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"What do you like in bed?" is not a valid question
Posted:May 17, 2017 10:13 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2017 11:55 pm

OK... We all have preferences that seem to work even when the connection isn't great and when things are less than spectacular in general. However, some rules make potentially great sex shit, when you think you know what the other person wants, but whose rules just changed because of you.

When the connection is AMAZING, the rules go out the window. Each couple or a group is their own mixture of energy, and that energy interacts in a unique way... For instance, giving a blow job can vary from downright nasty to the best thing in this freaking world, and the only point of difference is who you're giving it to. It SHOULD be a big deal, because it is not about whether the girl likes giving blowjobs or not, or whether she likes giving them to you, specifically. Also, if she likes giving them to one guy, doesn't mean she likes giving them to you.

We are all perfect for somebody. At the same time, NONE OF US is perfect for everybody. Some of us are pretty damned good for most people, but even those of us who top the hot lists are not perfect for everybody, although, to be quite perfectly honest and frank... The most desirable people are not perfect for all, because not everyone is perfect for them... As in... Even the "perfect people" are drawn to other perfect people - up to a point... Sometimes casual sex is better with someone you would NEVER want to date regularly, let alone spend the rest of your life with. Here, it seems that the closer to "mr right" a guy is here, the less I want to fuck him and the more I want to date him, so jumping into THAT SPACE directly with someone I regard hot feels weird. I feel like I have to see if there's a real connection first, and if I find that nah, he's absolutely just a pretty shell, then it's OK again... But to be fair, sometimes half empty is Alll OK if what the glass is half filled with is Champaign rather than say... A full glass of hmm... wine that is just started to go off... You know when you sort of go... Uh... "is this good or not?" and you keep trying it until you go... "yeah, no. Toss it." Whereas that half glass full of chilled Champaign, you'll drink that thing to the bottom of it without hesitation, and if it's a half glass, it's still better than none at all, lol.

So you'll give a blow job to your half glass of Champaign, but you'd very reluctantly go down on a full glass of red going off.

And what is Champaign to you is not the same thing for everybody. We all have a different idea of perfection - there is such a thing as "too perfect" for some people. Like a lot of people love each other for their flaws rather than their perfections, because perfect people are boring, but we all love CERTAIN flaws over other flaws, and which flaws we love is individual... And that is a direct effect on how the sex is going to be - instinctively. We already know whether that person is perfect for us or not, both men and women do, men even more instinctively than women, and when the perfection is met.... Fuuuuck you'll go to places you've never gone before with that person, even if with everyone else sex in a missionary with the lights off seem a little bit too much for you.
Love women who love men...
Posted:May 2, 2017 1:49 am
Last Updated:May 17, 2017 10:14 pm

I am through and through a polyandrist man-pleaser and I simply love men. I don't mean I like men, as a gender, I mean I love them, adore them, I want to make them happy. Very anti-feminist of me, I know, but I don't care. I am what I am and I love what I am.

Although I have rejected every friend request by women and M+F couples (as opposed to M+M couples) here so far, I'd love to hear from women whose primary focus is on their guy or their guys. Who are the ones who disappear when they've got a date, who leave the club without saying a word because they found a bloke and to whom the explanation "I found a guy" is enough to make getting friend-dumped for the night is explanation enough.

I want to semi-befriend women who take joy in seeing men happy, sexually excited or gratified, relaxed like a lion laying in the sun just after mating. I am not into women myself, as I said, but I love strip clubs because I love to see the look on the guy's faces when they see these beautiful girls do their thing.

I don't need to feel a BOND to another woman in the way that normal women do, but... I'd think of it more as a collaboration of sorts... Us against the demanding ball-busting bitches that only want to see a guy cry for the sake of their own ego being stroked.

Just saying.
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Now I'm griping about those fake profiles...
Posted:Apr 30, 2017 9:44 pm
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2017 10:03 pm
Although I don't think it's against the TOS or anything to be promoting your services as a sex pro, and I certainly wouldn't mind people being upfront about it if they did, but... I'm getting peeved about something REALLY stupid. I want that #1 spot in my state. It is RIGHTFULLY MINE, and I want it! There's these few people that SEEM TO pay for that top spot though, by sending each other points when they lose the top spot or perhaps using another account to do that. And I don't know, maybe that's fair, I don't know, but if they send the points to one person who then sends them back to the same person... I think Polyamory Date takes a cut from it, I'm not sure, but still. Annoys me.

I don not really know how many of the top accounts there are "cheating", but I find it funny how their fan points suddenly shoot up by a mile when they notice they have lost the top spot. Overtaken them a couple of times, FAIR AND SQUARE.

This is CLEARLY a first world problem and a stupid one at that, but my ego is screaming for justice here! Nobody even wants to see some of those people naked I am quite convinced, and there they are, on the top spots.

If that is not asking for a flame fight, I don't know what is. Maybe I will just block those accounts while I still can get away with saying that before them seeing it. It's not like I want them to be offended, I'm just venting.

There is a block function here, isn't there..?

And I don't really know what is to be considered "a fake profile", I suppose pretending to be after a date only to spring the "you didn't think I do this for free" line on an unsuspecting bloke, would qualify. Then again, I might be considered fake because I've got a blog, a sex blog at that, even if it doesn't run memberships (at the moment at least even though I haven't ruled that option out if there was a fun thing to do about it) and also I've got another blog that DOES run membership subscriptions, but isn't about sex. I mention those blogs sometimes, so that might make me a fake.

Then, does the fact I get more offers than I have time to get to make me a fake, a cock tease, or "all talk", I don't know?

Ah. Yet another existentialist crisis to live with!
Erotic straight male photography - hoooow to do it?!
Posted:Apr 22, 2017 7:55 pm
Last Updated:May 2, 2017 2:03 am

It's really difficult to get tips on what to do with photos on a site like this. The quality sort of drops quite fast when people are trying to see what others are doing and if the first set of photos were poor, so will be the rest of them. Any artists among you, now it's time to snap back to what you are and start thinking from your authentic expression and uplift this site!

