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MEN "PLEASE" DON'T ....
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MEN "PLEASE" DON'T .... This is a rewritten and edited version of a post I made quite some time ago and I will probably post it again in a few more months. I would never expect anyone to read all of my posts, and this one may help some of you.  , as I'm sure I'm not the only woman that feels this way.......and, Yes, these are some of the messages I have received on numerous occasions.. MEN…. Don’t.... Don’t send me a message saying, “Wanna fuck?” I’ll know you didn’t bother reading my profile. Don’t send me a message that says, “You look hot.” Pictures sometimes lie. I actually have a wooden leg, a glass eye, a large wart on my nose, wrinkles the size of the grand canyon and a slight hump on my back. Do ya still ‘wanna’? Don’t send me a message that says, “You’ll love my big cock.” Whether it’s big or small is irrelavent. Apparently you love it, but do you know what to do with it? Don’t send me a message that says, “I can give oral sex all night long.” You can’t.. There isn’t a man alive that can keep up with a real woman. Don’t send me a message that says, “I’m the best you’ll ever have.” LOL, sorry I had to laugh at that one. All men feel that way, but only one can take that title. Don’t send me a message that says, “Let’s get together tonight.” Reread the answer to number 1. I don’t date strangers, only men willing to invest the time to get to know one another first. If I don’t feel comfortable with you it won’t be a pleasant evening for either of us. Don’t send me a message that says, “Marry me.” That simply doesn’t need an explanation. Get help. Don’t send me a message that says, “I love you.” Apparently you don’t know the meaning of the word. Don’t send me a message that says, “You’re everything I want in a woman.” I probably am, but you don’t know me. I could be a real terror.  Don’t send me a message that says, “I know I’m only 20 ish, but I love older women” Just tell me you don’t know much and would like a few lessons. *************************************** MEN DO..... Do be sincere and HONEST in all things..NO games! Do take the time to read my profile. Do send a picture of your face, and not Mr Happy. Leave a little mystery and I will simply assume that you come equipped. Do have a touch of class and know how to treat a woman with respect. Do enjoy a very affectionate, hands on relationship. Do be sensitive and compassionate to those known and unknown. Do be passionate about life and those things that are important to you, as well as in the bedroom.. Do realize that, at least with me, one night stands are out of the question. I place a much higher value on myself. Do have a great sense of humor and a healthy attitude. Do leave your baggage behind. I'm nothing like that 'other' woman. Do…..send me a message that let’s me know who you are, not what you want me to believe. We can all make changes in ourselves to please the one we care about, but not if it compromises our ideals or our principles. I wouldn’t want you to do that and I certainly won’t. Please excuse me if I sound bitchy or demanding, (I sound that way to me), but I know what I want and what I deserve, and I won't settle for less than I'm willing to give in return. |
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1/28/2008 2:43 am |
Oh yes. We've all been there! You can always include a link to this post in your profile and in your blog header. And even in your auto reply to their e-mails if you feel like it. Sadly, 90% of them still won't see it. I don't think their little heads can read.  I have a comment in my auto reply to say I only reply to men with whom I'm familiar via my blog and then give a link to my blog. Only 2 men have made it through, so far. Blogito ergo sum.
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1/28/2008 2:44 am |
oh my God, i just wrote something similar in spanish!!!!! what is the matter with the men here? Inteligencia=erotismo 
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You really know how to tie a man's hands behind his back, don't you? No, really, don't you?  We get strange letters too. I was thinking about doing a post on one I just got.   The perversity of the universe is unbounded.
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1/28/2008 1:10 pm |
geez, I'm down to "How's the weather?" *S* I really don't understand those approaches, but the lines must work once in a while ... or those guys are REALLY stupid. btw, you do look hot ... glass eyes turn me on ... LOL Blogging: It is Cheaper Than Therapy !
