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Blogs > OlderButNot2Old2 > Male Female Male Threesomes

AFF’s Instant Messaging and Email Systems  

OlderButNot2Old2 73G
110 posts
5/19/2015 3:48 pm
AFF’s Instant Messaging and Email Systems

I am frequently being asked why the never see me logged into the IM system when they can see that I am logged into my account. I very seldom use Polyamory Date’s instant messaging system for two very distinct and valid reasons. The first is that I put a lot of time and energy into my profile explaining who I am and what I am looking for sexually. It includes a lot of honest details and descriptions, both the good and the bad. When I do log into the IM system it seems I only hear from standard members. Since they cannot view profiles, I wind up spending too much time explaining who I am and what I am looking for sexually which is unnecessary chatter if they had read my profile. The second reason is that either mine or the person I am talking to has the system lock up and become unresponsive. The times I do log into the system I tend to only respond to premium members who are local.

I have been a member of Polyamory Date’s community for many years and have found their email system to be very unreliable. There has been too many times that I responded to someone’s email or initiated one myself to get no response. After much trial and error I have learned after a while to send a follow up email stating that since I did not hear back from them that I am going to assume they aren’t interested. Many times I get an answer to the second email telling me they never got my first email. I know that Polyamory Date does some monitoring and censuring if you try to include an email address in the early correspondence. Bearing that in mind I have learned to break up my early correspondence into several emails so I can get past this censoring and include an email address. I tend to be detailed oriented and my emails can get quite lengthy and exceed Polyamory Date’s capacity for one email. Those are the reasons I quickly try to move away from their email system when I find someone of interest.



Floridagroupfun 67M/70F
6 posts
6/6/2015 9:43 pm

 Do not have any problems with the emails... but the IM should get a over haul.


OlderButNot2Old2 73G

5/19/2015 6:14 pm

 Leegs2012 that works for you but not for me. I put enough information in my profile and correspondence that when I receive an email it is usually a serious inquiry


Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
5/19/2015 4:59 pm

 I try to keep my emails short and simple. That's seems to work.


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