Something that we can see here all the time that you MIGHT WANT TO kick to the curb to set yourself apart positively, and, considering how the male-female ratio favors women, you might want to use a few tricks:

1. Close ups of penises.

Although I love a good cock and I do want to see them, there's a difference between an erotic shot of a cock and a documentative one. Also, penis closeups as your primary photo is a worse idea than no photo at all... And all women say this, all men find this hilarious, but still that's the norm here.

Alternatively, if you don't want to show your face, choose ANY other body part for the primary photo. Hands are very erotic, man's neck and shoulders are a huge turn on to many, the obvious answer of the trained abdomen is a sure-fire winner, a bicep works, and, if you can get some artistic, beautifully thought out shot of your forearm, that would probably be a delicious shot even when you're not trained to perfection - but this requires a bit more artistry as it's not exactly the easiest body part to photograph. Forearm, your favorite watch or bracelet should you wear one, there's a few ideas.

If you do something with your hands, (like play the guitar, whoa,) you could use a close up of your hand at work.

2. Shaved cocks

I already complained about this one myself... as a girl, I get a lot of compliments for a partially hairy lady parts, and if there are that many guys who love a bit of hair left, I trust there'll be tons more women who prefer a hairy guy. Trimming is cool and desirable, even, (you know those hair trimmers you'd usually use to crop the head? Yeah, try those with one of those attachments rather than go full bald with a razor.) This is not directly about photos, but a bald cock is a little babyish, particularly a guy with a few extra pounds would probably do without further softening and connotations to a baby boy.

4. If you dare, show your face, PLEASE!

I understand this isn't possible for all of you, but if you run your own company, market to the perverts! Even fractions of the face will be welcome, maybe your chiseled chin with a bit of a scruff, your lips that girls love, your ear and cheek photographed from behind with you slightly looking over your shoulder...

3. The top on, pants off look... Careful with that one.

Although it may work, it is a difficult look to pull off, it works a little better for women, but even for us it is questionable. I've got a couple of shots like that myself, but I am not sure they actually work too well. However... Exposing those bits works alright, just... with a bit of thinking. It's a tough look, even for really good looking and well-trained guys.

4. Try not to over-do "the sexy" approach...

There are some things that should have died a horrible, painful death by now, and all speedo-style underwear should have gone up in flames already, and every male thong variation ever invented. I know this breaks every Mediterranean male heart, but the truth has got to be said. So. Calvin, I'm sending you some more customers of the Mediterranian and South-American background. Alternatively, just quit wearing underwear and go commando. (Oh if the specific pant you've got is too lose for the cock, like it leaves... Space. Eh. Yeah. Bad. Just as a nod to those of you who feel like the cup section can get a little grand-fatherly sometimes, yeah, it can do that if it's measured for a larger guy, there's no reason to emphasize that fact.) And also boxer shorts were still cool in the early 90's, but those times have passed. (It was also the boxer shorts that kicked the speedo-style out of the mix, so if you're still in speedo's that was the 80's when the latin lover boys got their reputation lifted as the ultimate lover, and although I'll still dine on my knees for some Italian any day of the week, I'll have to close my eyes when the speedos are flashed. Also, the white cotton socks are very much from the 80's, so it's time... It's time.)

Some poses....

There's a collection of poor to terrible poses for men out there already, so I'm just going to suggest a few things...

1. Girls maybe erotic goddesses, but please, as a guy... don't try to be a girl.

Masculinity is what you are to a woman. Men don't naturally curve their hips like women do, they might stand on one leg, but they should not be pushing the hip out if they are in their own self. I understand why you do it, but don't bother. You're hot the way you are, the female gender is the one that needs to contort to be just hot enough. LOL.

2. Try to be as closely you as you can, be you, but naked/partially dressed, yeah?

You know how you like girls genuine, we like you genuine, too. The less you pretend, the better. Just toy with who you are in real life and do the same thing naked for photos. (Oh god I just pictured my favorite guitarist playing a show naked and I think I just freaking died a little. In a good way.) Even if you want to keep your identifiable work stuff out of the picture, go without it, but remember who you are, lover boy. You are sweetest and the most delicious the way you are... And a little ridiculous trying to be someone else... And this is not to say "aaah fuck quit hoping to be better than you are, loser" but to say that whatever you are is different to what someone else is and that energy is beautiful in itself - also, the more you get to know who you are, the more you will fall in love with yourself and your sexuality, and the more women will love you.

As a general rule of thumb, don't photograph yourself in positions that you wouldn't take while fully dressed and in the company of other men. Imagine yourself fully dressed, while taking photos - gives you confidence and stops you from "acting gay". (And if you feel awkward about taking photos, just pretend like this is perfectly normal. "I am sitting here with my cock out. Fully normal, lol.")

3. OK. For a sexy photo, take your underwear off but get back into your favorite pants. Whatever you feel the sexiest in - what you would wear on a date, most likely. Wear that. If you are a t-shirt guy, leave the t out of this one, but if you like buttoned shirts, wear it opened up. Now... Open the fly and show us what you've got there for us.

4. Naked shots that seem to work quite well is a guy sitting up with his cock in his hand, rather than laid back or partially supported. Like the position Every Girl avoids because our tummy would push out like mad and make us look twice as fat as we actually are. The position we avoid getting into when we're on a date, as we take measures to sit up straight... right? Did you notice? No? Good, you weren't supposed to. So... Guys can use that very position that girls must avoid at all cost, even stockier guys can do that, no probs.

5. Avoid all positions that make you seem submissive - unless you are a sub. Usually, this means leaning forward rather than leaning backward.

Technical stuff

1. Take full body shots or full shots, and then CROP the part for this site later, if you want to stay anonymous. Then share the full shot privately if you are more comfortable with that. There's a lot of simple apps that will do it.

