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Play moves I don't respond well to... FYI
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Play moves I don't respond well to... FYI I am not like most women. I do not have claws. I have NO INTEREST chasing you down and wrangling you out of the hands of other women simply to prove my own self-worth. If I'm going to do that, I have to be DAMNED CERTAIN that you love me with the wholeness of your being, and that you actually WANT me to come and get you for myself, but for that kind of certainty, a lot of things must be in place first. I do not need to prove my self-worth by getting the man "I can't have", therefore, if you PLAY hard to get, I will assume you are not that interested in me and I will move on easily. The more I like you, the more readily I will accept the fact that men like you would be so sought after that they don't really get too excited over one night out or whatever, and that they've got plenty to choose from and I simply didn't make the cut. No issue, I've got my own ranking system going, and a lot of great guys won't make the cut. That's called life, and I'm more than OK with it. This means that if you're trying to make me wait in order to make me want you more, you'll find the opposite effect will happen, I'll simply know you don't really want me - and I do want my men to want me. It doesn't mean you'll blow your chances forever, it's just that for as long as you're not chasing me, I'm not really worried about getting you. The way I think is "you'll come to me if and when you're ready if you want me" and if you won't come to me, I assume you're not ready or simply don't want me or the lifestyle I have in mind. I am trying to go against my own natural way sometimes and express my interest in a guy, but trust me, when I'm going out of my way to say "I fucking want you" that's probably VERY lame compared to a girl who is simply trying to prove to herself she can have any man she wants, like all her self-worth depended on it. I don't get "ticked off" by a guy ignoring me, I get... Sad and disappointed maybe, but not angry. I may get irritated for being played though as if he was thinking I am a moronic little twat with a point to prove if that makes anyone feel any better.  Jealousy games also will fall short with me; I sleep with a lot of guys, so I have no business judging you if you do, too. However, I am a polyandrist, and the existence of other women mean either nothing to me, or I will let go because clearly, you've got stuff covered. A polyandrist woman has very little leverage to force a guy into a relationship anyway, so either you want me or you don't, it HAS TO be your call, all I can say is "not you mate" but I cannot insist that it WILL HAVE TO BE you. The more I value you, the less I'd simply ASSUME you'd love me or my lifestyle because I'm so fucking awesome, right? I will NEVER force or coerce a guy to stay with me because I'd like to know being with me is not some form of a jail term but an actual pleasure for him. So... The move that works with me... Keep talking to me. Show me you're actually interested in me. The more messages you'll send, the more I'll like it, particularly if I like you. I like it when people simply tell me what's on their minds, without a lot of pretenses or pretending to be casual about it. All aloof and nonchalant. I don't need you to be super witty or funny or thought out all the time, if I really like you, I will coo over a hello more than I will get excited about a full blown wining and dining with expensive gifts to boot, I don't care, my love is not for sale, I don't care about ANYTHING but the depths of your being, and if you show that to me, I'll love you for it... And having said that, if I'm truly in love with you, the kind of deeply that I don't care if you feel like giving me X should tie me to you forever, because I'd tie myself to you anyway, but I will never fall for a guy because he'd buy me stuff, if you know what I mean. From a guy, I don't already love to my core TOO expensive gifts or elaborate gestures only make me feel obligated, and that feeling sucks monkeys ass. I fucking LOVE it when a guy tells me he's read my blogs or googled my name to find out more. THAT shit gets me. Of course, you'd have to actually read the stuff, and I know from that that he's actually into me... At least was until we met, right? I write a lot, and because it takes time to actually wade through this stuff, it means a great deal. I love to know people read what I write, particularly those who I have a romantic or sexual interest in... If you're the right one for me, there is NO WAY you could get too clingy or needy. NO WAY. If I wish to bind myself to you for life, then there's NOTHING you can over-do to fuck that up. But I will chase away people who will get too close (and there's no 'too soon' about it, I fall in love at first sight or very soon after, or not at all, and quite frankly... A guy who is certain he wants me is a turn on for me, not the other way around... but obviously this is not an invitation to fake that feeling). I don't like the games that much, but I'm starting to kind of understand the point of them a bit better when they're a fun addition to it, but when it's just plain insecurity and "I wonder if calling her sooner than 3 days will get me off the list..." -shit... I don't like it. I like it when men go nuts over me. I figure you might too, but there's this catch... If I get overly excited about a guy, they'll easily interpret it as "she's insane" or "does this with all men" or something similar. But no, I don't... But that is the reason I don't over-do this myself, and I know there's a similar fear in guys as well, hence I'm just saying how I feel about it. And no. No matter how much I fall for you at "hello", I'm not turning monogamous again. Not even for the greatest love of my life - who, by the way, is a polyandrist by his natural alignment, whether he's aware of it or not... Wouldn't be the greatest love of my life if he wasn't. If they weren't. |
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