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Men's idea about other men
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Men's idea about other men I find it a bit... Annoying or heart breaking, I don't know which, how men have a horrible idea of what men are like, and it's really the view of women who are not really very clued in on how men (in general) think. It is a very unflattering view, and one that I know comes from women, because I am one and I've heard those same claims and found them largely untrue. I am also often "the other woman", or the woman who a guy confides in when they have been hurt to the core in their relationships. They confide in me their true feelings about women in general (because they feel I am different and trustworthy, and someone who won't judge) and they often let it rip. Their view of things isn't that they didn't care for their girlfriend or that they are happy she's gone, or that they can't wait to fuck as much pussy as they possibly can find... Hell no. That is how their women think. What he is experiencing is the feeling of having been used for something (sperm donor, a wallet, a security guard), having been deceived into thinking he had more than just a material or functional value, and that he has, since then, been dismissed. Things aren't quite as black and white as that, of course, there's communication problems arising from women's tendency of speaking on the level of (due to the fact they spend a lot of time with them) and their tendency of throwing a tantrum when they need love and care - just like a . If they aren't getting cuddles when they fly off the handle, they fly off the handle some more. Men don't generally speaking know how to handle that situation because they don't have that yonks old baby minding instinct but do as they'd want to be done to them - give the woman some space, which, to her, feels like abandonment. In return, when the guy can't get space, he starts arguing to make her back off, and she reacts by trying to coddle him and soothe him like a ... NOT a good move. Luckily we come in two different thinker types that are gender-typical but not gender specific, but if the love is there, the communication problems are more than solvable... But if he has been first coerced into the relationship under the assumption that all men are bachelors until forced to grow up and make a commitment, he's better of leaving and finding someone he actually wants - even if that seems like and implausible option. Better alone than in an unfulfilling relationship! Nobody owes love to anyone, especially if that sacrifice comes as a side dish of asshole who cannot commit when the relationship is over. Women are very crafty and assertive when forcing men into TRYING on a relationship with them, but they don't know what hit them when the guy calls it quits. Due to the blaming on men who leave relationships, a lot of guys feel like they just have to suck it up and stay regardless of how they might feel in reality, and that is not healthy for anyone. Women, on the other hand, are more than free to leave a relationship for any god damned reason and be patted on the back for doing so. "Strong independent woman". Man leaving: "a sad loser with a commitment phobia and lack of responsibility." It's 2017 but men are still supposedly their wife's keeper. I'm tired of man-bashing, especially when it comes from other men. No. I'm simply tired of man-basing, period. Women are far from without blame in this scenario, and it's time men give up trying to lower themselves to the expectations of a female. I want men to feel valuable and deserving of actual, genuine love, too, not just see themselves as failing love machines when the woman fails to ignite love and passion in him but demands him to function without giving him fuel to do it with. I am also tired of all "commitment phobia" claims, or whatever intimacy issue -bullshit. The reason why commitment phobia exists is because people fail to inspire the need to stick together like magnets. If you are wood, don't blame the magnet for not sticking. Become iron, and stop blaming others for being uninspiring. |
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Hey there, I like your thinking! Sounds like you have thought about relationships and how they work and don't work and must say I agree with most all of it! I bet your a cool lady and you know what you want, when you want it and who you want it from and think that's the way it should be!
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