2. Because the mobile phone camera is meant for photographing landscapes or people in full sunlight... Or at least tends to be calibrated for high color contrast or something, it picks up every unflattering pump and a curve and highlights it, or rather, creates a shadow where there is none... At least some cameras do. Your mirror image may be completely different to what your camera shows. That is why I like to use a slight filtering for the photos, to bring them back A LITTLE BIT to reflect reality rather than deceive. An app I do a slight retouch on most of my photos is called Selfie City (for Android) but it MAYBE too heavy handed for guys and make them look a little too polished as the default setting, but you can reduce the filters and "the beautify" -function to be less brutal. (Yeah, I do run my photos through a filter, as most of you can see, but the guys I have met haven not complained, and I still want to look like myself in the photos and mainly use them to reduce the shitty mobile phone camera error as I am too lazy to use a real camera for these. And I am too lazy for makeup too, personally, this is a good alternative for a daily makeup. )

3. Take 30 shots for every 1 photo you publish. The ratio for professional models, by the way, is about 300 shots ON FILM for 4 printed photos, so don't skimp.

4. Use a timer to get away from the camera for the shot or, even get one of those blue tooth remote buttons that you can get for about 5 bucks at a discount store.

5. Use the forward facing camera so you can see what you are doing in case you were not narcissistic enough to notice this option before. (Some of them has a beauty setting inbuilt, which might be enough to soften the tones just enough to not make look like a monster... I don't know how bad it is for guys, but creepers it is terrifying to see yourself as a girl, then, you run to the mirror to check if you really missed all of that... Brrr!)

And finally:

There are NO men who are too ugly to fu... with a little mind to how you present yourself, but there are women that no amount of styling will ever rescue. Therefore, men are more beautiful than women are, so shut up and get to work.

Just in case you're wondering; yes, the cocks here are abnormally large
Posted:Apr 22, 2017 9:43 am
Last Updated:May 2, 2017 2:15 am

I don't know if anyone is wondering, but in case some of you lads are, yes... The guys here are unusually sized. Maybe it's the very thing that draws men to join a site like this, because they know they've got goods that won't leave them in any man's shadow, (thinking Orlando Bloom all of the sudden ) but yeah. Don't worry lads. You didn't suddenly shrink.
Men's idea about other men
Posted:Apr 21, 2017 9:12 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2017 11:55 pm

I find it a bit... Annoying or heart breaking, I don't know which, how men have a horrible idea of what men are like, and it's really the view of women who are not really very clued in on how men (in general) think. It is a very unflattering view, and one that I know comes from women, because I am one and I've heard those same claims and found them largely untrue.

I am also often "the other woman", or the woman who a guy confides in when they have been hurt to the core in their relationships. They confide in me their true feelings about women in general (because they feel I am different and trustworthy, and someone who won't judge) and they often let it rip.

Their view of things isn't that they didn't care for their girlfriend or that they are happy she's gone, or that they can't wait to fuck as much pussy as they possibly can find... Hell no. That is how their women think. What he is experiencing is the feeling of having been used for something (sperm donor, a wallet, a security guard), having been deceived into thinking he had more than just a material or functional value, and that he has, since then, been dismissed.

Things aren't quite as black and white as that, of course, there's communication problems arising from women's tendency of speaking on the level of children (due to the fact they spend a lot of time with them) and their tendency of throwing a tantrum when they need love and care - just like a child. If they aren't getting cuddles when they fly off the handle, they fly off the handle some more. Men don't generally speaking know how to handle that situation because they don't have that yonks old baby minding instinct but do as they'd want to be done to them - give the woman some space, which, to her, feels like abandonment. In return, when the guy can't get space, he starts arguing to make her back off, and she reacts by trying to coddle him and soothe him like a child... NOT a good move.

Luckily we come in two different thinker types that are gender-typical but not gender specific, but if the love is there, the communication problems are more than solvable... But if he has been first coerced into the relationship under the assumption that all men are bachelors until forced to grow up and make a commitment, he's better of leaving and finding someone he actually wants - even if that seems like and implausible option. Better alone than in an unfulfilling relationship! Nobody owes love to anyone, especially if that sacrifice comes as a side dish of asshole who cannot commit when the relationship is over.

Women are very crafty and assertive when forcing men into TRYING on a relationship with them, but they don't know what hit them when the guy calls it quits. Due to the blaming on men who leave relationships, a lot of guys feel like they just have to suck it up and stay regardless of how they might feel in reality, and that is not healthy for anyone.

Women, on the other hand, are more than free to leave a relationship for any god damned reason and be patted on the back for doing so. "Strong independent woman". Man leaving: "a sad loser with a commitment phobia and lack of responsibility." It's 2017 but men are still supposedly their wife's keeper.

I'm tired of man-bashing, especially when it comes from other men. No. I'm simply tired of man-basing, period. Women are far from without blame in this scenario, and it's time men give up trying to lower themselves to the expectations of a female. I want men to feel valuable and deserving of actual, genuine love, too, not just see themselves as failing love machines when the woman fails to ignite love and passion in him but demands him to function without giving him fuel to do it with.

I am also tired of all "commitment phobia" claims, or whatever intimacy issue -bullshit. The reason why commitment phobia exists is because people fail to inspire the need to stick together like magnets. If you are wood, don't blame the magnet for not sticking. Become iron, and stop blaming others for being uninspiring.
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Could it be, that I finally had enough of "just sex"?
Posted:Apr 9, 2017 4:12 am
Last Updated:May 22, 2017 11:55 pm

There's a thousand different ways to have just sex with someone. It often goes hand-in-hand with a just a relationship.

I'm picky, so picky so picky so picky.

When I joined, I decided to take a look at my own attitude and simply live a little.

Fuck anyone with a pulse.

I've always felt like I need to lower my bar a lot for people, like... In everything. I ALWAYS feel dissatisfied with people.

And yet, I am so deeply in love with some it's never going to go away.

People tell me to lower my bar. Lower it FURTHER.

That's not a good feeling.

