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Single males, do you really want to be with a couple?
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Single males, do you really want to be with a couple? I am just curious, maybe someone can help me out here. To get in the mind of a single male. Maybe I don't want to. Is it the dick in the pants or the dick in the head talking? Every once in a while if you are a single male on our friends list, you may notice that you get dropped off for no reason. Well here is the reason. I get sick, and tired of men that are so eager to meet, so I give in set up a time, place etc. only to get the fake excuse why you can't meet. I get it.. you got cold feet. its ok... just be honest, and tell us that you got cold feet. I can deal with that. Anyone that has actually met us, knows that I like to get to know someone first. If there isn't a connection then nothing happens.. We don't mind meeting people, some of our best friends are in the lifestyle, and we have never played together. Nothing is ever guaranteed. We have not met some people just because I wouldn't give a guarantee. By all means, if you want to meet that is great. The only thing is get your crap straight first. Don't be all fired ready to meet then cancel, then say lets meet, then say oh I think I have a steady gf. Really? if you have a steady gf then why the hell are you doing this in the first place? If your married and posing as single.. we aren't interested.. We choose not to play with married people that are not involving their spouses. We are not judging here, just not participating. Are we the only ones that deal with this? Do women do this as well? Let's just all be adults here. It has been along time since I have been in High School, I don't want to go back. So, if your a single male and you get some attitude from us, sorry, this is why. If you want to post comments go ahead. I would like to hear others opinions on this. On a brighter note. We hope everyone has an awesome 2016 if we see you on New years eve and get to celebrate the bringing in the new year with you great, if not have a great one anyway. |
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I have 2 say I like ur message about wanting 2 get know singles males. As for me I am single male. The part like best was the 2 of u wanting 2 meet. Then getting 2 know each other. One thing I think u are truly right about is a connection. Meaning if their isn't some kind of connection. Then it's probably going 2 make for an awkard situation down the road.
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You go girl!! I think a lot of people here need some of that advice. Single males that act like that make it harder for guys like me, who do show up every time. Im sure couples and girls do it to, however I dont recall but once when a couple didn't show up. I never contacted them again, which is usually the way most people react. So not only are no show males bad for me, the aren't doing themselves any favors either. Here is some good advice for guys.....stop jerking off! Have a bit O self control. I'm not saying stop completely but if you plan on meeting a couple take it a bit more seriously...after all they are inviting YOU into the most intimate part of their relationship! Another piece of advice...don't expect to get laid. It isn't up to you...its up to them....mostly her. If the woman isnt comfortable nothing is going to happen. Thats the way it works. They have a right to be picky, or want some kind of connection. I like to meet couples first anyway...especially if I am hosting at my house. I have no problem when they say they they no sex likely on the first meet. (usually it happens anyway if you can hold a conversation and smile a lot) For two reasons , while I dont get nervous anymore, guys getting into this do, it takes the pressure off and gets you used to the idea of not expecting to get laid. Second.....it gives me a way out if I don't like what I'm hearing or seeing! So the moral of the story...don't be a flake, take it more seriously and you have more and better success! 
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Yeah... Lol. There are a lot of nut's on this site and I'm sure other sites that make it tough for everyone to find legitimate fun and friends. As a single guy I've met with a few couples and have both met first for drinks and also went right to their home and if I've committed to meeting I'll be there. I definitely agree that meeting for drinks or something similar a time or two and getting to know people first definitely leads to better fun and play. Everyone's more comfortable. I've also run into 'couples' that turn out to be not what they advertised also. Meeting first for coffee or drinks also helps weed out some of that. If they flake on that meeting you're still good for the coffee or cocktail. I saw one members status line that I liked.... 'this place is a psychologist's wet dream'. Have a great 2016!
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I like what the gentleman above me posted. To keep it simple, being single, I have come to enjoy being the 'boy toy' for the few encounters I've had. We are there to have fun, and that's it. I have friendships with them, and getting to pleasure the wife is a bonus. I think the common point from other's posts was be respectful. She is in control and you are invited to share another man's wife.
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Very interesting subject. And I must say, the content was not what I was expecting from the title. Addressing the content. I much prefer a meet and greet up front. I may not click with you and/or you may not click with me. It’s really quite simple. I have been in situations where the clothes came off way too soon and the result was a disappointing encounter for all involved. That said, in days gone by, random encounters can be quite exciting and one hell of a lot of fun, but there’s usually some common denominator to begin with. Mutual friends. Impromptu party turning into an all out group grope, etc. But situations like this, meeting people on line, usually turn out better with a couple of drinks or a coffee date, and conversation. Commitment is very important as well. “I will be there” means you be there. Yes, life sometimes happens. But lame excuses don’t cut it. “I’m sorry, but I changed my mind. I don’t think this is for me.” Is honest and understood. It also leaves to door open for further conversation. What I thought the title was going for. Hey guys, why are you looking to do this. Are you just after the hot female? If that’s what the couple is looking for that’s fine. Just don’t pretend to be bi-curious and then freak out when the guys tallywhacker happens to touch you. There’s a reverse side to that as well. Don’t be a dick just because you want to get rammed by that guy with the beautiful tool and not interact with her. Another good reason for conversation. If you’re bi-curious, let them know. Tell them about any experiences you have had and what’s on your mind that makes you so curious. An experienced couple will, if there is a connection after the conversation, know what to expect and will have helped you to understand what to expect once the clothes come off. In other words, done be a dick. Honesty up front will go a long way to make the encounter an exciting one. Just my thoughts.
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Thank you for you thoughts.. 
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thank you all for your comments. Since I wrote this we have had some of those "flakes" contact us like nothing ever happened. Like we just had the most awesome conversation yesterday. Really? lets just call it like it is.. Be up front and Honest. If you met a gal and you thought it was going to be forever cool. You got scared. fine no problem. Just don't blame us like it was our fault that we didnt meet. Just my two cents worth here.
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