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Can we?
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Can we? I've always been told that men and women can't be friends. They are either in a relationship or they aren't. I don't believe that. I have plenty of guy friends. I love each and every one of them, but I don't want to date them, and most I wouldn't even consider having sex with because we're friends. (And many of my male friends are hot) Yet we're able to be friends...and the one or two guys that I'm friends with and have slept with, things are still cool. They know I'm not looking for more from them, I only want an occasional good time. And to be clear, it's my choice to not offer up the option of not having sex with my male friends. One response was that I must be ugly if none of the men want to have sex with me. Nowhere in this blog did I say they didn't. There has been interest from some, but as much as I love sex, I just wasn't feeling it with those particular men. I've got a pretty face, but I'm bigger than most guys are interested in...they just don't know what they're missing lol. Then there are guys that I've hooked up with and apparently they believe that I'm not capable of being friends with someone I'm having sex with. That's actually what I'm looking for. A friend that I'm comfortable with. I can let loose and not be all nervous. But the guys I've met in the past year seem to think I want more. Nothing I say gets through to them. They have been nice enough guys, and I've been lucky, most of them were fabulous in bed, but they are guys I know I can't date. I went let myself go there. I just want sex. I don't want to continually meet new men. I want to find a few guys I'm comfortable with and have fun with them. When they seem to be cool with the friends thing, then ignore me and treat me as if I don't exist, I have a problem with that. I have all of these thoughts going through my head. "Am I that horrible?" I know I'm not, but sometimes the thoughts pop up. Do you think men and women can exist as friends, even with sex, and not ruin the friendship? I do. Even when the sex ends, I've been able to maintain some friendships. I guess I'm just disappointed. There are a few guys that I enjoyed sex with and felt they could be guys I could be friends with, only to be brushed off. I don't know why. I didn't want more than friendship and sex, but I guess even that was too much. Since the seeming rejections, I've found myself having a hard time allowing myself to meet new guys. I want to have sex, but my trust in guys and myself is pretty low at this point. I'll get over it, it's just frustrating when a guy deems me ok to fuck, but not good enough to be friends with. Lol it's pretty sad, because a couple of the men were guys I could see myself talking sports with. But I have impressed a couple of my newer guy friends with my knowledge of sports, baseball in particular. So I'm good. Hee not one I can have sex with, even though he's hotter than hell...he's married, so I'd never cross that line. We'll be sports buddies, and I'm fine with that. Even add hot as he is, if he was single, I still don't think I'd want to have sex with him. I'm very selective of who I get into bed with. And if you get a repeat invitation, I truly enjoyed the first encounter. Anyways...guess it's time to open myself up to new friendships. I say men and women can be friends...you? |
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I only have a couple of female friends and tons of male friends I have found that females are hard to get along with. If they have a boyfriend they think you want their man. So I prefer male friends over female LadyTeddieBear 
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I can't make you fit my idea of a relationship, so if you want to be just friends, or FWB, or just a fuck buddy, I have no right to try and change that. I must accept every relationship for what the other person is offering. So of course there must be friendships between men and women that have nothing else than being friends. And the ones I've had have been a lot of fun! I respect what the lady is offering, and I respond in the same way. Signed with a hug Sealed with a kiss and Delivered with a beating heart 
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I've had several female friends I've had sex with, we are still friends to this day, some of those friends have gone on to have long term relationships with a new guy and I wish them all the best with that. It doesn't mean the end of the friendship at all to either of us. I still have one female friend who occasionally uses me as a 'booty call', we rarely see each other unless she wants me naked, but, she also knows that I'd be there to help her and her kids any time needed. So, basically the whole 'men and women can't be friends' is bullshit. It just takes honesty, respect and a correct attitude towards it all, if one side can't handle it, just walk away before anything happens or becomes complicated. In the end, in my worthless opinion, these days it seems too hard for many to be honest or show respect to others. Good luck to you and all who are caught in the mess that is men and women as friends. take care, have fun.
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