at least, it ain't! Vive la difference! |
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it all really depends on the people involved in my opinion and my experiences 
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Speaking as someone who is married to a woman 15 years older than himself, I can see part of your point. But I guess it's about personal preferences as well. I couldn't kick it with a woman that close to my mom's age. It's a personal preference. But my age range does have a wide variance to it. Great topic.
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