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Am I too smart for my own good?
Am I too smart for my own good? Ok this is a new one... I saw this woman's new profile on here, so I checked it out. She seemed normal, so I took a chance, sent a message to introduce myself: Hello! I'm J, nice to meet you. I happened to see your profile and I wanted to see if you are interested in meeting up and getting to know each other. Would you be willing to meet up sometime this week so we could talk and see if we click? Sincerely, J Surprise! I got one back: thanks for the message Joseph ... my name is P.... i will love to know more about you and also meet you if possible 6/5/2019 7:57 am Ok, the nitpicky in me, she should have said "I would love..." but anyone can make mistake. But she says she wants to know more about me, so...ok fine. This is what I sent her back: Hello P..... Well not sure what I can tell you as I'm an open book on my profile, but here goes... Right now, I'm living with my mom and dad at the moment. It's not because I'm a momma's boy or I live in my basement. Right now, my mom has stage 4 colon cancer. I had to move back in to help her out due to her having previous boughs of breast cancer and lymphatic cancer, unfortunately she's been fighting it for several years now and I've been there helping around the house when I can and to provide some assistance. I've been<b> divorced </font></b>over years now. I get along as nicely as I can with my ex for the sake of my in order to be a part of their lives. I have two , both in their teens, a and a . They are really the lights of my life and I want to be a part of their life right now. I do live in the south suburbs, but I used to live in Mount Prospect, and I work in Elk Grove Village, so I'm not far from Arlington Heights, and I know the area very well here. I am planning in the next year to move out of the house and move back up here in order to be with my and live closer to work as I recently got my new job here several months ago. Not sure what else I can tell you, but if you have any more questions please let me know. Also what time this week would you like to get together? When is a good day for you so we can meet and talk? Sincerely, J I thought it was just enough info for her, not to overload her with too much. Maybe I was wrong, I dunno, but I'd rather be upfront and honest and it's what I had posted on my profile somewhat. Anwyay, a day goes by, and I see her on so I decided to say hello again: Good morning P....! How are you? Haven't heard back from you yet, so I wanted to let you know I was thinking about you today. Did you have any questions for me since you said you wanted to get to know more about me? Perhaps I could ask what do you do for a living? What are you looking for here? Is it just sex or something more? And....this is what I got back from her: you write too much message you can't expect a woman to read all i am too lazy to read What. the. F***? Huh? Is she for real? So I sent this back to her... Ummm, was a joke or are you for real? I couldn't tell because there was no goofy face emoji to indicate you were joking or not. Now here's the thing...she has multiple pictures on her profile and they all look the same. But her English and grammar really stinks. Which is kind of a yellow flag situation here. It's not a red flag, but yellow. If it were red I'd be like time to move on. But this...I dunno. Anyway, what do you folks think? Is this a keep probing more to see if this person is real or is this a red flag/time to dump this person and move on situation? What would you do if you ran across this? |
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I have to put in my 2 cents here.... we women are repeatedly reminded that this is a sex site, ... Usually when you have to repeatedly remind a very simple fact to someone, there's a cognitive problem with that person. so we're only supposed to meet to have sex...not talk. .... Again..."Not true". The reason a healthy man is trying to meet a woman, is , sure, to see if she wants to have sex.......but NOT "Only"meet to have sex. There'll be talking... but in person. IME, if a guy is not willing to actively chat for about a week before discussing meeting ......If a woman pulls this nonsense on you... "Talk to me for about a week, then maybe we'll meet".....she is out to waste your time. Women with a weight problem want to pull this trick, because she figures if she can reach his imagination, he may not reject her based on looks. he's not interested in anything but sex..... Well he is on a hookup site. You meet in person for 10 minutes... .and all you have to do, is curtsy and say, "No kind sir, I don't want to have sex with you". He's not going to shackle you and do you against your will. .........How often do you hear on the News about a woman being on a sex site , taken against her will, at a public place meeting?!
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I think she is fake. The grammar, no punctuation, curt, rude.