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1/28/2008 1:59 pm |
Hi Bonnie--Enjoyed the re-read & will continue to Heed~~ Be Safe/Warm Hugs--Bill I came into this world with nothing, and I have most of it left~~
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2/19/2008 11:27 pm |
I once thought that the primary issue in all this was timing, that saying just about anything was ok as long as you waited for the right moment. But nope. It appears that there's also a zen aspect to all this - the more one pursues something the more quickly it disappears before you, just as the more one demands something the less likely it is to be given. Anything taken rather than received is by definition not love at all but rather opportunistic plumbing often procured by force. The cool thing about sites like this is that it doesn't matter as much as it once did that the few people who find a given person attractive are needles in a haystack, because they can be found this way with relative ease. My point is that this, finding someone who really loves YOU, might give everyone a chance to do what Bonnie is asking for, only with someone who could be in love with them. I doubt that she could be, but in giving them such a basic message she's doing them a great favor, doing a loving act, giving something away. IMHO the guys who come in with guns ablaze, like the women who crawl around writhing like irritated snakes, both thinking that's somehow going to work for them, will find what they probably deserve in each other, God blessem. What makes this important in my mind is that it's the experience of being loved that humbles us away from such absurd strutting that really shouldn't be found outside a zoo, and gives a chance to love and be loving in return quite apart from whether or not your package won anything at the state fair last year. Thanks, Bonnie, for a 2x4 over the head for some of the more obtuse among us, category some of us may swerve into from time to time farther than we may want to admit.
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Hi Bonnie: I agree with your rules and, in fact, not only are they reasonable but sensible. And no, I don't think you sound bitchy and demanding. More women should demand the respect and consideration they deserve because if they did, less men would be inclined to act in this fashion. That would make it far easier for us gentlemen to be heard and appreciated for who and what we are. As to understanding one's physical limitations, a woman is far more than the simple sum of their body parts. Thanks for keeping it real and letting us know what you want. That removes the guess work when trying to determine what a lady wants.
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Of course not! I prefer to know exactly how a person feels and I don't fear worthwhile people who are my equal. Besides, I do practice the do's and don't practice the don'ts so I have nothing be concerned about.{=}
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Thank you Bonnie. That's the highest compliment that anyone could ever give me. 
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3/23/2008 12:47 am |
I have read the above Blog and must agree that some of the things listed-do happen. But I believe in being honest to a beautiful lady with a wooden leg, glass eye and warts but the wrinkles as deep as the Grand Canyon-I don't know, that's deep !!! As for the hump, it could give you a rocking motion during sex ???? Ha!! Ha!! I Love your humor but also your seriousness and respect a lady like that-well I respect most ladies but it's some women that give ladies a bad rep. Also thought your photos were great but really liked the B&W one the best because it is you and not the model. I think you would be a fun lady to get to know-even if she is a little "bitchy"(as you say) Thanx & a hand for the lady 
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5/16/2008 4:17 pm |
Bonnie, I wrote you a poem and got redirected to your blog. I came, I saw and I agree. I don't care what kind of site we're on, its all about respect. I always believed if you don't have anything good to say - don't say anything. My being on your blog is just to tell you I appreciate your pictures and I like your philosophy. Have a great day. BTW - Though you may not agree I do believe in saying whats on your mind as in you are a beautiful lady. Notice I didn't say person because I don't know you and I have known beautiful ladies that wern't beautiful people. Kisses
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I took your advice and read your blog. Interesting to say the least. I can't believe there are guys stupid enough to say those things. But here is a question: I am honest, a somewhat good looking guy, and somewhat successful... how do you make that clear to someone when these other idiots are messing things up? I have been on this site for 7 months, and only met one person... most women, don't even respond to messages I send. I am beginning to believe the old saying that " nice guys finish last" is really true. What is your take?
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7/29/2008 9:18 am |
As with all things, "this to shall pass". OK so now your wondering, what the hell. (Shrugging shoulders) I heard it used on a radio show this morning and just wanted to use it, so there. I do find it amusing that some women with seemingly high standards (and you do fit the bill) are members on this site, and are surprised by the responses they get. Consider the source. I do take the time to read profiles and try to look under the veneer. You actually have an opinion, standards and, by all appearances are classy. Thanks for that at least. Wouldn't mind talking to you.
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Well well sweet lady. I read your profile & blogs. Thank you for reminding us of the do's & dont's. I am impressed in all of the great men, (and women) here who have taken the time to write back to you. You have inspired us to look deeper, not only at your profile, but also within ourselves. This is a sign of a true goddess...
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Well said!!!!
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You are more than welcome. Another very sweet reaponse to what I felt was a simple truth. I'm sure there is much about you to be complimented... 
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