I thought it might be fun to have casual sex with people who do not really meet my ridiculous standards for a deep connection.

It's not like I haven't been around before, but I was always picky. If he wasn't fit to be a male model, he had no chance in hell with me. To top that off, I tend to go for men whose IQ tops Mensa requirements by a mile, who are creative and quirky and what not.

I thought I'd develop a fetish for ugly men, and I managed that. I did that. I wrote a post earlier...

But an ugly man has to have one quality over all to be good for anything: He has to be a shameless pervert and a dom to get me anywhere. It's hard to find people who would have abandoned all sense of decency and what women often call "respect for women".

I'm going to have to make you all read my blog for a bit before I will do anything with anyone I'm not head over heels in love with, so you'll freaking know what you're getting yourselves into.

I'm not your average woman.

And as I said in my profile, I'm not a femdom, therefore I won't teach you what to do with me, but I'll write about how I think. It may liberate you or it may not, I don't know.

Let's see where this leads as I have no idea.

I'm just bored with... just sex.

I need my mind blown (and not by the duration of time a guy is willing to give me cunnilingus. My new pet peeve.)

The Dom in my head is not pleased with me writing this by the way. He doesn't like it that I'm displeased. He likes me gagging for it, yet he's the one who is telling me not to sleep around before he gets to me again. Make up your mind... (He also controls how much I want sex and when. Interesting relationship we've got.)
Changing for someone in the short term vs the long term
Posted:Mar 28, 2017 5:23 am
Last Updated:Apr 9, 2017 4:16 am

People think about changing for someone in different ways... To some, it is logical to make a change for someone when one assumes the change will pay off in terms of a long term relationship, while others might adjust their behavior and expression in the short term knowing that this is just a short term relationship we're in, and we only need to tolerate this unnatural state of being temporarily. On a sex site, this is particularly important to know which way you swing.

I personally change (or hide difficult/weird/complicated aspects of myself) only in the short term, while I assume that in the long term, once I find the men who I love more than anything, I will be loved for exactly who I am as a person and a personality, but I do not expect that to happen in the short term with men who are here mainly to get their rocks off by watching me and by, in a way, imagining me to be something that they'd want me to be... And that is what I am here for, I enjoy being the object of men's fantasies, even when I know they are creating a personality for me that isn't entirely real.

You imagine I DON'T have childish hobbies, but I do. You imagine my home is sexy and furnished in a way that you would just loooove to see how I live, but that is not true. My home is not sexy for me, let alone you. (There's an area that is pretty hot, and it's not my bedroom. I don't have a bedroom which makes things awkward.)

My photos that I share here, although realistic, are shared with the mindset that I do not want to put you off by giving you The Worst Photos that can be taken of me but the best ones, you know? I expect my playmates to offer me the same courtesy, even with the risk of "looking a bit gay". Just to fit a certain standard, you know? Then again, I have a thing about ugly guys and what not, but that's beside the point of this post.

I don't really care what my playmates here are like. I may get a pleasant surprise that someone plays with toys for a living, or that they're full on into heavy rock like me, or that they breed dogs, or that they make movies, or draw or paint sexy nudes, or whatever... But I don't expect that to be the case. I am not looking for a long-term partner here, necessarily, I might find one of my ultimate lovers here - and I'm not going to be keeping count - but I also am not expecting that to happen. All I wish for is for us all to enjoy each other's photos and sexiness, without adding too many expectations to it.

Therefore... In the short term, I like beautiful photos of beautiful men, sexy stroke of a hard beautiful cock... But I am not quite as excited about gory, downright ugly displays of sexuality that simply makes you despair for the state of the human race.

And still, I love those same men drooling all over my photos and videos, telling me how much they want their cock inside me, and I am more than willing to give a guy I'd never normally sleep with that pleasure of entering me - depending on nothing but aligning calendar schedules and a place to do that in/at.

I joined this site a few weeks ago and reminded myself to not get too fussy about things and to just enjoy myself... And I have done that, thoroughly. I love this site. And yet... I feel like I again have to put in a fair warning and to say... DUUUUUDES. We're not going to get married unless you are freaking special AND also quite hotted up by the idea of polyandry!
Keeping one's personality and sexuality separate...
Posted:Mar 27, 2017 2:24 am
Last Updated:May 22, 2017 11:55 pm

People sometimes get surprised when others treat them as sex objects alone and do not care about their personality. Yet, when you browse a site like this, you notice how many people offer nothing about themselves in their profiles, all it is is cocks and balls, with next to nothing in terms of personality in there. The need to separate one's self from the act of sexual 'perversions' is there, even on a site like this.

I don't think I've ever had a second date in my life without going all the way on the first date - if there ever was time for the first date, either, considering the amount of men who I've met at a bar and went straight to bed with them. Never once have I felt objectified or like "just a sex toy" with a guy, and quite frankly, sometimes that's how I want to feel like. The reason is, that I don't want to hide my personality most of the time, I'm not ashamed for the fact that I am This, but also That. That there is many sides to myself and that they all come together as who I am as a whole. That should not be a surprise to anyone that intelligent, whole people have a full spectrum of sides to themselves, but still a lot of people try to completely suppress their sexuality or separate it from who they are failing suppression.

The reason why men don't treat me as a sex object is because I actually DO have a genuine personality that is mine and mine alone, it is not some standard cut of traits that a decent girl has to have in order to be a grown up woman, and every man and every genuine personality can point out the traits all women try to portray and possess, whether they're real or not, and if they can't muster them up, feel sick about who they are and how much they fail to fit in the expected mould, and the more their friends, who they say they love, fail to fit into the mould the more they fear for her: "OMG she doesn't know how to be a standard female!!!" and try to help her (force her) to fit that same god damned cookie cutter mould as a favor to her... What man could ever love a woman with an actual personality, anyway?

The amount of bullshit that people collect around themselves just to appear normal is mindboggling and stupifying. They think they are being adult when in fact they are simply being fake and boring and predictable and mind-numbing in their lack of creativity or personality. They say the right things, do the right things, hold the right opinions, and think they are doing a stellar job at being an awesome woman.