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whoisagentj replies on 6/6/2019 6:16 pm: I think that might have been my mistake. She asked to know more about me and I took that as an invitation to talk more, which I just should have asked "Fine, where and when do you want to me?" She asked to know more about me ......Doesn't matter if she begs to know more about you.... Always feed information about yourself, slowly, to a woman. When she's interested, your objective is to keep her interested. ...Okay, so what interests women? ...Mystery? For instance, how does a writer keep you interested in the story they tell.. ... they give you bits , here and there, to make you want to read more. So it's the same way in keeping a woman interested. So don't be a chatty Cathy. Let her be that, but only in person.
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I've been here since 2014 and have met over a dozen women in person from this site. I've met them doing what I described to the OP. I got together with most of them more then twice and several were ongoing relationships. So it work out well for me. Once again you're clueless, as you often are here, because you know nothing about me. Also, from what most of the women here have mentioned, you are clueless about them too.
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I learned the hard way to chat for a bit before meeting. So it will never be the first week of chatting that I agree to meet. Generally if a man is asking to meet right away my feeling he is looking for a quickie and gone. Honesty is great but you need to slow it down a bit.. Key points only....
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talking off site (email or text), then comes phone (voice NOT text. Then you "properly" ask a woman out on the phone if the flow / chemistry is there...... No... Absolutely not.... big waste of time, and a dead end. The idea is to meet the woman, not never meet her. You had her interest online.... you immediately move from online to offline, at some location in person. Otherwise, if you don't move it.... she has no real incentive to meet you!! You're texting, you're talking on the phone.... your dick is no where near her....you're giving her attention... she now has no incentive to meet you. Once again you're clueless, as you often are here, because you know nothing about me. Also, from what most of the women here have mentioned, you are clueless about them too. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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my grammar also fucked up but at least I never lazy to read
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FWIW, here are a few things I try to do in messaging a woman here. But, keep in mind not all women are the same. Keep the initial messages to a "reasonable" length. You don't have to explain in detail, in a message, everything. The same goes for your profile. Reason being you want to get someon'e interest but also leave something to talk about if/when you do meet. Diving into meeting in the first message generally isn't going to get you to the meeting. "Ideally" let what you say interest her enough to propose moving to the next phase, talking off site (email or text), then comes phone (voice NOT text. Then you "properly" ask a woman out on the phone if the flow / chemistry is there. The idea is to meet the woman, not never meet her. You had her interest online.... you immediately move from online to offline, at some location in person. Otherwise, if you don't move it.... she has no real incentive to meet you!! You're texting, you're talking on the phone.... your dick is no where near her....you're giving her attention... she now has no incentive to meet you.
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Would you be willing to meet up sometime this week so we could talk and see if we click?....... That was the invitation..... that requires only a "Yes, when and where" or "No" Her response: thanks for the message J ... my name is P.... i will love to know more about you and also meet you if possible All you now needed to say was, when and where you'll be today or tomorrow, and how she can spot you. you just wrecked it this time with spilling all that "Girl be gone drama" on her..
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FWIW, here are a few things I try to do in messaging a woman here. But, keep in mind not all women are the same. Keep the initial messages to a "reasonable" length. You don't have to explain in detail, in a message, everything. The same goes for your profile. Reason being you want to get someon'e interest but also leave something to talk about if/when you do meet. Diving into meeting in the first message generally isn't going to get you to the meeting. "Ideally" let what you say interest her enough to propose moving to the next phase, talking off site (email or text), then comes phone (voice NOT text. Then you "properly" ask a woman out on the phone if the flow / chemistry is there. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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6/6/2019 12:28 pm |
ask her a few simple questions- 4 or 5 and see if she answers all of them- also the key word lazy- if she is to lazy to read what you wrote- she most likely will be lazy in most other things- as far as intelligent people that depends on what you consider intelligent? (no insult intended)- research essaic tea(Ojibway tea of life) it killed my colon cancer- prayers to your mom
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6/6/2019 12:13 pm |
ask her a few simple questions- 4 or 5 and see if she answers all of them- also the key word lazy- if she is to lazy to read what you wrote- she most likely will be lazy in most other things- as far as intelligent people that depends on what you consider intelligent? (no insult intended)- research essaic tea(Ojibway tea of life) it killed my colon cancer- prayers to your mom
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Hello
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Seriously, this is why guys get frazzled when it comes to stuff like this. I don't want to say all women do this, because they don't, but have people become so lazy that they don't want to read or talk to intelligent people?
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