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Blogs > hornyguyMN > Inside my head

I like to watch ....  

hornyguyMN 43M
2355 posts
9/3/2011 1:05 am
I like to watch ....


I'll get to the meaning of the title later. But first there have been a lot of posts about love and relationships recently. Posts that I have read and commented on. Despite he fact that I've never actually had a romantic relationship. No I'm not being self deprecating, just stating a fact.

Yet even though I have never had a relationship, and really don't feel I understand them well. There are some out there that always seem to praise me for being smart and understanding them. How can I supposedly understand something so well that I have never had?

I have thinking about this for a few days now. The only answer I can come up with is that I'm an observer or a watcher if you will. Those of you that have met me in person might have figured this out already. Yes I am shy and don't say a lot sometimes. But I am always watching the people around me.

I observe and record (filing things away in my head), and try to never interfere. I don't catch everything and it is no real replacement for actual experience. But it's amazing the things you can pick up when you watch. You can tell which couples are having problems, which ones are still in the honeymoon stage and sometimes which ones will be getting it on as soon as they are alone.

Why do I bring this up now? Because in a few hours I'll be heading to one of the best places around here to people watch. I'll be off to the Minnesota State fair to hopefully have a grand ol' time. I'll be there with a group from another site that I'm on (nope not a vanilla site). So I should be wandering around the fair with a group of kinky people. And being new to the group I'm sure I will be doing a lot of watching. But with any luck maybe I will be able to do more then watching come the evening.

Okay so maybe the thought of doing more then watching after the fair is a little far fetched. Considering that very few of the people that might be there know me at all. Oh well it's nice to think about though.

So are you a watcher? What types of things do you like to watch? And bonus points for anyone that caught my subtle (or maybe they weren't so subtle) references.

sonic_n_sideshow 51M/53F
15101 posts
9/3/2011 12:28 pm

 I think there is definitely something to be said for sitting back and just taking in the others around you. Not many people listen really well anymore, I find it rare. People are quick to want to be the loudest centre of attention at a gathering, but I am definitely more apt to be drawn to a person in a social setting who is not so flamboyant and attention- seeking. I would rather congregate with the other observers.
I am a celebration of willful chaos and a hugger.


hornyguyMN replies on 9/3/2011 9:16 pm:
The down side to being an observer is that the people that are quick to be the loudest and most flamboyant, often seem to get what you as the observer would like to have. At least that is my experience. But you are right, not many people listen well anymore. People are often surprised that I can recall things because I actually listened to what they had to say. Even if I didn't say much.

AudioFilly 58F  
1897 posts
9/3/2011 11:06 pm

 I hope you had a terrific time at the fair today. And whether you score or not I hope you make new friends. You just never know when you may meet someone who may know that someone special that has been waiting just for you. The lucky woman that will reap the benefits of all your time spent in observation all the while becoming more & more savvy in the ways of a good relationship.

Learning the easier, but usually more painful, way from other's mistakes & foibles. Easier because you can observe from a distance, but more painful because you suffer for your friends while unable to relieve their pain.

I don't know if I caught any subtle references you intended. I do know that the title is a quote from a Peter Sellers movie, 'Being There.' Chauncey tells this woman, "I like to watch..." He is meaning television, but she thinks he means her as she arouses herself.


hornyguyMN replies on 9/4/2011 11:39 am:
There will be a post about the fair probably later tonight or tomorrow. But I will say that I didn't score. No big surprise there though.

hornyguyMN replies on 9/4/2011 11:39 am:
PS. .... Nope you missed the reference. And here I though you would catch it.

LadyUnlaced 49F
34177 posts
9/4/2011 7:58 am

 I'm not the shy type but I like to observe too. If I get quiet in a group situation that's usually what I'm doing.

Dynamics between couples has always fascinated me. I'm sure my relationships make no sense to an outsider so I try not to judge other couples. If it works for them.... but yes, I do think I can tell when something is off.
Free your mind. Open your heart. Move a mountain. An Open Book...

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hornyguyMN replies on 9/4/2011 11:44 am:
I never presume to judge the dynamics of any couple. Sometimes I can tell something is off. Sometimes I can't. But I always try to learn, hopefully someday all this watching will bare some fruit.

rm_geysergirl 59F
10799 posts
9/4/2011 11:59 am

 I enjoy people watching... the interactions of people together or even how a person handles themselves when alone..

hope you enjoyed the fair, the people watching and any other kinky things you got yourself into..
Captivate my mind...and who knows what will follow. Discover more of my ramblings at [blog geysergirl]


hornyguyMN replies on 9/4/2011 1:19 pm:
People watching can be a lot of fun. And I had fun doing some that at the fair. Unfortunately I did not get myself "into" anything kinky ... yet.

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