And, surprise surprise, nobody fucking cares.

So they get frustrated, start yelling at their husbands and their kids for their failure to appreciate how awesome they are and then they wonder why nobody is really close to them or doesn't understand their personality.


And I am frustrated because I feel like there's this band of idiotic women surrounding me trying to tell me how much they "love me" and want to "help me", but in reality what they feel is fear of the unknown and they simply haven't got a clue how a person like me can exist in the society, when I do nothing the way they have, in their infinite wisdom (read: idiocy) decided to be for the best.

If I ever get over this frustration and hatred of these women, I'll be surprised.

I think I derailed from the topic, but that's how I roll.
No Photo
Posted:Mar 26, 2017 12:14 am
Last Updated:Apr 20, 2017 7:23 am
She used to hate it, those profiles without photos, or showing nothing but cocks and balls or, if you were lucky, bums. This one had no photo at all, nor did his word make an impression, bland. Boring. However... She didn't feel threatened by him, or that there was anything off with him, he just probably wasn't very good at this. His age... 15 years to her senior, that's all she could make out. He asked her to come meet him at his hotel room that night. At first she was going to give him the standard reply, “not without a photo”, but this time... She thought... “live a little”. She decided to go, and no matter what...

Knowing how ill-advised this decision was, she sent an invitation to her friend to track her on her phone should anything weird happen. She told her to call the cops to this location should she not get back to her in 5 hours, of if the tracker on her phone vanished, or started moving somewhere as in a car. She wasn't going to get into a car without telling her. Then she told her friend; “no lectures”, and left.

She arrived at the hotel and was given the room key at the desk, he told the reception she was expected. She was wearing a short skirt, but nothing special, low-key; she hated girls looking like sluts especially when they were acting like ones, so her own clothes were low key, but sexy. She had left her underpants home. The door would be unlocked, he had written, so she had no idea what to expect. A man tied up in the bed by one arm, lacking help, or perhaps he'd be wearing a bra and stockings, whatever she'd find, she'd let him fuck her. That's what she had decided. No photo could only mean he had to hide from someone or he wasn't very attractive. Even when hiding, they'd post a photo of something if they were attractive; their back or their buttocks or something, this one had nothing on the profile.

She wasn't wrong. She opened the door and walked in. He was sitting down in the only chair in the room, by the window, with a phone in his hand, and when she got in, he showed her what he'd been looking at. One of her photos of her pussy generously spread for the camera. He took his hand out of his suit pants, he was clearly aroused, he'd been stroking himself.

Deliberately, she said nothing, simply looking at his well-fed exterior, well-groomed hair and suit that all spoke of a position in a company that would stop him from using his photo, but he was stocky, something she'd normally never consider for herself, considering she was a pretty girl, slender and beautiful, she could have any man she wanted... Her legs tingled. He wasn't ugly, but he was nowhere near as good looking as her men normally were. He wasn't so ugly that she would feel aroused by the simple thought of a beast between her legs... But she had decided to go through with it, and the fact she wasn't the slightest bit attracted to this man was exciting, she knew in a minute she'd spread her legs for him, and let him enter her, with no compensation, no strings attached, just because she decided so.

He seemed bewildered. Uncertain.

She sat on the bed in front of him and waited. She pressed her legs together, as she was looking at the bulge in his pants. She was acutely aware of the fact she was not wearing underwear, and that he knew already what her pussy looked like, the size of her breasts, the fact that she had a fantasy of men taking her rough because she'd written that into her profile. She knew nothing about him.

He leaned forward, put the phone down on the armchair and put his hands on her knees. He looked in her eyes as he pushed her legs apart, showing him the state of her pussy; flowing. His eyes on her face made her want to pull her legs together again, but he was assertive when he slowly dropped his eyes to see what she wanted to hide all of the sudden.

He looked in her eyes again.

“Don't move.” He said, took his hands off her and took his phone, opened a phone app and took a photo of her opened pussy, and her, full view.
He showed her the photo, then, continued to share it on the site. The caption read: “The pussy I'll fuck tonight. The BEFORE picture.” Then, he sent it and showed her the post on his profile.

“Slut.” He said, grinning, friendly. He pushed her back onto the bed, and raised her skirt all the way up to her hips, widening her legs a bit and without much a warning, pushed his fingers inside of her easily, as she was flowing. He started to feel like she needed to be punished for being too easy, but he didn't want to spend any effort on her... after all, she was easy.

He reached up to push her top off her breasts, and she just laid there, completely passive, but her back was curving up, giving her an erotic posture, effortlessly showing him she was clued in... With him. He took another photo.
“Beautiful pussy I'm about to fuck” he captioned. Then, he opened his pants, grabbed his cock and pulled it out but didn't undress himself. He exposed only the required tool. Without frills, he made his way into her, making her gasp as a complete stranger entered her, without shame or consideration, he fucked her hard, her pussy, that one organ, while squeezing her breast equally hard, biting her neck hard enough to leave his teeth marks on it. She started cumming almost as soon as he'd entered her. She felt so completely slutty. He was nothing like her men usually were, unconcerned, he didn't think of her as the future Mrs. Him like most men thought of her, she was just a cunt, just a pussy to fuck for him, a cheap slut that he picked up on an adult dating site. Her cunt was throbbing already, as she orgasmed just before he offloaded himself into her.

He laid still for a moment, then, with a heavy gasp of an obese man, he got up and grabbed his phone again to take a photo.

“Open the legs so everyone can see my cum oozing out of you.” He said, and she obeyed. With the orgasm gone, she felt normal again, and the reality of it all was easier to grasp. She widened her legs, thinking how men would react to it. Good? Bad? Slut?

He didn't say much, just grabbed her legs, told her to turn around and pulled her off the side of the bed to kneel over it. He ensured her shirt was well out of the view of anything important, sat back for a moment, taking a picture, starting to undress himself.

He took his belt off the loops and slapped her ass with it, hard, without a warning, and she shook with the surprise of the strike.

“Oh,” She gasped, uttering the first word since she got in.

He was getting hard again, and this time, he was completely naked. He sat beside him, exposing himself well, then, set his phone camera on a timer, he took a picture of himself like a trophy hunter beside his kill, with his hand on her ass, sent the photo with a caption: “This slut is letting a man this ugly fuck her. No payment.” Then, another one with his finger just inside her anus, as she was gasping for breath at his delightful disrespect of her body.

He sent the photo: “Ass or pussy?” he asked his suddenly growing friend count. “Pussy first, just to get wet, then load her anus with your cum.” was the almost unanimous answer.

She waited what was to come to her.

Her privacy was certainly being violated. He took photos for the audience of his fingers up wherever he wanted them, of himself with her, on her, all the while as she laid on her belly waiting.

When he had had enough, and he was rock hard again, he thrust his cock easily inside of her vagina, spread her juices up her anus, and started pushing into her anus without asking her if it was ok.

Her rim gave way to him easily, as her resistance to him was non-existent, a man, a cock, the disrespect. He took a photo of her ass wrapped around his cock and sent it to his followers begging for a video that he declined. “You fuck her yourself, losers, and get your own god damned video” he replied, before proceeding to fuck her anus deep as her hole begged for more.

He shot his load, took evidence, shared evidence of her sluttiness, before he informed her he'd have a shower before proceeding. “Get undressed” he commanded, as he disappeared into the shower.

She contemplated he opion of leaving and giving him the dissatisfaction of finding the bed empty, but her good girl pleaser -attitude kicked in. She was getting tired, and although she was still turned on, she didn't know how long he'd want to keep this up, he was much older than her, and she didn't think men his age should be able to pick themselves up too many times after cumming, but he didn't seem all that worried, and certainly there was no issues with his cock staying hard.

She undressed herself, and thought to make her way to the window. She opened the curtains and risked being seen naked at the window – they were pretty high up so anyone watching should be using binoculars so they wouldn't mind.

He got out, saw her at the window.

“Oh, that's hot.” He said and grabbed his phone again. “You're going to get so fucked girl.” He said as he snapped another photo. “I'm going to tell them your username now...” He said without asking for a permission.

Once done playing with the phone, he put it back down. “Onto the bed, sweetheart.” He commanded, and she obeyed.

“Missionary? Huh?” He grinned, got on top of her, buried his cock deep inside of her as he wrapped her clitoris in all of his pussy thrusting body fat making her cum hard as a thanks to her having been a really bad girl.

My pussy in the middle of writing this...

Just to check... Is there men who think they HAVE TO do these things..?
Posted:Mar 24, 2017 7:09 pm
Last Updated:Mar 26, 2017 12:15 am
Reaching this ripe age of 40, I have realized that there's a lot of things we do in life that we think others insist we do or that we must do, even though they actually don't like it that much or at all, but tolerate it thinking others want it that way. So I'll just open up a few pet peeves I've got about sex and see if I could find the guys who "do it all wrong" for most women, but whose natural inclination is to do it right for me...

Women who feel the same, please raise a hand if you're reading, just to see if I'm alone here or not...

1. "Every" guy I talk to seems to think that what women want in bed is a man who is willing to give her hours of cunnilingus followed by an hour or two long pounding resulting to multiple orgasms.

Hmm... Although I love to spend a weekend naked in bed with a guy I can't get enough of until our bits are so sore we fuck crying (that happened once, but I've wanted a repeat ever since) I do think the emphasis on lasting a million years every time is WAY overboard. I actually take it as a huge compliment when a guy can't hold it in, I LOVE it! Biggest rush.

What I love even more is no emphasis on who comes or doesn't come at all, and just see which one of us gets there first... And then do it again until we're both satisfied and bored with the idea of another go or... have to stop because life...

And the cunnilingus... What waste of cock! I can get an orgasm from clitoral stimulation anytime anywhere, but a real cock is a real cock! I think I'm missing a gene that would make me think "oh my god he's licking me down there..." but it simply doesn't flip a switch for me, most of the time, I do cum, but it's the same as masturbation, nothing special... The only time I enjoy it, when I know it's HIS pleasure he's thinking about, and he treats it like it was his favorite food, and if I resist, he'll simply ignore it and eat me anyway - because he enjoys it. Forced into it...

2. speaking of force, I love pressure to do it. I love men begging for it, pressuring me for it, coercing, and even forcing it. Too bad I don't often put up a fight because I fear he'll stop if I give him the slightest bit of trouble. I HATE the feeling when I start feeling I should probably sleep with him to REWARD him for something, particularly making a long trip and spending money on just to seeing me, and if he doesn't put the pressure on me to fuck him because he made all this effort, I feel like the energy is going the wrong direction and it's not working anymore. I want him to push into me, not me expanding to be nice to him. I don't want to be nice to people. I want men to be pushy.

3. I want my men to enjoy me. I don't want them to feel I have to enjoy them. I get it, obviously, why people would enjoy that, but I want men to enjoy me, the girl! I do love men, don't get me wrong, I love everything about a male body, and I want my hands all over a hot trimmed male bod, BUT, what ALWAYS gets me off regardless of how he looks is his need to get his cock inside me and to get himself off on me. Especially if a guy isn't handsome, the last thing I want to do is to pretend I'm all hot for his body! I do have an ugly fetish, but the way it works is the kind of beauty and the beast scenario; he knows he's ugly, he has to know he's not a great looking guy and that some men are, and that I would not normally sleep with him... He needs to be cool with the fact we're on a different level, and I need him to want to violate me in a sense. I want him to take me, to pleasure himself with my body, fully knowing that some things about him send shivers of disgust down my body and still I let him fuck me.

4. I need my actual lovers to forgive me for what I am. I need them to know I love them more than anything in the world for the reasons that I do love them (that's between us) but that, at the same time, any guy can talk me into parting my legs for them...

5. I like things simple. I like the missionary more than anyone is allowed to, his weight on top of me, making it impossible for me to move and escape, and him, staying close and hot the whole way through... Changing positions, bleh! So often changing positions is like: "oh fuck I enjoyed that for too long, look at the time, a position must be changed!"

6. Speaking of positions, I love anything with a close connection to the clitoris. Although I love a penetration more than anything, I need my clitoris in on the action, too. And whenever it needs fingers to be included, it's not happy.

7. That leads me to the fact I think men think we need to be pounded... No. A deep penetration with the tiniest of movement grinding against the clitoris... THat's where the magic happens. A guy can go from tip to the base a million miles an hour with the clitoris nowhere to be found and get me nowhere... I don't say anything as I think this is the way men want it, but frankly, I'm not sure if they do. It's certainly not the women, so logically, it has to be the men? And for that, if it is, he MUST KNOW that this is for him only, and be willing to USE me for that purpose. No pretense or expectation a pounding action should get me off - for him and his pleasure only.

8. I love anal, but I hate lubes in general. They change the smells and they are an insult to my ego; I get so wet so fast, that if a guy needs lubes, there's something seriously wrong with our chemistry. A guy should be able to snap his fingers at me, "wet up" and that should do it. (Well, not quite.) So... The point being, for anal penetration, I must be wet enough for victorian porn... Right? They had anal but no lubes. We should be cool with that.

9. Speaking of being wet... I love it when I am NOT wet, too, because I love pain. Ramming it in works for me. You won't manage a second full dry thrust anyway because by that time I'll be flowing.

10. I love being leered at. I love sexual attention and touches... Would love uninvited unshamed ones, too, but our society doesn't allow such straightforwardness. (Trump describing how he can put his hands wherever he wants to... HOT AS HELL!) I love being sexually objectified, truly. That is why I'm here with a clear photo because I love the idea of a guy seeing me out on the town, realizing who I am and thinking... "I know what your pussy looks like... I've seen you." And, perhaps, he could make me aware of that fact, and depending on where we are, demanding to see my nipples live. (Or whatever.)

11. On that note, I'd love a guy to push me into doing something I'd be a little nervous to do... Like I imagine this (photoshopped) photo of me (the background is fake) happened on a date when he insisted I'd hike up the t-shirt and sit like that until he is happy... Obviously, I have to trust him to ensure nobody else sees me like that... Or maybe...?

12. Cock size... Girth is more important than length, and staying in deep is more important than either. The reason why girls like big cocks is because they love pain, so the idea of a big cock being rammed inside them, THAT is the hot factor. It is not required for simple pleasure. However, a long cock can be too long, because the back wall (cervix) isn't exactly full of nerve endings, but it simply feels uncomfortable or not the right kind of painful. And I can only take about 16 cm (little over 6 inches) of cock anyway, so I'm not endlessly deep, my vagina is completely average in size. I'd like to be deeper to ensure there's no cock big enough to reach the back wall, while I could still safely find the thickest thing out there... I haven't found a guy too thick yet, but a few men who are too long. (I'm curious, though, I need to measure myself somehow to know what is the maximum girth I can take. I'll keep you posted. )

13. And then, my final pet peeve; a guy trying to memorize this list and then do as I ask. The point of this list is that HE needs to feel free to do whatever pops into his head and not think about lists and do's and don'ts, because I pretty much love everything men are told not to do and hate everything they've been told to do. I even suspect that it has nothing to do with the act itself, but my love for male pleasure. I love to feel their pleasure that I cause them. Fuuuuck. Therefore, whatever gets them off, get me off, and whatever they think should get me off probably won't.

And other remarks:
If I mention other men, don't feel forced to mention your women. I'm a polyandrist and I hope my men are, too, as in men who get turned on by the idea of other men fucking the same girl and sharing her (with his friend)... I don't want to necessarily know about your women or how big of a stud you are (exceptions apply), but I do love a good story about how much you've been disappointed by other women...

I don't like anything that is done thinking that should 'please me' and here's not a phrase more a turn off for me as "love to please"... It's a bit of a conundrum because men who genuinely love to please now try to be selfish, and pleasure themselves to please me... And that won't work.
How obvious is this to you; normal women want it, too?
Posted:Mar 19, 2017 8:35 pm
Last Updated:Mar 27, 2017 2:24 am

I had a bit of an epiphany this morning. I came to realize that it is not at all clear to all of us, in the most profound way possible, that you don't need a genetic defect or daddy issues to grow up into a woman who wants sex... With MEN. That any normal woman wants love and sex the same way any man wants love and sex, that closeness and awe that it all is. The magic.

And it is not like: "yeah I like sex" with the same tonality as a dieter says "I like vegetables..." It's the same as "Yeah I like chocolate..." Women like it, they want it, they NEED it every bit as much as men do, NORMAL women do... It's just that they're afraid of showing it because they fear that label of a slut and they fear they'll lose your respect for them if they put out too easily.

It's been always obvious to me that I like sex, but I've also think that other women are not that crazy about it. That they simply... tolerate it, or they like to have it occasionally (when drunk and feeling particularly wild), and that their need for a man is more a provider kind of thing... While I, the special one, wanted sex for the sake of sex, and that I loved the closeness with men simply for the love of the beauty of the male body and the beauty of men in general.

Of course, I too fall in love with the special men, but that's beside the point of the post. We all know women want sex with the special ones, but I do think they'd truly want sex with freaking strangers if they were coaxed... And here's the other thing:

Women get ignited by a different trigger than men do. Men see a good looking girl and they get aroused. I don't know - maybe this works both ways, but I'm sure it works this way; Men see a girl, a girl feels his desire for her, the energy ignites and she wants to give him his satisfaction; that would be the normal course of events. Now, it's interrupted by a million different social conditionings, but... Men in strictly anti-sexual nations want women to cover up from head to toe to help them feel their desire in control. Women want men to not leer at them, because being leered at is actually a HUGE turn on and a major ego boost, so if men want women to act chaste, they should not be leering!

I also think it is natural for a woman to want to sleep with a lot of men, and I also believe it is natural for people to form all kinds of polyrelationships, with soo many different varieties to it... But it all starts from realizing that NO, you DO NOT NEED TO buy a woman's love. You don't have to walk on water to be desirable for a woman. She wants you and she is just as confused about how to make you hers, as you are about how to make her yours... We are all confused because one, blatantly obvious misunderstanding between genders...

They do want it.

Ask women if you don't believe it.

Your mother wants it.

Your sister wants it...

and hell, here's the kicker:

your daughter (will) want it too.
Tips for writing erotica
Posted:Mar 9, 2017 11:38 pm
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2017 6:54 pm

I am no pro in writing erotica, but I write a lot otherwise, and every time I read an erotic story, I tend to just opt out writing my own... In the following, I share a few things that simply puts a damper on the whole thing...

Erotica is also VERY personal, so second guessing what others would want to hear is a risky business. Men especially are often too coy about their erotica. They spend a lot of time on caresses and cunnilingus, and it can get a bit boring to read those stories over and over - once you've read one guy giving you oral, you've pretty much lost interest in the rest, how many ways can you twirl your tongue around my clit anyway in text?

Here are some of my observations - and I'm no professional either, but these are what get me off or put me off...

1. Avoid using I and you -phrasing. It gets too personal, and if you don't like what the writer is about to do to you, the rest of the story won't work, either. In contrast, if you write what Harry did to Sally, it doesn't matter nearly as much because Sally clearly enjoyed it and even if it wasn't your cup of tea so Harry is still OK. You can forgive those parts because it's done to Sally, while if it's done to you, you're like... No, I don't think so, mate. It's like having bad sex on your spare time!

2. Try to find more words than fuck, pussy, and cock. Those may well be the best basic words there is, but they jar the ear so bad when used in the wrong context. Too sappy expressions may have the same effect; making love when the couple is at a swinger's party may work in some cases, but even when the encounter is romantic, the expression is unlikely to work.

3. Forget the rules of what SHOULD be sexy. We've all heard that. Find something new that you might not even know anyone else thinking is sexy. See if you can explain something only you think is sexy in a way that will make them want to do the same thing. Challenge yourself. I personally often try to make polyandry sound romantic to traditional monogamists. Often failing.

4. Describe what YOU want to experience, rather than what you expect others to want to experience. That should work a thousand times better than a calculated move.

5. Within the limits of the law, do not avoid dark sexual topics, even if you're a man... Say exactly what you wish you could do and why - don't think others understand... And, use a second party to do the dirty work for you. (As in, don't write in "I" form, it gives you more freedom here.)

6. Again, dropping "I" from the picture allows you to be completely honest in every way about how your characters are feeling. No need to reveal your own inner thoughts when you use a proxy.

7. Describe emotions, connotations, ideas, and focus less on what is physically happening.

8. Don't describe your characters too carefully unless it's important for your story to do so. You may be all for red headed plus sized girls, but that might not work too well for your reader. Let them decide what the sexiest person in the world looks like.

9. If there's a clear point in the story where an item of clothing is removed, make sure you tell the reader what the character is wearing before that item is removed. It gets annoying when you think the character is wearing a shirt, then it becomes clear she is wearing a top instead, and you have to change the way the girl was dressed in your mind to fit the story line.

10. Don't be afraid of using super sexy characters in your writing. It is common people tend to think it's cool to only use normal people in their stories, but hot people need attention, too.

11. Play with religion. It's no longer illegal to fuck a priest.

12. Don't give the exact age of your characters up, unless it's safe, for the sake of the story, to say they're 18 for example. For legal reasons, you might need to allow your reader to freely make the character a little younger than what is legal in their mind... (I swear it is NORMAL to want to go there in your mind.)

13. Don't bring up a condom or the birth control in the story unless you really feel it's necessary to do so, particularly if you feel you HAVE TO in order to be responsible. Don't be responsible. It's a fantasy, not a sex ed class. At the same time, sometimes it is distracting to know this couple is having sex in the middle of the mall on a Tuesday afternoon, knowing there'll be a lot of kids around at that time... Right? Make sure your characters have a THEORETICAL chance to get away with their indiscretions in the real world.

14. Drop your pretense. If you think fucking a 20-year old you paid for it when you're 55 is hot, tell it as it is.

15. Build your dream characters, particularly emotionally. What are they like? Is your perfect guy emotional? What about your perfect girl? Really? Are they a bit more bad boys and bad girls rather than these chaste girls like in 50 Shades of Gray where no bloke in their right mind would have wanted to fuck that girl. Drop the virgin worshipping unless you feel it yourself, and get back to virgin defiling that we all like to do. (Joking.)

16. Study your emotional conflicts regarding sex... Sad or sexy? Girls, guys LOVE a girl who is baffled, insecure, and rattled, no need to hide that. Girls love guys who feel they are falling in love with a slut, jealous of her and what not... Again, don't let your main man be too much of a stud if he isn't.

17. Consider not writing the whole story but simply setting the scene for the events to take place so your reader can finish themselves up with that idea...

18. Taming people... People love the idea of the one they want deciding to TAME them for their own emotional and sexual needs. Imagine the hottest person you know, and now, imagine them wanting to use you for their sexual and romantic needs rather than the other way around... Hot, right? Do not fear to mix romance and love with the dirtiest fantasies there are.

19. Imagine the unraveling of the reservations, the boundaries coming lose, no matter if she's a virgin or whatever, we all tend to have our hangups. Imagine describing it when years of unsatisfying sex, your main character is finally being satisfied...

20. Do not share stories that are supposed to be "true stories" that simply make your readers think "Oh I'm so inadequate"... Really puts a damper on that boner...

OK, enough. You got the gist of it!
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